- Nov 17, 2017
Honestly, why put any significance into the decade? It’s just a year, a number. I think it’s best to avoid milestone expectations like that. The things (good and bad) that happen in our lives rarely occur so neatly in 10 year pockets of time.Not to be a downer, but it's a little sobering recognizing last night that I'm heading into another decade single again. On the bright side, I feel a lot more confident about my dating prospects going into 2020 than I did going into 2010.
So cheers everyone and wishing you all the best of luck in the new year.
esseesse I'm with jdstorm on this one. Definitely see how the next few months play out before bailing. You've at least done the healthy thing and communicated your needs to her at this point. If there's still an enthusiasm gap in a few months I think it's time to have another talk and figure out if she sees a future with you or not. Because I'd say at that point if she's not on your level she's not going to get there and it'd be better for both of you to try and find other people who are as enthusiastic to be with each of you.
Also quoting the second part as I agree with you completely in regards to esseesse. I think in my last relationship, I was always the one ahead in enthusiasm, love, commitment, etc. and my ex was just lagging behind. I didn’t think it was a big issue, to be the one that loves more, but eventually it came to a head and ended the relationship. esseesse , definitely give her time to develop her feelings and open up more but no more than a few months. That said, if you have to convince someone to love you as you love them, you’ve already lost. At some point, if they haven’t figured it out yet, they never will and when the love is lopsided, you’ll end up pouring all of yourself into them and draining yourself by the time it’s over. So make sure you aren’t allowing yourself to suffer for the hope she’ll change.