Death in the family

[TI92]

My mother just took her own life.

I literally cannot even handle this. What do I do?

I'm not even religious I can't cling to hope I'll see her again.

I wish I could tell her that she was the biggest reason I haven't done the same thing. And I'm not going to especially after dealing with how hurtful this is.

What do we do era? I don't even know you all but I feel I can talk openly since I don't

 

[LewieP]

Sorry for your loss.

Were it me, I'd grab my closest nearest friend(s), go to a bar, and drink heavily whilst trying to focus on the good memories.

Dunno if that's a good idea for everyone though, just what I think I'd do.

 

[Maktokious]

Aw jeez. I can't even imagine what you are going through. I will quickly recommend counselling though, whenever I've had 'cannot handle' experiences counselling has always helped me immensely.

You have my condolences, and every wish that everything will be okay again at some point.

I will also recommend to spend minimum amount of time alone, surround yourself with the greatest people in your life to help you through this,

 

[thetrin]

I'm so sorry to hear that, OP. I cannot even imagine how hard this is for you.

However, if you need someone to talk to, you are welcome to PM me. Sometimes you just need someone to listen.

 

[Cordy]

I'm so sorry for your loss, wow, I don't even know what to truly say. All I can say is surround yourself with those you love the most, think of great memories and be there for one another. You'll get through this.

 

[CountAntonio]

Take it one day at a time. Seek help if you need it, mourn for as long as you need to and hopefully surround yourself with as many loved ones as you can for those moments when you don't want to be alone. Sorry for your loss.

 

[Maven]

My mother just took her own life.

I literally cannot even handle this. What do I do?

I'm not even religious I can't cling to hope I'll see her again.

I wish I could tell her that she was the biggest reason I haven't done the same thing. And I'm not going to especially after dealing with how hurtful this is.

What do we do era? I don't even know you all but I feel I can talk openly since I don't

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Sorry for your loss OP.

The bolded part is I'm glad you feel this

 

[Yoshi]

From my experience the only thing you can do is to spend (extra) time with your loved ones, especially those who were also close to your mother and talk about her and what made her important to your life. Many tears shed, but healing ones.

 

[BladeoftheImmortal]

Damn. There's literally nothing I can say to make you feel better. I've never had to go though a suicide from anyone close to me.

And I wouldn't say she's in a better place, I'm not religious either, but whatever caused her to take this action can never hurt her again. That's really the only solace you can grasp onto at a time like this.

When my father passed last year, I went to a bar with friends and just chatted about him with them. That's really all you can do. Time does heal it and it might not be today. It might not be 4 years from now. But one day you'll wake up and not feel like shit about it.

For me it was quicker because I kind of saw it coming. He didn't have cancer or anything, but he never took care of himself so it wasn't the biggest of surprises (I was surprised it happened that soon, however). But at the end of the day, I really don't have anything I can say that can help, just that era is here for you.

 

[Isee]

I know, it hurts like hell OP. Extremely sorry for your loss.
Surrounding yourself with loved ones is truly the way to go. Sharing the pain helps more then going through it alone. But overall, only time helps. Not gonna lie to you, one terrible day is going to follow the next one. But it will eventually get better, bit by bit.

 

[Spenny]

Condolences, my friend.

My dad did the same thing when I was 25. If you need to talk hit me up.

 

[TI92]

Thanks guys. .
It's just ... shocking :(

 

[geomon]

Oh no, I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine the pain you're in.

 

[JHoNNy1OoO]

Sorry for you loss OP. While not under the same circumstances as you I lost my mother in November after a complication from Open Heart Surgery. I was a complete wreck but what got me through is knowing all that pain I felt meant it was because of how much we both loved each other. Slowly I turned that pain into focusing on my well being since I know my mother wanted me to have a good, happy, and long life. It's almost 8 months since she died and there is not a single day I don't think about her or imagine having a conversation with her about something that occurred. The road to recovering emotionally is long and hard but you just need to focus on the positive memories of your relationship with her. That is what has helped me out the most.

