This is how I know I'm old. I can't relate to this stuff. My wife will not bring the new lover into my house. Will not happen.
We've decided we'll continue living together and raising the kids together, but we're not a couple anymore and her girlfriend is going to move in with us.
That's a lot to take in. I feel for you and the kids. How are they handling it?
Are you planning to stay in the house with your ex and her girlfriend long term?
It's her house lol, I ain't on the mortgage. I couldn't do anything to prevent her coming in if I wanted to. My only choice is to stay or go.
This is how I know I'm old. I can't relate to this stuff. My wife will not bring the new lover into our house. Will not happen. That's what divorce is for, we just go out separate ways.
I really don't think it's a good idea for you to be living with them while their madly in love and you watch on like a loser. That seems insensitive but jeez I know how it feels to have bad social skills and anxiety and self blaming but stop seeing everything as your fault.
You make it sound Iike you're the ultimate charity case and you were a long 10 year mistake tricking her into marriage and children the whole time. I think you should see a therapist and go to the gym. Stop getting walked on dude, move on.
I've been gymming it up and eating healthier for a while now. Lost about thirty pounds. Been on antidepressants for a year, seeing a therapist next month. Even that was planned before the breakup. I've got some issues
The only thing I can suggest is trying meditation. At least it helped with my severe case of social anxiety. Best of luck to you and growing stronger from all this.I've been gymming it up and eating healthier for a while now. Lost about thirty pounds. Been on antidepressants for a year, seeing a therapist next month. Even that was planned before the breakup. I've got some issues
It's her house lol, I ain't on the mortgage. I couldn't do anything to prevent her coming in if I wanted to. My only choice is to stay or go.
OP I'm sorry but this is funny man you need to get out the of that house in the end she gets her happy family and you get nothing? Like come on man yall wildOnly the first one is old enough to have an inkling of what's going on (the others are four and three and three) and he's fine with it. He knew about the girlfriend before we split up. He knows that we're getting divorced but since we all live together doesn't mind. All kids get along well with the girlfriend
Everybody has issues, but you don't sound too happy that your wife has her lover in the house. Just because she pays the mortgage doesn't mean you shoulda have let her gf move in. You gotta raise that confidence up, you're desperate for that attention even if it comes in the form of pity.I've been gymming it up and eating healthier for a while now. Lost about thirty pounds. Been on antidepressants for a year, seeing a therapist next month. Even that was planned before the breakup. I've got some issues
So is your wife gay or bi because I'm assuming she's bi.I've been gymming it up and eating healthier for a while now. Lost about thirty pounds. Been on antidepressants for a year, seeing a therapist next month. Even that was planned before the breakup. I've got some issues
This is where you lost me. Get out of there OP, what's even holding you back?And then we did. We've decided we'll continue living together and raising the kids together, but we're not a couple anymore and her girlfriend is going to move in with us.
Do you honestly think that neither party thought about the children?Fuck that situation. If you two had no kids, this would be a simple clean break. Your kids come first. Not a new lover. What the fuck is your ex wife doing?
Move out if you can and try to meet someone who is capable of returning your feelings.
If you can't afford a lawyer, don't listen to people telling you to get one.
My boy let this man know cause that's exactly what's happeningYou've been married 10 years, do you think that matters? Get a lawyer, get a divorce, and get your share. Or be a doormat and live with your wife and her girlfriend, which is completely healthy.
Although I'm happy your ex seems to have found she can fully love now
Yeah get yours my dude, stop being a punk and getting walked on.So he can do things like move out without any compensation? Not good advice.
Word.
oh fuckI'm currently a stay at home dad. I don't have a job or a college degree. I'm living comfortably right now. I want to stay for me as much as for the kids. I legitimately cannot imagine leaving this for a better situation.
I'm currently a stay at home dad. I don't have a job or a college degree. I'm living comfortably right now. I want to stay for me as much as for the kids. I legitimately cannot imagine leaving this for a better situation.
Somewhere in here we had a conversation about monogamy, and I expressed that I hadn't really believed in it for a long time but was sticking with it because that was what we agreed to. But she seemed slightly open to polyamory now, which surprised me. Not long after, her romantic interest from the forum site sent her a friend request from her new account on Facebook. After talking a bit they found they still had feelings for each other, so I was just like "yeah go for it" and they did.
But things changed after they met up for the first time again. My wife didn't seem so eager to be with me, then started expressing that she thought this might not be fair for me, then started talking about what might happen if we break up. And then we did. We've decided we'll continue living together and raising the kids together, but we're not a couple anymore and her girlfriend is going to move in with us.
I'm currently a stay at home dad. I don't have a job or a college degree. I'm living comfortably right now. I want to stay for me as much as for the kids. I legitimately cannot imagine leaving this for a better situation.
Wait, is your exwife just dating that other person and not helping with her kids at all? You're not just staying there and having to watch them wave their relationship in front of you, but you're also the only person taking care of four kids?
This doesn't sound healthy for you at all. Your exwife sounds like she's just moving on with her life and leaving you to handle everything she's leaving behind. I agree with the other people saying that everyone living under one roof like this isn't a viable long term solution and will slowly kill you if you try to stick with it.
There's nothing left in this relationship for you except your kids.
I'm currently a stay at home dad. I don't have a job or a college degree. I'm living comfortably right now. I want to stay for me as much as for the kids. I legitimately cannot imagine leaving this for a better situation.