You need to pick your lane and stay in it. Do you want exclusivity, or do you want an open relationship?
Like I said, tell her what you want and not what you're "not against" or "not opposed to". It sounds non-commital and wishy-washy. If you want a serious but open relationship, just say that's what you want and see if she's on board rather than just going with the flow.
Not sure you needed to paste the message but yeah sounds like she's ending it. But still you should go
Yeah, it's over. I doubt she's going to say anything of value in the breakup talk from my experience. "It's me, not you. Let's stay friends, you'll make somebody a great boyfriend, I want to be single for a while, I want to experience life" one or all of those.
You need to like someone to be able to message them. If you like each other that's a "match"
Hm I've got like 14 likes since yesterday and I haven't matched anyone despite the population of the app not being seemingly that large around here.
Don't want to be a dick but a lot of the people that "like" me are the "bigger" and not so good looking people on the site
People more serious about dating have moved on to other apps and mostly everyone else just keeps it around sorta in the background. In my opinion anyway. I still get a ton of matches on Tinder but no one is really talking on it. Other apps work much better for me here in NYC.
You should ask yourself if an open relationship is something you actually want, or if you just said so because you thought it's what she wanted.
It's in your post, 2013-15ish. I'm not sure about what dating apps are popular in your area haha. Though Bumble and Hinge seem like the two in NYC these days.
Probably best if you don't verbally flirt if you're not good at it. Light touching arm or shoulder would be better but back off if she's not into it. Holding hands is good but I'd say that's an outside walking around thing to do. There's no fast or slow just the speed that two people are comfortable moving at.
I usually try to get a smooch on the second date. My dates are usually very touchy on the first date though.
What about simple stuff like saying "you look great" when we meet? Or is that too obvious
Great to hear - hope you find someone great. If I had to guess, it's a combination of you being more mature than a 20-something and single women over 30 being, for lack of a better word, VERY eager to find someone.
Yea I always though I would shine in my 30s with the women. Teens and 20's sucked for me.
I never liked doing small talk on dating apps. I feel like a brief exchange and then asking her out on a date is the best course of action.
Weird. Sounds like a very lame excuse unless it was some sort of emergency.
It depends. If she said she wants to meet you tomorrow aka SHE rescheduled the date and not you, then yeah it looks like an emergency.
It is because she doesn't want you to confront her in anger.
Yeah, youre probably right. But Ill wait and see how it goes because its extremely slim pickings for me on these sites (i get maybe 1 like a week max and half of them seem to be weird scammers trying to get you to do something for them). Maybe im just going through the bargaining stage of denial right now, but the one thing that gives me hope is that she mentioned in the first date her parents were like helicopter parents and treated her like shes still a kid and it was annoying. So maybe they have some super weird relationship.
Its weird, we were walking around for like 20 minutes talking and she was smiling at me and i could tell in her eyes she wanted me to do something. I guess its cause shes super cute, way out of my league, and I'm just a generic pale lanky glasses nerd and almost feel guilty if i do anything.
Kiss the damn girl!
Lucky for you I know Chinese people very well. She's well in your league, but don't count on making a public show of affection. Checking back I already suggested holding hands. Do that.
