Yet your reality removes all responsibility for yourself from yourself. We aren't talking about not helping other people because, in that, we agree that helping one another is something to be encouraged. We're talking about not helping yourself because it's easier to expect other people to do it for you. The issue that arises is differentiating between needing help and wanting help, between being unable to help yourself and simply choosing not to.
As a Brit I believe strongly in social welfare. Why does a government even exist if not to help the people that need help the most? Yet I do believe expecting help because you do not want to help yourself promotes a mentality of taking what you want and giving nothing back.
Folks these days just try to lean so hard one way or another, and attack anyone that doesn't do the same, that they lose sight of a balanced approach. I don't necessarily mean a moderate one, either, but you can be a progressive without denouncing all conservative values just as you can be a conservative that does not denounce all progressive values. The world isn't as black and white as people, especially some here, would like to believe.