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Do you believe that shouting at your kids is acceptable in extreme cases of emergency/survival?

Is it ok to yell at your kids when instructing them in cases of emergency/survival?

  • Absolutely

    Votes: 1,549 89.6%

  • Hmmm....not sure

    Votes: 7 0.4%

  • Depends on the situation/child

    Votes: 153 8.8%

  • Absolutely not

    Votes: 20 1.2%
  • Total voters
    1,729
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brainchild

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After watching Bird Box, I thought about what I would do in a similar situation, and I honestly think there are definitely cases where vital instructions should be conveyed as seriously as possible, and when the recipients of said instructions are 5 year old children, your options are pretty limited. I suppose it depends on the children themselves, but I can certainly see how speaking intensely and with a raised voice might seem like the only reasonable way to convey that the instructions given must be obeyed absolutely and without equivocation.

Curious to see what you all think though. Was Malorie justified in the way she conveyed her instructions for the ride down the river or did she go too far?

BTW, here are Sandra's thoughts on the matter



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brainchild said:
For the purposes of this poll, emergency situations in which shouting directly escalates danger are not included; the 'depends on the situation/child' option does not include these scenarios. I did not think that needed to be stated, but apparently it does, so there you go.

You have the option of changing your vote if you feel that it has been made in error.
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Z-Beat

Z-Beat

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Oct 25, 2017
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"Fire. Everyone out." just doesn't have the same urgency, OP
 
Steeped in a Sea of Games

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Oct 25, 2017
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I have literally never met a single parent who hasn't yelled at their kids. It's very normal. Kids drive all parents crazy from time to time. Literally no exception.
 
BriGuy

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Oct 27, 2017
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Hand them a sternly worded letter instead.

What a weird question. In "extreme cases of emergency/survival," you can justify just about anything. I'd rather knock my kid unconscious than have him get killed if those are my two options.
 
Sarek

Sarek

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Oct 27, 2017
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If you raise your children well there isn't really need to yell. However emergency situations can obviously be very stressful to act rationally in, and I wouldn't blame a parent for raising their voice.
 
Firemind

Firemind

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Oct 25, 2017
15,543
Is this some meme I'm not aware of? You need to correct your kids some way OP. Stern talking is one of those ways. Not every kid is the same tho so YMMV
 
M.Bluth

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Oct 25, 2017
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Uh, seriously? People yell at their kids for misbehaving, you think if shit is going down and the dumb kid isn't following instructions that would save their ass a parent would stop to think "what if this traumatized my child"? You know what would be more traumatizing? Getting horribly injured or killed.
 
ElectricBlanketFire

ElectricBlanketFire

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Oct 25, 2017
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Who would rather let their kid die than shout to get them to safety?

I don't yell at my kids. I raise my voice from time to time because sometimes there's situations where they literally wouldn't be able to hear me if I didn't. But in a life and death situation where I need to get their attention immediately? Of course I would.
 
nel e nel

nel e nel

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Oct 27, 2017
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Can't wait to see what all the non-parents have to say...

Sarek said:
If you raise your children well there isn't really need to yell. However emergency situations can obviously be very stressful to act rationally in, and I wouldn't blame a parent for raising their voice.
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...ah, there we are.
 
Tezz

Tezz

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Oct 27, 2017
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I can't answer this because in addition to being yelled at, I was also spanked. Now, even as a 25 year old man, when my dad raises his voice at me, I still feel really bad. Like physically. Any adults that yell have always made me feel this way. So, I don't know what it feels like to be yelled at without fear of corporal punishment. I would definitely not want to yell at kids ever because of this.
 
Einchy

Einchy

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Oct 25, 2017
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M.Bluth said:
Uh, seriously? People yell at their kids for misbehaving, you think if shit is going down and the dumb kid isn't following instructions that would save their ass a parent would stop to think "what if this traumatized my child"? You know what would be more traumatizing? Getting horribly injured or killed.
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Parent of the year goes to: The mom who, under threat of a speeding car, kept a cool head and didn't yell at her kid and thus didn't traumatize them!*
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*The child was instantly killed on impact.
 
Burly

Burly

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Oct 25, 2017
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"Billy, there is a psychotic murderer with an axe in the house. Now, I'm not going to raise my voice, but you need to understand that it is important that you get out of the house before he murders you."
 

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Op is not a parent. Lol. You have to yell at kids when they run off to make them stop no matter how anti authoritarian you want to raise them.
 
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brainchild

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Sankt Ra said:
Op is not a parent. Lol. You have to yell at kids when they run off to make them stop no matter how anti authoritarian you want to raise them.
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I have five children and agree that there are cases where it's appropriate. Not sure what you're talking about. I asked the question not to know the answer for myself, but to see how many people agreed/disagreed.
 
Einchy

Einchy

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Yeah she saved my life by yelling, "DON'T GO IN THE WATER THERE'S A SHARK IN THERE!" but at what cost?
 
ishan

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Oct 27, 2017
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brainchild said:
Based on the looking results so far, it seems like it's at least worth discussing.
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Okay your post says extreme case emergency survival. Ppl posting no are essentially reckless parents or not parents. Like which wackjob parent wouldnt think of shouting for safety reasons under again i repeat extreme case emergency survival.

EDIt: luckily I see only one straight no so far probably someone trolling . But even then the depends are ... well the guy before said it right with "It depends on the disease and the child" for vaccination.
 
ElectricBlanketFire

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brainchild

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ishan said:
Okay your post says extreme case emergency survival. Ppl posting no are essentially reckless parents. Like which wackjob parent wouldnt think of shouting for safety reasons under again i repeat extreme case emergency survival.
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I agree with you, but I would still like to hear their reasoning, just out of curiosity.
 
LegendofJoe

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Kids can be pretty antagonistic and they're persistent. If you've never ran out of patience and yelled at your children you're a better parent than I am. So I voted yes.
 
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