There's nothing normal or healthy about polyamorous relationships.
Well that's just bullshit.
There's nothing normal or healthy about polyamorous relationships.
What's he going to get fleeced for? It doesn't sound like he has anything?
She's willing to support me financially until I'm not a stay at home parent anymore. Once the kids go to school I have to get a job. That is either two months or a year and two months, depending on how potty training goes.
You kicking the lover out of the house you don't pay any bills in?So when you going to leave ? Or you to kick the lover out the house that's what I would do.
I've seen it enough times. It's always weird, everyone thinks they're being weird, they're always bringing it up and how they wished so and so was also poly, and they're involved in the weirdest interpersonal drama that has no business occurring in a healthy relationship.
Ive seen two successful poly relationships and thus now believe that any and all mono relationships are fundamentally unhealthy and unnatural .
I would expect his name is on the house.You kicking the lover out of the house you don't pay any bills in?
They already got his dignity I'm not sure what else he has now
Lol @ everyone here immediately thinking they can judge the Situation better than the OP.
I've seen it enough times. It's always weird, everyone thinks they're being weird, they're always bringing it up and how they wished so and so was also poly, and they're involved in the weirdest interpersonal drama that has no business occurring in a healthy relationship.
It isn't.
It's not. OP said it earlier in the thread. Stay at home dad. Her house. Her name on the mortgage.
Dude. You are gay.She isn't a lesbian though. I would like to have sex with men but I'm not gay either.
Damn he fucked up.It's not. OP said it earlier in the thread. Stay at home dad. Her house. Her name on the mortgage.
And I've seen poly work just beautifully
So like I said your post is bullshit.
We didn't even get ten posts in before someone posted the "ResetERA special." Impressive.
I mean I'm not going to comment whether or not it can work or not but what's going on here isnt a poly relationship.For those saying they have seen poly work beautifully, have you seen it from couples who went from no kids, to kids to having all their kids leave the nest? Like whenever someone says it works beautifully it is always young people with relatively no responsibility.
The OP made perfect sense as soon as I saw polyamorous mentioned.
I mean I'm not going to comment whether or not it can work or not but what's going on here isnt a poly relationship.
For those saying they have seen poly work beautifully, have you seen it from couples who went from no kids, to kids to having all their kids leave the nest? Like whenever someone says it works beautifully it is always young people with relatively no responsibility.
I'm not sure what to say but there are definitely worse situations to be in than this. Moving out sounds like a luxury reserved for people who have, I don't know, money and a job?
Your ex sounds a bit mean by having her girlfriend move in, but I don't think it sounds like she is treating you like shit outside of that?
We've decided we'll continue living together and raising the kids together, but we're not a couple anymore and her girlfriend is going to move in with us.
My wife is the ONLY one who can cook lol. Girlfriend is going to take over dishes for me so I don't know how anyone can say this isn't a win
So?
Dude you called polyamoury unhealthy and unnatural... that's absurd.
Monogamy also often ends terribly so what.
Leaving all responsibility doesn't seem to be working out for the kids. When kids enter the picture the relationship focus in on them. A poly relationship puts the emphasis on finding new partners. I just think it is so irresponsible to have when kids are around though shitty parents are monogamous as well.I've seen a mother leave her young kids behind in another state to enter into a poly relationship, and it's a messed up situation. Yet she feels the poly relationship is working great. The whole thing is awkward and strange for everyone.
This ain't one man, this is just someone being used and shitOP phrased it like it was. It says he said it was ok to explore and look what happens. From his words it sounds like the relationship was already broken from the start really.
I'd go, that way you have at least the option to somehow move on or you'll stick in that limbo forever. Move out, move on, see your kids as often as possible.
Another reason to move out. Though it's not your job not to be a burden because you two lived together and she brought her with her. So before you really become a burden she either throws you out (her house, at the end of the day) and I guess at one point your ex will just that because right now they are probably all that understandable but sooner or later they probably want their privacy. Not saying such weird triangle is not possible at all, but very unlikely. Or you could just leave voluntarily.
There's nothing normal or healthy about polyamorous relationships. As soon as that becomes an acceptable thought in your mind and it certainly when it becomes a real thing in your life, things are going to get real messed up for you and everyone involved.
Going from 10+ years with kids to a 3rd wheel seems pretty harsh by itself, but OP has no independence. "A bit mean" is underselling it.
So rather that paying you alimony, your wife gives you an allowance and you're their live-in nanny.
I'm the father of my children, what the fuck. My relationship to them didn't become null because my wife and I separated.
She's willing to support me financially until I'm not a stay at home parent anymore.
Lol @ everyone here immediately thinking they can judge the Situation better than the OP. "Yeah, so, thid Situation sucks but we are all pretty happy all things considered, treat each other well, Support each other..."
"LAWYER UP AND STOP GETTING TRAMPLED ON"
"No, no, its cool, we actually..."
"MOVE OUT AND SUE HER FOR HALF HER MONEY WHAT ARE YOU DOING"
"But this Situation is working for us so why should I..."
"SHE WILL LITERALLY STAB YOU IN YOUR SLEEP OP SHE IS A SIREN OF THE DEEP WHO WILL EAT YOUR STILL BEATING HEART BELIEVE ME I HAD SEX ONCE AND AM A PERFECT JUDGE FOR THESE KINDS OF SITUATIONS ALSO HIT THE GYM"
Because it's clearly that he's in the now and want something that will no longer be a thing.Lol @ everyone here immediately thinking they can judge the Situation better than the OP. "Yeah, so, thid Situation sucks but we are all pretty happy all things considered, treat each other well, Support each other..."
"LAWYER UP AND STOP GETTING TRAMPLED ON"
"No, no, its cool, we actually..."
"MOVE OUT AND SUE HER FOR HALF HER MONEY WHAT ARE YOU DOING"
"But this Situation is working for us so why should I..."
"SHE WILL LITERALLY STAB YOU IN YOUR SLEEP OP SHE IS A SIREN OF THE DEEP WHO WILL EAT YOUR STILL BEATING HEART BELIEVE ME I HAD SEX ONCE AND AM A PERFECT JUDGE FOR THESE KINDS OF SITUATIONS ALSO HIT THE GYM"
Is she having sex with the door open?
Are there screaming orgasms?
Is he sleeping in the same bed as them?
I can think of a lot of ways where it is actually belligerently mean. Of course it isn't ideal, who lives in an ideal situation ever?
Sorry I could only get through the first page.
Get a damn lawyer immediately and start working on an exit plan to coincide with the divorce filing.
DO NOT AGREE TO A DIVORCE UNDER ANY ASSUMPTION THAT THINGS WILL STAY CIVIL.
At some point you WILL get forced out.
And I've seen poly work just beautifully
So like I said your post is bullshit.
This.She's keeping you on her health insurance "until you can get your own"? She's already working on phasing you out man, she just doesn't want to want to leave you destitute, take a hint and prepare