I'm single again. She dumped because school was consuming her. Sucks bad. Went kn a date with the girl at work...shes in her mid 40s with kids. Fml
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Had a date last night for the first time in months. We just went to a bar/restaurant. It was fun and the convo was pretty natural. She is very extroverted which is great for me. I texted her a couple hours afterward to see if she wanted to do it again and she said yes but that she's busy for the next couple weeks and we can make plans afterward. I have a feeling that won't happen, but we'll see. I've only had two girls in my life actually want to see me a second time haha, so fingers crossed.
So my girlfriend is still mad at me from last night. She hasn't texted me since around 7 pm from the night before.
She went to this pacific rim Korean music festival thing (she is Korean as well) and when I found out it was called the pacific rim movie festival I said "babe the kaiju are coming" she then went on to talk about how the pacific rim isn't just Japan. I told her I was referencing the movie Pacific Rim with giant monsters and she told me she knew but kaiju are a Japanese thing not a whole pacific rim thing. I didnt feel like getting into it and just wanted to move on so I said "anyway how's the concert?" To which I was replied to with "whatever I'll talk to you later."
So am I the dick here? I was just trying to reference the movie Pacific Rim in which they call their giant monsters kaiju consistently.
Edit: Also I'm a huge fan of monster movies. Godzilla being my favorite ever since I was a baby if that helps with anything
She went to this pacific rim Korean music festival thing (she is Korean as well) and when I found out it was called the pacific rim movie festival I said "babe the kaiju are coming" she then went on to talk about how the pacific rim isn't just Japan. I told her I was referencing the movie Pacific Rim with giant monsters and she told me she knew but kaiju are a Japanese thing not a whole pacific rim thing. I didnt feel like getting into it and just wanted to move on so I said "anyway how's the concert?" To which I was replied to with "whatever I'll talk to you later."
So am I the dick here? I was just trying to reference the movie Pacific Rim in which they call their giant monsters kaiju consistently.
Edit: Also I'm a huge fan of monster movies. Godzilla being my favorite ever since I was a baby if that helps with anything
lol what are you even worrying about ? let her be a stuck up know it all who s mad for no good reason. if she understood that you were making a joke then why did she get upset ? you didnt even make fun out of her or her culture.
alo. hope you have more spine than that or she ll eat you up on the length buddy
It was like a date sorta. I assumed she knew but, she just assumed I was going to sign up for the bank.. She's a mid 40ish year old lady with kids almost my age. She looks in her early 20s. I miss my ex...
Been ghosted by the last two girls I was talking with, the same day I was supposed to go out with them as well. Feels bad man
No, sometimes when people misconstrue texts, it comes from some other issue, maybe being angry/frustrated, not necessarily at you, but something, which causes them to read things in the tone of their current mental state, and then to possibly lash out, having nothing to do with your original intentions. Next time you SEE her, try to get at the root cause for her reaction - don't ask directly though.
Is it me or did Okcupid kind of go down the shitter? I am barely finding new people on there now.
At least in my area
At least in my area
Anywhere you can conversate without much distraction and also not over invest in terms of money or commitment. You know, just in case it's bad or you're not feeling it. Coffee is fine.
The site wants to become more like Tinder, which is pushing a lot of people away. They only recently backtracked on the search filtering liked users, and that was only a partial backtrack.
Yeah, that's what I thought too... but a lot of people are suggesting that I choose a more "active" or creative date to see if there's any chemistry. I dunno, I've always thought that it was more second date material...
I feel like all these apps have become really stingy.
Coffee is a low effort date, but on a first date that's all I'm looking for. YMMV though, same with your date's.
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Single for 7 years now. I know I am average looking, and it's reaffirmed by how strongly your family pushes that you're attractive. It's a confidence building attempt, I get it, but I don't necessarily believe it. I feel like I've moved past loneliness and into just numbness about the whole thing. Being jobless with depression and anxiety, frankly having one less thing weighing me down can only be a blessing.
On the other side of the coin, I am absolutely desperate to give my parents their grandchild, especially my father who is getting on in years now. It is a painful reality to be living in.
On the other side of the coin, I am absolutely desperate to give my parents their grandchild, especially my father who is getting on in years now. It is a painful reality to be living in.
Yeah, increasingly, they're gonna wanna make more and more money, so they're gonna hold more and more things back until you pay up.
I love a coffee/tea date but as I've said in Discord I have a hidden, super cool, kitschy, cosy tea room that make absolutely phenomenal cakes close by so it's like a secret weapon.
If they want to continue the date after, it's normally a walk around the town to chat.
If they want to continue the date after, it's normally a walk around the town to chat.
lmao wut is wrong with her? I thought only male nerds were ever this indignant.
Nope, you're not. Seems like she's got a bee under her bonnet about something, anything stressing her out, work, family, friends? Maybe the concert was shite and she was pissed.
I feel like also alot of it is also targeted at people who try an game the algorithms or look for loopholes. I know less and less of my tricks work.
Went on a date with a woman a few weeks ago. It went OK, but my head's just not in the game. It won't be for a long time yet, I fear. Had a bad 2016 and I'm still not ready to make these kinds of efforts. I felt awful afterward for putting in such low energy once we were hanging out together but she said she had a good time and if I ever want to go out again to just let her know. So I guess it could have gone worse.
First post on the new forum. Hello!
Let me know if I messed uo up with this? I left a woman a note letting her know that I'd like to take her out to an event in my city.
It went like this:
Hey _____, there's a design event in November 6-9pm that a friend of mine invited me to and he suggested I bring someone and I thought it would be nice to have you come along with me.
