The next few days are some of the most sexually charged days, heck getting a hook up on new years night is overly achievable.
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The next few days are some of the most sexually charged days, heck getting a hook up on new years night is overly achievable.
I'm not going to be that devasted if it doesn't happen, just figured I'd try since I'm off all week. It's cuffing season. Worst case scenario, I have a good ol platonic time.Nope, it's honest. That guy set an arbitrary deadline for sex and will now go set out to fulfill that for his own benefit. That's dishonest. With an escort you pay for a service as agreed, deadline is met for that guy and nobody is taken advantage of. Plus the choice of women he has available will exceede anything he could get normally, yet alone in the next few days.
I don't know that might be selling him short. The next few days are some of the most sexually charged days, heck getting a hook up on new years night is overly achievable. Never a good idea to be like I can just pay for it mentality imo.
Pretty sure it's a winter thing. Not saying it doesn't start in Fall, but where I live, it JUST started getting cold like 2 weeks ago.
Have you told her this? She might have some date ideas.Hello!
I have a bit on an issue. It happens every damn winter.
See, the thing is that dating is easy in the summer. You meet someone and you can go eat at a restaurant and take a walk, play sports if you want, hike, whatever. There are so many activities to choose from.
But when winter comes around I'm always out of ideas. Especially since it's -30 degrees celcius for the next two weeks. The girl I met asked if I wanted to go out for a date next week, and I said yes. Besides seeing a movie and going to a restaurant, I have no idea what we can do. This happens every damn winter.
I also don't want to invite girls or guys at my place after the first date because I am someone who is kinda slow with things, and having someone at my place is something that should happen after at least a couple of dates.
Do you guys have any suggestion of activities I could suggest? Anything that doesn't involve freezing to death would be appreciated!
Museum, art gallery, concerts, Nigntclub, bars, aquarium, indoor sports depends what's in your area really.Hello!
I have a bit on an issue. It happens every damn winter.
See, the thing is that dating is easy in the summer. You meet someone and you can go eat at a restaurant and take a walk, play sports if you want, hike, whatever. There are so many activities to choose from.
But when winter comes around I'm always out of ideas. Especially since it's -30 degrees celcius for the next two weeks. The girl I met asked if I wanted to go out for a date next week, and I said yes. Besides seeing a movie and going to a restaurant, I have no idea what we can do. This happens every damn winter.
I also don't want to invite girls or guys at my place after the first date because I am someone who is kinda slow with things, and having someone at my place is something that should happen after at least a couple of dates.
Do you guys have any suggestion of activities I could suggest? Anything that doesn't involve freezing to death would be appreciated!
Aw buddy, that's sad as hell. There's plenty of people willing to fuck at bars.
Concert, concert, concert!Do you guys have any suggestion of activities I could suggest? Anything that doesn't involve freezing to death would be appreciated!
Tinder it up.Get your first sexy time out of the way. Then work on yourself and figure out who you are as a single person. Its a fun process. Try and reconnect with friends you havent seen in ages.5 year relationship just ended. Back on the market AND I have depression. Watch out ladies.
Nah ... I'll definitely pass on the bar.Aw buddy, that's sad as hell. There's plenty of people willing to fuck at bars.
Concert, concert, concert!
Just keep going, quality not quantity.Back into the dating game after about 2 years. I had a decent amount of steady matches when I was 28/29.. but now that I'm 31 I've had only a handful of matches in the last 2 weeks.
Too old for Tinder? Should I make a new account?
Careful though, that can easily backfire. Not everyone can just jump on tinder and get immediate or even relatively quick results. You can go months without meeting someone. Probably better to work on yourself before even thinking about the dating part. Tinder can wreck your self esteem if you haven't built up yourself.Tinder it up.Get your first sexy time out of the way. Then work on yourself and figure out who you are as a single person. Its a fun process. Try and reconnect with friends you havent seen in ages.
Wait, so you're saying people don't give each other a Dirty Sanchez regularly?This is an age thing, no doubt influenced by porn. In the last ten/fifteen years anal play has been the marker for how "adventurous" your partner is, bragging rites mostly from young guys. Remember what was extreme when we were in our 20s? A large proportion of which were urban myths.
It's not true love unles she likes a good donkey punch. ;)Wait, so you're saying people don't give each other a Dirty Sanchez regularly?
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Careful though, that can easily backfire. Not everyone can just jump on tinder and get immediate or even relatively quick results. You can go months without meeting someone. Probably better to work on yourself before even thinking about the dating part. Tinder can wreck your self esteem if you haven't built up yourself.
Back into the dating game after about 2 years. I had a decent amount of steady matches when I was 28/29.. but now that I'm 31 I've had only a handful of matches in the last 2 weeks.
Too old for Tinder? Should I make a new account?
31 isnt bad for tinder. I live in a metro area and did pretty well with it all this year. Maybe tweak your pics a bit and see what happens.Back into the dating game after about 2 years. I had a decent amount of steady matches when I was 28/29.. but now that I'm 31 I've had only a handful of matches in the last 2 weeks.
