Experiencing a mini-heartbreak right now over a girl with whom I went on only two dates. I've been on the apps and regularly seeing people for the better part of the last year, but she was the first person to really move the needle for me. I've had so many mediocre dates and boring text convos lately that I began to dig this girl and harbor feelings pretty early on.
She suggested that we go out in her first message so that was a good start. We would have good text banter at times, but she'd also take a day before responding or I'd have to double-text her to get the conversation going again. I didn't mind, given that she's smart, is an amazing dresser, and has the cutest laugh. She did tell me on the second date that she was going through a divorce right now , but I was willing to take our time. I myself am not at all over my ex-fiancee, so I'm fine with baggage. We hadn't kissed yet during our two dates, only cozying up to each other watching Kiki's Delivery Service (on the big screen!"). There were many little moments of chemistry between us, in my view. I had fun both times and was genuinely happy about how things were going.
Anyways, early Saturday I texted her about getting brunch sometimes, a very open-ended suggestion that came about since we talked about ketchup and hash browns. It took her over an entire day to reply that she's sorry but she can't. Curt message that didn't offered a reason. I'm not sure how else to take it but as an outright rejection. I asked her playfully if she hated eggs, yet I fully expect that to be the last I hear from her.
Maybe she didn't feel the spark like I felt. Maybe she's still ambivalent about dating after her separation. The real reason, I suspect, was that I asked her to brunch.
Main point of the post being: is it weird to ask someone out to brunch during the early stages? Is it a meal meant for couples? A late breakfast for people who've spent the night together, or with close friends? Who wants to get up early to go to a crowded restaurant with a near-stranger? I might've overplayed my hand here.