Yep thought so. Try to get over her, it's not worth it to do all the work yourselfugggg you guys were right, she is flaky. Been to two dates, she seems nice but barely putting any effort to know me. I am the one who has to keep asking her.
Yep thought so. Try to get over her, it's not worth it to do all the work yourselfugggg you guys were right, she is flaky. Been to two dates, she seems nice but barely putting any effort to know me. I am the one who has to keep asking her.
Probably on dating sites that require monthly memberships or a real life match maker (like an actual person you pay). Paying people are more likely to want something serious.Where do you guys/gals go to meet professional singles? Getting real tired of meeting (sorry, no better way of phrasing this really) deadbeats and losers who have nothing going on for themselves, yet they have sky-high standards. I've been using dating apps btw. For the most part, the only thing most of the girls I'm meeting up with wanna do is fuck lol. Was fun in the beginning, but not really my thing anymore. I'm still pretty new to the town I'm living in, so I don't really have any friends here who can introduce me to single women they know.
Probably on dating sites that require monthly memberships or a real life match maker (like an actual person you pay). Paying people are more likely to want something serious.
Shouldn't there be less bots on something like eHarmony, since you do have to pay for it?I've definitely considered something like that (like maybe eHarmony). Afraid of paying money for it and then running into a bunch of bots though 😞.
I feel like your "friendship " was doomed. She just said it to protect herself and soften the blow.Girl I was seeing for awhile all of a sudden said she just wants to be friends. I kinda overreacted.
I think it was because she dealt it to me a week before Valentine's Day and plus I was stressed with schoolwork.
But I managed to tell her I'm fine with being friends after I cooled off a bit.
I told her we should just start fresh as friends since we had a lot of negative stuff in our relationship that probably led up to this. She agreed and everything seemed fine.
And now she just completely stopped talking to me.
Im moving on and talking to other women but it still hurts
Exactly this.I feel like your "friendship " was doomed. She just said it to protect herself and soften the blow.
Just move on.
Not necessarily. I mean, it depends on what you're talking about, but unless it's like sex phone it doesn't have to me as she's 'into you'.If you spend 4 hours on the phone with someone, would you think that there is something there?
Did you already went and meet the other girl in the restaurant?Girl I was seeing for awhile all of a sudden said she just wants to be friends. I kinda overreacted.
I think it was because she dealt it to me a week before Valentine's Day and plus I was stressed with schoolwork.
But I managed to tell her I'm fine with being friends after I cooled off a bit.
I told her we should just start fresh as friends since we had a lot of negative stuff in our relationship that probably led up to this. She agreed and everything seemed fine.
And now she just completely stopped talking to me.
Im moving on and talking to other women but it still hurts
Shouldn't there be less bots on something like eHarmony, since you do have to pay for it?
I was 40 when I got back in the game and Ernest about the same age. We didn't have any problems with dating and it was easier. Your online dating profile photos are everything, so make the. Good and even take pictures specifically for them.
Your status is single, not divorced becuse that what you are single. A man having divorced I and other people here on Era have found it makes some women think YOU must be the cause of the divorce and will start probing you on it. So just avoid that. Mentioning having kids on your profile it's a 50/50 thing, I personally didn't but I would not hide that when we came to talking with each other. Definetly don't have pictures of your kids in profile pictures, just seems like a scummy way using your kids get attention from women, have pics with a dog.
yeah, i learned that quick enough. it hurt but its for the better for sure.I feel like your "friendship " was doomed. She just said it to protect herself and soften the blow.
Just move on.
lol i'm going to stop by this weekend. i've been busy with midtermsDid you already went and meet the other girl in the restaurant?
That's great to hear! Sometimes these things just fall in to place, if on for the short term. EnjoySo, for a change I just want to tell a positive story - I spoke to a girl on a flight to another country. She was from the same town as myself which was weird, because we didn't fly out from there. We just started talking after we left the plane, not during the flight (where we only exchanged a smile or two) and had about 5 minutes until I was advanced by my friends and she went on to see her family. We exchanged numbers and agreed to meet when we'd both be back in town.