The event will have interactive design projects and other things that should be relatively interesting.
I was hoping to catch you, but my work schedule changed, so I'm leaving a note..
It's $20 and I wouldn't mind covering you if needed.
Anyways, send me a text at ______ if you're interested.
Phill"
I hate asking people out like this and she didn't send a text back yet. I know to wait. We've known each other for two years or so and she has recently hinted towards rfs us getting together by offering to give me her phone number just so we could keep up with each other and "changing" the fact that I haven't certain foods in the area.
Us knowing each other hasn't gone further than the place we know each other at, but we are constantly flirting.
Let me know if I messed uo up with this? I left a woman a note letting her know that I'd like to take her out to an event in my city.
It went like this:
Hey _____, there's a design event in November 6-9pm that a friend of mine invited me to and he suggested I bring someone and I thought it would be nice to have you come along with me.
The event will have interactive design projects and other things that should be relatively interesting.
I was hoping to catch you, but my work schedule changed, so I'm leaving a note..
It's $20 and I wouldn't mind covering you if needed.
Anyways, send me a text at ______ if you're interested.
Phill"
I hate asking people out like this and she didn't send a text back yet. I know to wait. We've known each other for two years or so and she has recently hinted towards rfs us getting together by offering to give me her phone number just so we could keep up with each other and "changing" the fact that I haven't certain foods in the area.
Us knowing each other hasn't gone further than the place we know each other at, but we are constantly flirting.
I don't know I think she said she was feeling crabby that day especially with the heat.
And she's big on representation and such, and so she might have just been fed up with people mostly associating the pacific rim with Japan when Korea is also an important part of it. But yeah just glad to know I wasn't the dick here.
And she's big on representation and such, and so she might have just been fed up with people mostly associating the pacific rim with Japan when Korea is also an important part of it. But yeah just glad to know I wasn't the dick here.
do you have any government help in terms of money ? as far as dating and family goes it should be the last thing to worry about, in your shoes. Build yourself up, find a sense of purpose again and get in a place where you can give time, money and support. This is strictly impossible to do if you dont have any confidence in yourself. Go get some therapy first and find a job
As of right now, likely. I only see her once in a week now and I wasn't going to see her this week because my work scheduling changed, so I folded a note and placed it next to her belongings.
She hasn't texted back, so I'm just going to assume that she didn't receive it. If that's the case and the note is in the same place I left it, I'm just going to take it back and ask her in person.
In the possibility that this goes south, I don't think it will be a big deal. I feel like we've been around each other enough to feel comfortable going out, but maybe she's on another level at the moment and hesitant.
She's really pensive when I pop up and she'll pull up chairs and ask me to sit even when I really have to focus on my production, hints at us going out doing stuff, etc. It's not like she hasn't shown any interest and that this is out of the blue . She really enjoys having me around her when I'm there and we hit it off consistently.
Activity based dates are definitely what I've found interest in. There's only so much you can do with coffee. Spend a bit more money and find an experience that you are both unfamiliar with.
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I feel like I'm in the dark on this. Is being recognized as part of the pacific rim important in other countries? I live on the pacific rim (Canadian pacific northwest) and no one ever really talks about it.
Well Asian representation isn't particularly good at least here in the US and that's something that really bugs her. Especially with a lot of the stereotypes and other shit Asian women deal with. So my thinking is that shes just fed up with people thinking Japan is the only Asian portion of the pacific rim when it's clearly not. But I don't know honestly.
Like there's a thought process here I don't understand. I know I'm not in the wrong but I'm curious. And I'm just waiting for her to cool off and text me so I can find out.
Oh, I'm getting somewhere, girl on Tinder I'd been chatting with messaged me last week and asked what I thought of Trainspotting.
I messaged her back and said I thought it was a great film, I'd like to read the books one day and asked why she'd asked.
Then I heard nothing from her...until today.
She messages me apologising saying her Tinder never notified her that I'd messaged her back and that she was asking because she had an extra ticket to go see the Trainspotting live show and was gonna ask me to go with her.
She ended up going herself which kinda sucks because I'd have loved to have seen it but I've basically said we'll just have to do something else instead now.
I actually know the guy who plays Tommy on stage in Trainspotting Live really well (brothers best friend) so I could have tried to wangle a VIP experience as well, that'd have really blown her mind haha.
I messaged her back and said I thought it was a great film, I'd like to read the books one day and asked why she'd asked.
Then I heard nothing from her...until today.
She messages me apologising saying her Tinder never notified her that I'd messaged her back and that she was asking because she had an extra ticket to go see the Trainspotting live show and was gonna ask me to go with her.
She ended up going herself which kinda sucks because I'd have loved to have seen it but I've basically said we'll just have to do something else instead now.
I actually know the guy who plays Tommy on stage in Trainspotting Live really well (brothers best friend) so I could have tried to wangle a VIP experience as well, that'd have really blown her mind haha.
Damn, what a great missed opportunity. Speaking of Scottish pieces of work, what did you think of Filth (film or book)?
I met my wife on a dating app called Skout. Long story short, if you're interested in a long distance relationship it's not impossible.
I know right? Damn shows always sold out so I really missed out. I told her how gutted I was haha, blamed it on Tinder entirely. Gave me an excuse to give her my number as well.
I've not read the book but I thought the film was really great. James McAvoy is a real bastard in it!
I will say, getting out of a 9-year marriage, moving to a new city and starting dating all over again is....odd. Then again, never wanting children and to ever be married again doesn't make me an attractive catch.
Yes, I love the film and the book. My personal favourite James McAvoy performance of such a complex character.
