If you're really committed then the best way is to remove anything in your life that reminds you of your ex. Delete (or at the very least unfollow) on all social media, delete pictures, get rid of small gifts that aren't useful to you. If she gave you tons of clothes then I'm not saying you gotta throw them all away, but be aware that if you're constantly being reminded of your ex it's gonna be a lot more difficult. Don't fall for the temptation of going of going looking for old pictures of you two, how happy you were etc. It's not gonna help. The less you think of him/her the better, and eventually you'll reach a stage where you haven't thought of your ex in a few days, or even a week.
That's a good start. Personally I don't think there's anything wrong with saving photos, as long as you realize it's going to make things harder. After all, it's a part of the life you've led.
Send her one more message, but be aware that she probably had second thoughts after doing the personal talk stuff. You may have said something that could be a turnoff. Hence why she didn't reply back.
That said, it can be tough not getting somewhat invested when "the next" isn't always there. Sometimes you put more effort into making one thing work when you can't seem to get anything else. You're right that you want to put getting back to you on them when they pass up your offer.
Yeah, I've dated a couple girls like that. It happens - think of it as eliminating women that you won't want to be with. And people do this for different reasons, but usually due to insecurity - they can never be "in the moment" and are way too anxious about the next thing. You don't want that, and she's gonna be alone for a while.
Ummm, why exactly?
Nowhere in his post did he say he was crying. All he said was they had a deep talk. Hell, for all we know she might be the one to initiate the talk and let all her emotions out, no need to put the "blame" on him because of a mere assumption.
For me, personally, it was just time. We were together for almost two years. I was definitely sad when I thought about it but managed to keep myself occupied and hanging out with my friends more. We broke up on good terms and still talk here and there (wishing happy birthday, happy holidays, how are things going?, that kind of stuff). Obviously, this won't work for everyone but it worked out well for me.
Doing things that will keep your mind occupied helps. Do things you enjoy, go out for walks, hang out with your friends. Basically, Hit the Gym(tm). You'll feel better with time.
Yeah, it's also easily possible that she was the one to really open up and surprised herself. It's a pretty common thing for people looking for something casual to start feeling a hint of attachment or a deeper bond from themselves and cut it off because they don't feel ready for that at the time. Ultimately, I think you do whatever you feel is right in a situation like that. I think when it comes to dating and hookup culture, it's ingrained in a lot of our minds that the guys make moves and the girls react to them. One problem with that logic is that anytime something fizzles out in a dating or hookup situation, it's assumed it's the guy who did something to cause it.
I've gotten this enough that I now know this excuse is actually saying "I don't have time for you specifically." I used to wonder how someone couldn't spare a few hours in a week to see me but then I realized, they can spare that time - they're just sparing it for friends, family or other dates. People have their priorities and you're just low on the list. Nothing wrong with that; I just learned that you have to adjust accordingly with where you place them on your priority list. Ideally I want equal effort from me and the other person when it comes to dating, relationships and friendships. If someone is investing less than me, I'll invest less too.
Yeah, it's a shame that if something happens it's default that it's the man at fault.
I'm dating a girl right now who is sort of like that. Very enthusiastic when we set up a date but she has cancelled or postponed a lot in the last minute. Mainly it's work and her getting called in but a few times she's been like "I've been working long shifts all week and I'm super tired. Sorry, gotta cancel!" I used to get upset about that sort of thing, especially after this one time I got stood up by a different girl but I've learned how to deal with it.
I'm just trying to get back into dating, hit it off with this girl pretty well but haven't gone out yet and it seems like things just keep going against me.
I agree.
Give a hug. The only correct answer.
Yeah no problem with personality. Just worried over first impression.
Yeah, it's just odd all around. Lol maybe she had an hour or so to fill and couldn't find anything else.
Honestly, the quicker the better, for both of you, just so you won't waste each other's time.
