What's with the casual hate for anime around here?
The short answer is that anime is bad.
The long answer is that a lot of the time these threads here are laser focused on Shonen anime, or anime for young boys. So you've got folks in their 20s and 30s watching My Hero Academia and wondering why the characters are paper thin and why every problem is resolved by Deku crying about friendship and breaking all his bones, and meanwhile they watched Naruto over a decade ago and wilded even though Naruto is the exact same kind of story.
Another contributing factor is that anime discussion very rarely puts its best foot forward, often as a result of that Shonen focus, so newbies who heard about these cool cartoons with long running fantasy/sci-fi plots and sick-ass fights want to know where to go and get recommended shows that, fairly often, get really weird really fast. Spy x Family, a manga running in Shonen Jump, is a series I consider to be a modern classic, except I don't know how to recommend it to anyone but other anime fans because one of the major characters is the younger brother of the series' female lead, and his defining character trait is that he wants to fuck his sister and is so obsessed with her that he hates her daughter on the grounds that she's taking her attention. If I try to shill it, do I go "look it's fine, he's only in like 10 chapters. There's not that much incest" when people who aren't into anime are used to a 0% amount of incest in anything they enjoy?
At the end of the day the kind of person who's going to be willing to make blanket judgments of anime is the kind of person who isn't really interested in the first place. Maybe they're not into what can be broadly defined as "the typical anime look", maybe the focus on young protagonists is irksome, maybe they used to love it and got burned. It's easier to make those calls when they're outsiders and don't have a vested interest in this kind of media, like how the entire American comic book industry for decades got boiled down to superheroes owned by two companies, so even though non-superhero comics have existed for about a century, it's still real easy to judge the entire industry as that place where Batman appears in a million issues where nothing ever happens.
My advice is that if we want to get newcomers into anime (and judging by the thread's topic, that isn't really hard), give 'em the good shit. Cowboy Bebop, Pluto, Wotakoi, Vinland Saga, Goodnight Punpun, 20th Century Boys. Show them while, yeah, Creepy Anime Bullshit does exist, there's also a lot of really good series that aren't filled with Creepy Anime Bullshit and can be enjoyed without fear of cringing so hard you eat your own lips.