 

[scottbeowulf]

So sorry. I don't know what to say really other than you'll be ok with time. Take alot of deep breaths.

 

[TheBeardedOne]

I'm sorry for your loss, OP. I wish that I knew something to say that would help and make it easier.

Try to take solace in the good times, and keep your chin up.

If you'd like to talk or vent, like many others here I'm just a PM away.

 

[Eros]

I'm so sorry OP. I've gone through loss but not suicide. I can only imagine how this would feel. I'm so sorry.

 

[Bunga]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Like others have recommended, I would seriously consider counselling. I've been to see several in the past for various things and they are amazing. Sometimes they don't even do anything, they're just a person you can vent to and know it's not going anywhere outside that room - sometimes that's enough.

Wish you all the very best.

 

[TI92]

I've been seeing a therapist for a few weeks already know. I had even told him yesterday at the meeting that I was worried about this happening.

Doing better today just... I can't see her again or talk to her and this really sucks :(

 

[Lockness Mobster]

Im sorry for your loss OP.

 

[Deleted member 33761]

Sorry for your loss. I just lost my mother as well on Saturday. She had cancer and it's been 4 weeks since she was diagnosed. It's hard to get through but if you want to talk feel free to pm me

 

[Smokeymicpot]

Shit sucks. Time will heal. It is shitty advice but that is what I was told. It works till a point.

 

[TI92]

Sorry for your loss. I just lost my mother as well on Saturday. She had cancer and it's been 4 weeks since she was diagnosed. It's hard to get through but if you want to talk feel free to pm me

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My grandma goes in for surgery Tomorrow for breast cancer and was just diagnosed too :(

 

[Steeped in a Sea of Games]

All you can do is move forward with a determination to make things better. She brought you into this world and I'm sure she loved you.

Most parents want for their children to be better than them and to succeed where they failed. You living and doing good is probably what your mother wanted for you more than anything. That's the best way you can honor her sacrifice.

 

[Indelible]

You have my condolences, I can't even imagine how that feels.

 

[Deleted member 33761]

My grandma goes in for surgery Tomorrow for breast cancer and was just diagnosed too :(

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I wish her luck. My mom had it in the liver, lungs, adrenal gland, hip, and brain. It was aggressive. Hopefully they caught hers fast

 

[The Almighty Tria]

My uncle actually just took his own life this morning. It is shocking and has hurt my family a lot (though no one is angry at him thankfully), but it's helpful to know that whatever they were suffering from has finally ended (my uncle was suffering from terminal cancer and taking care of his wife who had a stroke several years ago and became a completely different person).

I know losing an uncle is completely different than a mother, but just remember to be there for your loved ones and, as cliched as it is, just give it time. It will get better, and eventually you will never think about these hard times and you'll remember all of the good times you had with her.

 

[____]

The worst pain, when you realize it's too late and you couldn't do anything to help.

All I can say is stick in there man. Time will probably be the only thing that helps.

 

[TI92]

I wish her luck. My mom had it in the liver, lungs, adrenal gland, hip, and brain. It was aggressive. Hopefully they caught hers fast

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really rough

 

[Katten]

You have my condolences.

I recently lost my father. I can only reiterate what has already been mentioned above; think of all the good she did and the positives she brought to your life.

There is no easy way through that kind of experience. Make sure to keep good company and get help if you need to.

If you need to chat to someone about it, feel free to PM.

 

[TI92]

And now I'm back to feeling like shit and pissed and mad and sad and just ugh

Someone has been telling friends of mine about my mother for me, as if I can't fucking do it on my own. I'm LIVID

 

[Foffy]

I'm sure the person who was doing so was trying to ease your burden, OP. I would imagine this someone was acting out of compassion.

Sorry for your loss. Be gentle with yourself.

 

[TI92]

I'm sure the person who was doing so was trying to ease your burden, OP. I would imagine this someone was acting out of compassion.

Sorry for your loss. Be gentle with yourself.

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I don't even know them. How the hell does anyone do that? That is not okay in anyway