I never got that impression. Parents looking for casual stuff make it clear. This is just, hey hope to get to know you, but sometimes I can't go out because I have a kid, they're my priority."My kids come first ALWAYS."
I'm sure it's just meant to convey "I'm a responsible mom," but it also comes across as, "I don't want/have time to invest in a relationship."
You forgot "No hook ups"I swear like 90% of the profiles I've seen online have the words I'm listing below.
- The Office
- Game of Thrones
- Friends
- Wine
- Adventure
- Harry Potter
- Hiking
- Too shy to message, so message me!
It makes me feel like I'm viewing the same person's profile over and over with different pictures.
Statistically, no Asians is more likely.
That shit an instant swipe left. Being black I just assume she's looking for some tall white asshole. I feel like I'd probably swipe left if I was white for it sounding very basic."Just a Pam Beesly looking for her Jim Halpert!"
Welcome to using dating apps in the midwest.
Could not believe the amount of snapchat dog filters, though that was a handy filter if it was their main or one of only a couple photos
Just fucking why
I never got that impression. Parents looking for casual stuff make it clear. This is just, hey hope to get to know you, but sometimes I can't go out because I have a kid, they're my priority.
Eh ... I always wonder about that.
I swear some are just trolling. Ive seen 6 pictures in someones profile with 4 plus people in each one not having a clue which one the profile is for. At some people specify it's a group.Mention of 'fur babies'
Or the 'classic' I'll probably like you for your dog
Also having an animal does not make up for a lack of personality.
Filtered pics.
All your pics are group ones and I don't know which one you are.
Using any picture more than a few months old. I've seen women who used 2 yr old pictures.
??? All right, I don't what scenario you're imagining where that's a bad thing. It'd be weird if someone prioritized me over their kids.My sister's now-husband said that way back in the day, before they got married, and it very must translated for him that his kids come first. Always. Even when it is an unreasonable scenario, or unfair.
I would never fucking marry someone if they said that to me, seeing what I've seen with that. Huge red flag.
How do you know?
I was gonna say it, but I've started enough shit with people on this forum.
Because the part that says white/Caucasian is most likely talking about their own ethnicityI like how I post my pet peeve being heavy racial bias being passed off simply as "preferences", but what catches on here is the bad UX...
App developers enabling racism. Amazing.
It's not, we did the back and forth already.Because the part that says white/Caucasian is most likely talking about their own ethnicity...
No, I took that screenshot and the app has a category called "He/She's looking for" with what is listed below. Other profiles list multiple races in their preferences, sometimes every race but black people.Because the part that says white/Caucasian is most likely talking about their own ethnicity...
I think the use of the 'I' in I drink moderately throws off the perception. I read it as going from looking for a man blah blah to then going to 'I smoke occasionally and I drink moderately"No, I took that screenshot and the app has a category called "He/She's looking for" with what is listed below. Other profiles list multiple races in their preferences, sometimes every race but black people.
I wish people would actually look at the picture for what it is, especially when I took the time to annotate it with underlining the key points instead of trying to dismiss the problem.
Ok, has any of you ever seen people specify they prefer non-whites in dating profiles?
I'm laughing on the outside but raging on the insideI was gonna say it, but I've started enough shit with people on this forum.
I've seen a woman with "message me first" on Bumble. It was really something.I think the most annoying thing about tinder/bumble are the posts, "Not on here often. Add me to Instagram: xxxxx" Fuuuuuuuccck ooooooff.
they send out 20+ "hey"-messages and the hottest out of all the replies gets the date. it's like dating battle royale!You know what bothers me most about people on the app: when they message you first with something very generic, you reply, and then they just drop off the face of the Earth. Like why even bother to message me with some boring shit if you weren't even going to respond to whatever I put.
It's the most rigged version of a battle royale ever made.they send out 20+ "hey"-messages and the hottest out of all the replies gets the date. it's like dating battle royale!