When we met, it was almost scary how much of a good fit we are in almost every area that's important to me. We agreed to date un-exclusively pretty fast, can talk about everything so far - without any drama on the horizon whatsoever - and have pretty much the same hobbies.
I'm excited to see where this goes :D
It isn't the "culture". It's the inherent nature of those kinds of applications. If you are using a swipe app for anything more than instant gratification or casual fun, you are doing harm to yourself.Swipe culture seems to be getting worse by the year. Over 20 matches on Bumble in the past two days, only a single one has sent a message, "Hi."
Hinge stays winning.
It isn't the "culture". It's the inherent nature of those kinds of applications. If you are using a swipe app for anything more than instant gratification or casual fun, you are doing harm to yourself.
Swiping purely for validation has of course always been a thing. But it's currently much worse than it used to be, in terms of people matching and then not saying anything at all.
soulSo, for a change I just want to tell a positive story - I spoke to a girl on a flight to another country. She was from the same town as myself which was weird, because we didn't fly out from there. We just started talking after we left the plane, not during the flight (where we only exchanged a smile or two) and had about 5 minutes until I was advanced by my friends and she went on to see her family. We exchanged numbers and agreed to meet when we'd both be back in town.
When we met, it was almost scary how much of a good fit we are in almost every area that's important to me. We agreed to date un-exclusively pretty fast, can talk about everything so far - without any drama on the horizon whatsoever - and have pretty much the same hobbies.
I'm excited to see where this goes :D
I guess. But honestly who cares? I feel like a lot of dating apps are about the same as casual glances at cute people walking down the sidewalk. Just because I think you're cute doesn't mean I want to talk/date. Maybe if I was more horny I'd be more frustrated if no one wanted to talked to me, but I rarely if ever message matches or have any type of emotional reaction to matches or dates on dating app. The whole process is very sterile.
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Not sure how to respond. Empirically, a lot of people care. Contrary to what emotionally unavailable people think, it is a dating app. Using it as anything but (and hookups, of course) is wasting people's time.
Am I tearing my hair out about this? No. Will I take two minutes to type a few posts about how it's annoying? Yep.
One dateDo you guys think "taking too long to have sex" is a thing when dating someone new? And after how many dates would you consider that the case?
You can't assign a number to that, everyone is different. But yes, you can take too long and it could be read as a sign of disinterest.Do you guys think "taking too long to have sex" is a thing when dating someone new? And after how many dates would you consider that the case?
I'm pretty good at being 'friends' often to my detriment. People enjoy my company, but I feel like I just put out the wrong vibe dating wise.
So if I feel myself becoming a friend again, after recently meeting someone. Is there a 'best' way to kind of shoot my shot before it's too late?
I don't mind being friends with people who's company I enjoy, but I want to know I did all I could have done, and it just wasn't meant to be.
Edit: And yes, 'making my intentions known' is obvious. I mean more like, if she's leaning more friend, is there a way to try and tip it back? Or is that just simply not gonna happen, ever?
Haha, this was a big revelation to me too when I was like 19 or 20. I tried too hard to be a gentleman when I was young and it was just confusing to women who weren't sure if I was interested, or who took it as a lack of confidence and were turned off by it.I haven't "ended things" with that girl I was talking about just yet. If I'm being real it's mostly because I want to do it in person. And I'm going to blame myself for never trying to hold her hand through 7 dates.
I found out she is dating other guys through dating apps so I said fuck it and went on a first date with someone last night through OKcupid. Held her hand and she literally said "I was wondering when you were going to do that!"
Then her bus came and I thought I've got to make my move fast. So I leaned in and kissed her and she said "Finally! I was waiting...."
So wow. Thinking back to the dozen+ of girls I've met through dating apps over the past 8 months, I've really fucked up by not being more assertive. Last night taught me a lot about myself - that I don't give myself enough credit.
Great night - had an awesome time and learned a valuable lesson.
It's important to understand that her liking your friendship and her being attracted to you are two separate equations. One doesn't take you further from the other, and moving further from one doesn't bring you closer to the other.I'm pretty good at being 'friends' often to my detriment. People enjoy my company, but I feel like I just put out the wrong vibe dating wise.
