Went out to the clubs with some fellow students to celebrate my graduation last night, met someone and vaguely remember being told at 3am "Hey, I have a hotel room across the street with two beds, come stay with me!" And thought the lass was being pretty generous. There wasn't a second bed lmao
16 hours on, she just hit me up on Facebook, so that's a thing maybe.
so you guys just walk up to these girls at these places and say hi whats up?
Depends. In a volunteering event, expo etc, you're naturally going to come across people you'll be working with, watching a panel with, waiting in line with etc, so that's always a nice, casual time to say hi or ask what interests them about the event they're at.
Bars and clubs are just free. Go say hi or dance with girls, unless they're obviously with a partner, it's fair game and can hardly be called creepy for you to do so. That's why a lot of people go there, anyway, not many are just looking to dance by themselves with no interruptions at 2am in "Instinkt" nightclub.
What I wouldn't sacrifice just to have charisma.
Would you sacrifice the time it takes to get comfortable talking with new people and being confident in developing your personality and style? This isn't an RPG, charisma isn't a preset stat that you're stuck with, it's something you develop.