You would probably think that someone whose intelligence is in the 91st percentile might be smart enough to know that blathering on about how high you scored on your GREs makes you look like a self-important blowhard, but I guess not. Big kudos on listing "My self" on a list of things you could not do without.About Me
Me, a Haiku
A light from afar
Shines ever so distant but near,
You can't contain it
I'm interested in meaningful relationships with new friends and possibly romantic interests. But I don't make decisions to invest my self into social relationships that I believe will be here today, and gone tomorrow. If you have my friendship, it's forever.
I took time to write everything in this profile because it matters to me. So if you don't have the time to read it and think about what any of it means, then that's great because I will have effectively weeded you out. If you say you've read it and understand it, I will be able to discern if you actually have based on any conversation that follows. My IQ has consistently been scored between 110-120. That means I exist 1 to 2 standard deviations above the mean. My GRE scores placed me in the 91st percentile for analytical reasoning (which is great because I'm an analyst by profession), about 80th for verbal reasoning and 70th for quantitative. And I took that after the age of 30 with only a month of review as I also prepared for my board certification exam, while raising a toddler and a teenager, and working 50-60 hours a week. Intelligence isn't everything. But the point is, my mind is very sharp and my perseverance and dedication are above par. I finished all advanced degrees Magna and Summa Cum Laude.
Six things I could never do without
Autonomy - my autonomy, your autonomy, the autonomy of every living being, not just humans, but every living being
My self - yes, I am critically important to me. Because, well, I can't live without me.
The sun - could any of us? I'm pretty sure we all die without the sun. And I love the way it caresses my soul.
The rain - again, that whole life factor thing. But I love to be inside watching the rain on windows, the smell of it as it makes contact with everything on the earth, and the feel of it when it's cold, warm, misty, and even a downpour. Give me a sun shower any day.
Oxygen - hmm ?? notice a theme? I kind of like this whole living thing. So the essentials to that process I can't live without. Deep breaths daily.
The most private thing I'm willing to admit
I'm still finalizing my divorce. My decision to divorce. It's amicable now. It wasn't always. His decision to be an ass. We weren't ready for marriage. He wasn't ready for so much. I always knew that. He wasn't a citizen. I got pregnant. We knew each other for 7 years prior to dating, we got married. Thought I was infertile. Guess not. Pregnancy and childbirth was a mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually challenging experience. The best of my life. I may do it again.
I would never intentionally be the reason for limiting my daughters ability to choose the extent of her relationship with her father or anyone else for that matter. She is an autonomous being. She's 7 but oh so intelligent and capable. More so than many adults. If I die today, I know I've established a good foundation in her to do well the rest of her life. She is my soul mate and the greatest love of my life.
Yes, your soul mate can be your kid, parent, cousin, best friend, anyone. Yes, you can have dozens of soul mates. It just means they are aligned with the vibrational frequency of your soul.
It seems like their only requirement is being white. They could be an out of shape, unemployed, literal, bum and they'd have a better chance than a non-white dude.
I don't want to sound mean but when I hear somebody talk constantly about The Office and Friends I picture someone who doesn't have very broad entertainment interests or have many hobbies and just spends their free time lounging on the couch browsing the internet on their phone while binging the same sitcoms over and over on Netflix as "background noise." Which is totally fine. But it's not the kind of person I'd want to be with.
look, being nice on dating apps is basically the kiss of death. if you want their attention, you gotta be memorable. something like: "he stopped breathing, should I call the cops? - whoops, sorry that wasn't meant for you."
Not on apps anymore but the sheer amount of people who went to Machu Picchu and rode an elephant will never cease to amaze me.
"Never on here" people are just looking for IG followers and are the only thing I'll swipe left on instantly.Lmfaooooo.
The thing is, while a lot of these people on the apps (in my case women), are probably not as basic as they appear to be, but who the hell knows how to make themselves standout right?
OP really hit the nail on the head, the amount of fucking Office references on profiles is astounding. Then again, no one wants to put in that much effort it seems.
Edit: Never on here. Insta: basicasshit993
"Never on here" people are just looking for IG followers and are the only thing I'll swipe left on instantly.