Yeeesshhhh, Mr. Jaffe, I don't think calling your comments transphobic or racist holistically describes why your diatribe is so inappropriate. I believe this type of mindset is born of culturally instituted toxic masculinity. I genuinely believe that YOU believe you have all the best intentions for the underrepresented and victimized subsets of our culture. I believe that YOU believe you have an open mind and heart for these people. At best, your honesty is tactless, and at worst, you're an agent of oppression. I think that the truth is somewhere in between.
To address the best case scenario, quit digging your grave, shut up and apologize. To address the worst case scenario, fess up, pledge allegiance and gather support from some shitbag red pill edge lords. I hope that you find the former much more suitable.
An apology is necessary because your point of "if she had a penis before, I'm no longer interested" is an affirmation of devaluation of one's trans identity. It is wrong to devalue trans identity because a trans person is a person too and has every right to participate in their preferred gender's activities, soup to nuts (see what I did there?). Your comments contain the message "you're not a REAL girl, so I wouldn't be caught with you".
I hope you understand why this is a hurtful message. I appreciate that you've invited Era to have an open dialogue on your feelings on the matter. I know you probably can't help the way you feel, but the bottom line is that these people are your customers who have enjoyed your work and may even look up to you. Your word has meaning. I implore you to react with sensitivity, and let kindness and love drive the dialogue you wish to pursue.
To address the best case scenario, quit digging your grave, shut up and apologize. To address the worst case scenario, fess up, pledge allegiance and gather support from some shitbag red pill edge lords. I hope that you find the former much more suitable.
An apology is necessary because your point of "if she had a penis before, I'm no longer interested" is an affirmation of devaluation of one's trans identity. It is wrong to devalue trans identity because a trans person is a person too and has every right to participate in their preferred gender's activities, soup to nuts (see what I did there?). Your comments contain the message "you're not a REAL girl, so I wouldn't be caught with you".
I hope you understand why this is a hurtful message. I appreciate that you've invited Era to have an open dialogue on your feelings on the matter. I know you probably can't help the way you feel, but the bottom line is that these people are your customers who have enjoyed your work and may even look up to you. Your word has meaning. I implore you to react with sensitivity, and let kindness and love drive the dialogue you wish to pursue.