I hold grudges for petty things. For years. I've literally forgotten the names of people I used to talk to at work or even hang out with at college but I remember the names and faces of people who've crossed me. I'm a serious grudge holder. People from years ago I'd say 'fuck you' to their face if I saw them in person.
I wouldn't say its ruined my life but damn does it make moving on from confrontation/insults difficult to impossible.
So, as I'm waiting for my account closure to go through, just curious how common holding grudges over minor/major things is. If you got past it, how did you manage to overcome the tendency to remember the bad? If anyone has some good tips, I'm going to make an effort to use them, maybe detoxify my interactions with other people a bit.
I wouldn't say its ruined my life but damn does it make moving on from confrontation/insults difficult to impossible.
So, as I'm waiting for my account closure to go through, just curious how common holding grudges over minor/major things is. If you got past it, how did you manage to overcome the tendency to remember the bad? If anyone has some good tips, I'm going to make an effort to use them, maybe detoxify my interactions with other people a bit.