It's not something I can do at all until I have my own income, and I can't start working for two months or a year and two months depending on how the twins' potty-training goes. And unless something goes horribly wrong during that time I can't be kicked out because I'm needed here.
So do you feel like the only option is to continue being a stay at home dad no matter the cost of yourself? It feels wrong to me to have all the responsibilities fall on your shoulders. I understand you're probably comfortable with it all because you're used to it, but just know you do have a choice. I truly hope you're taking your own mental health into consideration and I also understand your mindset that the kids need to come first. However, kids can and will pick up on certain aspects of your life. No matter what happy face you put on in front of them you won't know how they're affected by your living situation until they've already grown up. I still strongly feel you should try to go at life without your wife's house , money and insurance no matter how impossible that might sound. But just know you absolutely have a choice and you aren't stuck. Seriously best of luck to you.