Too old for Tinder? Should I make a new account?
I suppose your mileage may vary. I took a few months off after breaking up with my ex before getting on Tinder and it took over half a year after that before getting even a single date. Put in a lot of effort and to not get results really hurt my self esteem for a bit. It was frustrating enough as is, if I had been in the state of mind that I was immediately after my breakup, it probably would have been even worse. Pushing for a hookup was very much the opposite of what I needed at the time. And the person in question says they have depression so trying to get laid quick off tinder might not be the best choice.Yeah, quick success isn't a given, but it is good to get over the hump and push for "sexy time" early. During the start of this recent batch of dating (last 18 months or so), I was definitely more aggressive at dropping things after two dates when I wasn't really feeling it, when it probably would have been more healthy to date widely even when I wasn't really emotionally invested.
It did take some time to even get that point, though. When I first moved into the city, I think I went on like 15 to 20 coffee/drink dates before actually going on any 2nd date. I didn't have my shit together, and it took me a while to lose weight, dress better, be more relaxed on dates, avoid faux pas, etc.
I suppose your mileage may vary. I took a few months off after breaking up with my ex before getting on Tinder and it took over half a year after that before getting even a single date. Put in a lot of effort and to not get results really hurt my self esteem for a bit. It was frustrating enough as is, if I had been in the state of mind that I was immediately after my breakup, it probably would have been even worse. Pushing for a hookup was very much the opposite of what I needed at the time. And the person in question says they have depression so trying to get laid quick off tinder might not be the best choice.
Oh yeah a hookup can be healthy for sure. I'm more talking about if you can't easily hook up with someone. Some people can get a tinder or any other app and have 5 dates set up in a week with 10 more conversations going. Others might be lucky to match 2 people a week, let alone even get a response. Apps like Tinder can really wreck your self worth if you're not popular on them. You need to have a strong sense of not giving a fuck to not get down over dating apps and sometimes being fresh out of a relationship is the hardest time to have that.I guess it depends what the problem is. I kind of swore off hookups for a while, but it can be healthy to get over hangups and can help make somebody recently back on the dating scene catch up with the range of normal/common behavior (and I mean that very loosely -- there is real "normal" for dating and experience.)
I haven't had a lot of luck on Tinder, but again, it depends where you live. Tinder is very local, very diverse, and skewed and setup for short initial dates & drinks, while something like PoF or OKC was good for longer distances and longer dates.
It can take a lot of experimentation to find the right app for the right scenario and circumstance. I'd have been a lot worse off if I had tried to exclusively use Tinder back during graduate school and when I was living in the suburbs.
I'd say to myself that I need therapy, and then I'd seek it out.
Is there a solid way to slide the topic of going back to your place on the first date? Do you just have to read the situation?
The birthday girl I'm meeting this Thursday is a real charmer and I would like to spend more time with her if possible that day. I was planning on asking her out to the Udvar-Hazy center, maybe anything more than that would be too much.
Up to 3 dates this week now, if I doesn't work with anyone I always have the red light district.
I'd say to myself that I need therapy, and then I'd seek it out.
If it's a response to me, I already sought out counselling on different occasions for some of my other issues.
I just feel like therapy and counselling over relationship anxiety and being envious of other people's relationship sounds petty since really, a relationship shouldn't be a fundamental of my life.
It's more of a want than a need.
If it's a response to me, I already sought out counselling on different occasions for some of my other issues.
I just feel like therapy and counselling over relationship anxiety and being envious of other people's relationship sounds petty since really, a relationship shouldn't be a fundamental of my life.
It's more of a want than a need.
Personally, I don't think women are any better than men at giving relationship and dating advice to men. Actually in my experience, men usually gave me more useful and effective advice than women. Again, purely anecdotal, but with my female friends, dating advice usually boiled down to "just be yourself" "be confident" "be patient and that special someone will show up" whereas male friends would critique what I had been trying and then give me suggestions based on that and their own experiences. Things I could apply and work on. After all they had experience dating women. My female friends did not. Not to say a woman can never give good dating advice to a man but I think in general you're going to get more practical advice from a man if you're male.
This is all good info, but I'd even go a step further and say that all this comes naturally when on a date. If you are on a date and you need to act interested or something, then maybe you both aren't a match. And this is coming from someone with severe anxiety at times too. Seriously I know it ain't good advice when you haven't been on a date in a while, but all of this will come naturally and if doesn't, big woop, you are after getting more practice and there is plenty more fish in the sea.I was just on a first date after break up and it was really simple.
- be interested in what she has to say and ask follow-up questions
- if she said something worthy of a longer conversation, weigh in
- tell interesting anecdotes about yourself once in a while when the theme fits
- don't make a big deal about it for yourself
And most importantly: if you want to ask him/her out, do. There literally are no downsides.