So if I feel myself becoming a friend again, after recently meeting someone. Is there a 'best' way to kind of shoot my shot before it's too late?
I don't mind being friends with people who's company I enjoy, but I want to know I did all I could have done, and it just wasn't meant to be.
Edit: And yes, 'making my intentions known' is obvious. I mean more like, if she's leaning more friend, is there a way to try and tip it back? Or is that just simply not gonna happen, ever?
I haven't "ended things" with that girl I was talking about just yet. If I'm being real it's mostly because I want to do it in person. And I'm going to blame myself for never trying to hold her hand through 7 dates.
I found out she is dating other guys through dating apps so I said fuck it and went on a first date with someone last night through OKcupid. Held her hand and she literally said "I was wondering when you were going to do that!"
Then her bus came and I thought I've got to make my move fast. So I leaned in and kissed her and she said "Finally! I was waiting...."
So wow. Thinking back to the dozen+ of girls I've met through dating apps over the past 8 months, I've really fucked up by not being more assertive. Last night taught me a lot about myself - that I don't give myself enough credit.
Great night - had an awesome time and learned a valuable lesson.
I've actually been guilty of dating a girl and not having sex with her after like 4 dates that she finally came out and said "I'd really like to have sex soon."Do you guys think "taking too long to have sex" is a thing when dating someone new? And after how many dates would you consider that the case?
Yea I usually at least get to "2nd/3rd base" on the first date if there's chemistry but I feel weird initiating with this girl after 7 dates for some reason haha (and she doesn't initiate anything). I wish more people were that forward.she finally came out and said "I'd really like to have sex soon."
Don't all dating sites show the age on their profile? She must have noticed.A friend directed me to an app I hadn't heard of, and I've been having some success there. I've been talking to several women, but most of them live an hour away because I didn't adjust my settings at first. One was someone I didn't even message, just liked thinking that I'd never hear from her because she's quite a bit younger and out of my league.
Turns out she messaged me and we've been talking a ton. She's almost 10 years younger though and I don't know if she's noticed.
She invited me over tonight, but I couldn't go and asked if a rain check would be possible. The answer was definitely. I feel I should bring up the age thing before, and am trying not to get my hopes up too much because of it.
She invited you over to her house?A friend directed me to an app I hadn't heard of, and I've been having some success there. I've been talking to several women, but most of them live an hour away because I didn't adjust my settings at first. One was someone I didn't even message, just liked thinking that I'd never hear from her because she's quite a bit younger and out of my league.
Turns out she messaged me and we've been talking a ton. She's almost 10 years younger though and I don't know if she's noticed.
She invited me over tonight, but I couldn't go and asked if a rain check would be possible. The answer was definitely. I feel I should bring up the age thing before, and am trying not to get my hopes up too much because of it.
She's probably not so invested in this as you. Rule of thump, don't send long texts to people you don't know and if you're interested invite them out as soon as possible.
She hasn't unmatched me, or blocked me, so I am not really sure what to make of it 🤷♂️
I kind of regret buying a house in my rural hometown outside of Houston. It made sense to go back to family when I was finishing up the divorce and emotionally devastated, but now that I'm healthy enough to date I feel like I'm in an awful pool for me.
I meet either really stereotypical rural/suburban women: very type-A, conservative (if not straight-up mysoginistic), crawfish-and-Luke-Bryan lovers, or older moms of 2+ who are closer to my parents' generation than my own.
I'm 32, somewhere between average and fit/muscular, childless, politically liberal, and a dorkish introvert. I'm a turd in a rural punch bowl.
Are you me?
Like, all of this is me. Divorce, age, women we're finding, in Houston, etc.
I'm moving to the heights and I had a coworker help me spruce up my dating profiles, and I'm starting to get a good number of matches, but things aren't really progressing. It's exhausting sifting through all of the people that you described above, and it's a little weird that on some apps they can hide some of those details.
Makes it extra rough as a liberal atheist that doesn't want kids. 😬
I work in Baytown so moving closer to the city isn't really an option for me. And yeah, in a region this red/religious even being inside the loop doesn't necessarily make a difference.