I need advice. I feel embarrassed even typing all this out because it's going to reveal how immature and inexperienced I am but I still need the advice.
I don't know if you guys remember but I'm the one that talked about how I went on 7 dates with a girl and didn't kiss her or even hold her hand over those 7 dates. FYI I'm not asking for advice for that girl - I already ended things with that person and I have no interest in her.
Anyway, in the very very early stages of dating the first girl (the one I went on 7 dates with) I had a first date with a different girl. I liked the other girl but for better or for worse I was at the time mentally incapable of dating more than one person at once. I started to get really strong feelings for the first girl (the one I went on 7 dates with). So I told the second girl that I'm pursuing someone else, I told her I'm sorry and I wish her luck.
So I did my thing with the first girl. It became absolutely nothing. It had no chance at becoming a relationship in retrospect. The first girl had never kissed anyone else before. She said she wasn't sure if she'd enjoy kissing guys. She said she was scared of telling her parents about me because I didn't have a bachelor's. I never mentioned this here but she also said she was dating other guys because we never agreed to date each other exclusively. Which is true, we never agreed to date exclusively, but I don't know I was surprised. So yeah, despite all of this she kept arranging to go out on dates with me, and as I've already said in this thread, I cut that off and stopped seeing her.
So after things became nothing with the first girl, I ended up straight up calling the second girl, and asking if she wanted to try another date with me. She said yes but wasn't I pursuing someone else? I gave her the honest answer and said yeah, but it didn't materialize into anything.
She was enthusiastic about it. Our first date way back when, before I told her I was pursuing someone else, was at an awesome bar close to where she works. We both agreed to go to that same bar for our new date, and she had the idea to treat it at it as if it's another first date instead of a second date
It went well. Halfway through the date while walking outside in my head I said "Dude, you have to at least try to hold her hand". I kept thinking how stupid i was going on 7 dates with the previous person I dated without trying to hold her hand. So I reached out for her hand and she liked it. She literally said "I was wondering when you were going to do that". Near the end of that first date I then kissed her too, and she told me she was waiting for me to do that. It was great.
We went on another couple of dates. Saw a movie with each other. We slept with each other. Had a nice time with each other. I asked if she wanted to date exclusively and she said it was a little early for that. So far so good.
But then suddenly she texts me and says she doesn't want to see me anymore. That sucked. But oh well. She keeps texting and says she'd like to be friends and I agree.
So she asks if I want to have dinner with her. I get confused and say I'm getting the vibe in the text that she's treating it like a date. She said no, just friends. I still agree because I genuinely wanted to hang it with her, even as a friend.
She suddenly cancelled that first hang out, without much warning. Couple of days later she asks if she wants me to pick her up and take her to my place to hang out again, and I agree. She cancels without much warning. She asks me a third time and then suddenly she texts and says we shouldn't talk with each other anymore.
I didn't respond because I'm like, okay, this really sucks, but onto the next one. But she keeps texting me and says "You didn't respond". She explains she's depressed and not in a good mental state, which is why she keeps cancelling. I end up saying that's cool. Let's just be friends.
But a couple of weeks later she ends up planning to come to my place again. And she's not explicit but she specifically says she wants to "do the takeout and hangout at your place again" so that told me she she wanted to sleep with me. I agree. And she cancels again. This is like the fourth time.
I know you'll call me stupid. But I agreed to a fifth "attempt" at hanging out with her. This time she didn't outright cancel but I was getting this bad vibe that she just wasn't into me. She told me she won't have time and wanted to reschedule to dinner midweek. And I was so upset at myself for allowing any of this to continue. She didn't officially cancel, but I decided to block her on Facebook, block her on messenger, block her on whatsapp, and block her on pretty much everything.
Fast forward to the today, four days after blocking her. I get drunk at an office party, unblock her, and send her a whatsapp saying that I'm drunk and regretting blocking her. Probably a stupid decision? Anyway, I'm shocked at her response because she's telling me now that she was really hurt, that she liked me, that I wasn't patient enough for her.
I literally don't know how to respond to the above. So there you go. Some proof that I'm really really inexperienced and just don't know how to react. I'm 32 but I didn't actually try dating anyone until last year. Before then I was obese. I'm not thin now but I lost a lot of weight and am way more confident. After the weight loss, last year is when I went out and actually started to date. And I'm starting to really think I fucked everything for myself by waiting so long. If I had 10 years of dating experience maybe I'd know how to react. But I just don't know how to react to her now.