Problem is asking the right questions. Making sure to avoid things that can easily be answered in one or two words.I was just on a first date after break up and it was really simple.
- be interested in what she has to say and ask follow-up questions
- if she said something worthy of a longer conversation, weigh in
- tell interesting anecdotes about yourself once in a while when the theme fits
- don't make a big deal about it for yourself
And most importantly: if you want to ask him/her out, do. There literally are no downsides.
Yeah it's interesting how it differs between our experiences. It's funny, I have a lot of female friends, I think I also just get along with them better but unlike you, I just never seemed to get decent advice from them outside of emotional support, which was appreciated but nothing I could act on. Like for example, I have a group of 3 very close female friends and when I discussed my issues getting dates, they mostly told me "girls are dumb, you're a great guy and someone will see that, just wait."Meant to reply to this sooner but I've been busy travelling back to Brighton.
I can see what you're saying. I mean, it's just based on my personal experience. I guess it wasn't fair to say that in general, I find female advice better, there's a lot of things I ask my male friends for. But personally, for me there's been a lot of things that happened in relationships that I didn't really understand. I had spoke to males about it and they just gave pretty generic advice, like when my relationship was breaking down with my fiance, I explained that to a couple of male friends, and they just told me to stick at it and try and make things work, wait for her feelings to return. Then I explained it to my sister, and she explained how I acted earlier on in the relationship likely caused my partner to move away from me as a means of protecting herself (I told her I didn't want to marry her anymore, and we needed to work things out). My sister just explained things in a way that made a lot of sense, and actually gave me something I could have acted on (though by that time, I had given up on the relationship too).
Same with dating recently. Quite a few times I've had weird interactions with girls that I've not really understood, and mentioned it to male friends who have offered no good advice, then I mention it to a female and they're like, 'oh, she's behaving like that because of this, lots of girls do that' and it's something I hadn't even considered.
But you're right that it's probably just a personal thing (as it is for you with men). For me, I just tend to be quite close to a lot of good women, and they're very open with me about their feelings and relationships, so that helps me be open with them. With guys, I'm not so close to as many guys, particularly regarding their relationships and dating, so they're not as open, and don't offer as good advice. When I speak to friends they're often more interested in bragging about their sexual encounters. Many of them have spoken to me about not really understanding my perspective in relationships, and the fact that I don't fear commitment like they do. On the other side of my life, speaking to games industry folk, many of the more senior people have have wives / partners and they've been together for a long, long period of time, so it's hard to get good dating advice from them that's relevant to today. Many of them have never used Tinder or anything like it, for example.
One of my housemates is really helpful though, his names Martin, he's a gay guy and I can speak openly with him. He's pretty good with fashion too and I often ask him how I look before going on a night out, date or whatever. He's a good friend, I remember when I was on my third date with this girl I'm seeing he took me to one side and cautioned me not to fall for her because he can tell I get attached quickly, and he doesn't want me to get hurt. It kind of made me well up a little bit that he actually thinks about things like that - I think that's the sign of a really good, supportive friend, and I just don't have many male friends like that.
How nice of you to give some other dude the chance to slide in.We're both off tomorrow and I know it's gonna be really tempting to invite her around again, but I feel like I should wait a little longer. Don't want to rush into things too quickly.
Depends on what you bought her but asking for gifts back is tacky as hell.What is everyone's opinion here;
Girlfriend of three months just broke up with me, saying she had felt unsure for over a week. In that time I was invited to two Xmas lunches with close friends and immediate family and she came to meet my family. I am dumped two days after giving her about $500 in gifts, should I ask for them back?
Lol why the fuck you spending $500 on a person you have only dated for three months?
I mean that kind of seems like your fault for spending $500.... who does that?What is everyone's opinion here;
Girlfriend of three months just broke up with me, saying she had felt unsure for over a week. In that time I was invited to two Xmas lunches with close friends and immediate family and she came to meet my family. I am dumped two days after giving her about $500 in gifts, should I ask for them back?
Because I am loaded and they were thoughtful gifts.
Then again someone replying with a 'lol' probably doesn't have the experience or knowledge I should be listening to.
Yeah, take the L, and consider it a lesson learned to not spend that much money on someone you've not known for that long. Heck even serious couples that have known each other for years usually agree not to spend too much on each other for holidays (unless they're extravagantly wealthy).
Let her keep them, you can't be generous and then petty right afterwards. She primed him with the fact she was unsure but he still proceeded.This. Also I'm not sure what the question could be when the answer is "Yes, you should ask for those gifts back"
Jesus, get over yourself.Because I am loaded and they were thoughtful gifts.
Then again someone replying with a 'lol' probably doesn't have the experience or knowledge I should be listening to.
That is definitely the attitude you want in here to get opinions and help.Because I am loaded and they were thoughtful gifts.
Then again someone replying with a 'lol' probably doesn't have the experience or knowledge I should be listening to.
Then again someone replying with a 'lol' probably doesn't have the experience or knowledge I should be listening to.