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ERA Anonymous Confessions 2017 - New Location, New Administration, Same Old D-Pics
- Thread starter neoak
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It's actually happening now.
Age isn't a number. An 18 and 28 year old are both in different stages of life. Theres no chance at making it work. A lot of people change rapidly during that time.
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Oh, alright, I'll just go tell my 21-year-old girlfriend who's 13 years younger than me that it won't work because numbers and person on a message board said so.
...Oh, wait, no I won't, because I can actually talk to and understand people, and I want to be happy.
You are incorrect.
Thank you for providing evidence.
And, heck, when my birthday rolls around in less than a month, I'll be 35 and she'll be 21.
sorrynotsorry
sorrynotsorry
There's a friend I used to work with turning 50 with a 25 year old girlfriend. Also, coming from someone in their mid/late 30s, 10 years doesn't mean much at all. Hell, even my grandparents were 13 years apart and that must have worked out well enough.
There's also that. Just did some math in my head--I've dated a range of 14 years from my own over the years. Older, younger, taller, shorter, bigger,smaller-- it's about the quality of the connection.
My wife is ten years younger than me, happy not to think like you guys and be like Earthbound 64.
Also, another thought on that:
There's nothing here indicating the girl has any interest in him in the slightest.
So, it very well could just be an older guy thirsting after a younger girl who has no interest in him, and he's just looking for an excuse to say "Alright, her having a boyfriend [or whatever] is why I can't be with her" as opposed to "I can't be with her because she has no interest in me."
Just saiyan.
There's nothing here indicating the girl has any interest in him in the slightest.
So, it very well could just be an older guy thirsting after a younger girl who has no interest in him, and he's just looking for an excuse to say "Alright, her having a boyfriend [or whatever] is why I can't be with her" as opposed to "I can't be with her because she has no interest in me."
Just saiyan.
Yes, I am a dick.
But I was a dick for the Bourbon Chicken
And those rolls, oh my god
My only confession is that I participated in previous confession threads talking about the shit I went through as a kid, and it resulted in the guy posting the confession to completely berate me, resulting in me never posting anonymous/open confession again.
Some garbage like "OHH YOU WERE SEXUALLY ABUSED. BOO HOO. YOU WERE USED? BOO HOO" or something shit like that. Made my blood boil; instead of getting a solace, it just showed me that if anonymous confession gets me shit then I should never open up about myself to people I know. Not the right thinking but that was my rationale.
Anyways, you guys are all cool though!
Some garbage like "OHH YOU WERE SEXUALLY ABUSED. BOO HOO. YOU WERE USED? BOO HOO" or something shit like that. Made my blood boil; instead of getting a solace, it just showed me that if anonymous confession gets me shit then I should never open up about myself to people I know. Not the right thinking but that was my rationale.
Anyways, you guys are all cool though!
10 years younger guy - why guilt? I'm hoping nothing is more complicated with this like underage shit.
When I was 31, I dated a girl who was 21 for about 2 years. It didn't work out in the end, but that was more because we worked together rather than the age difference. She made me feel younger and I made her feel older, we used to say.
Also, last year when I was 34, I briefly dated an 18 year old. That I can definitely say was too big of an age difference to me, we just couldn't make it work past the physical attraction into an actual romantic relationship, so we mutually decided to just end it.
Maybe I should have confessed these things anonymously. Oh well.
Also, last year when I was 34, I briefly dated an 18 year old. That I can definitely say was too big of an age difference to me, we just couldn't make it work past the physical attraction into an actual romantic relationship, so we mutually decided to just end it.
Maybe I should have confessed these things anonymously. Oh well.
I have very vivid daydreams too, and also often use them as escapism from a difficult situation. Try writing or making them via art! I make some of mine through comics and prose. :)
Sounds like you might be genderfluid, which means your gender isn't fixed. It can swap between male, female and a mix of both.
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I call this "Waiting for Cumfessor".
Public confession: I need to find a way to cover up that I may have just broken my work keyboard from spitting out my drink.
Well done NTGYK.
The human tendency to engage in schadenfreude and become obsessed with catastrophe and lascivious details generally means that tales that aren't steeped in human misery and wrecked with carnage sometimes aren't given the attention they deserve, and it is truly unfortunate that some confessions get buried or get ignored. When I posted confessions, I read every single one and would reply (if I was ever callous or flippant, I apologize). NeOak does the same, he reads every single one, so at least you know that at least one person has read it and understood where you're coming from (whether they agree or not).
I'm in the minority here, but IMO cumfessor is all played out.
I'm sure there are better erotic fiction writers around on this forum. :)
I'm sure there are better erotic fiction writers around on this forum. :)
How can it when he has strangers cheering him on on the internet?
True. *Thinks to himself* I'm gonna need to take a shower now :(
Glad to see this thread revived. I feared we wouldn't see it again after the lilithepale incident on the other site but hopefully we get back on track this year!
I call this "Waiting for Cumfessor".
Speak for yourself.
We need more people like "Cumfessor"
;)
We're obviously not getting a complete picture here. And it's easy to sit and judge others.
I don't agree with cheating, but my views on things are also different since my divorce. You need to ensure that you're in the right situation for yourself.
You mean you're not your avatar?
Darn, I need to stop thinking people are their avatars.
...On the other hand, my avatar is an 8-year-old boy and a dog.
I can guarantee I'm living the life of a teen still.
Oops not in confession mode
If the confessor wants to give the complete picture, then he can go ahead. Until then, I'm going to judge him on what I've been presented with. Why should I give him the benefit of the doubt on anything? And you can figure out the "right situation" for yourself without being a complete tool to other people in your life.
Doesn't seem like people are really interested in long-form stuff.
Alright.
I don't recall saying that you should.
Well, I thought the implication was in your response. Sorry if I read that in.
No worries. Obviously we're all just judging with the information that we have, and are each going to do it through our own lenses. Given the limited format of these confessionals, I can see where the guy's coming from. But everyone's certainly free to come to their own conclusions based on what we've been given.
Yeah man, you done up and done it now. You are in way too deep. Your SO was asleep in bed, and you ended up going to the beach with your fling. You said you were happy at home...but how do you really feel about your assistant?
Take some time to think about what's going on here, bruh.
You mean you're not your avatar?
Darn, I need to stop thinking people are their avatars.
...On the other hand, my avatar is an 8-year-old boy and a dog.
Lol. Not sure if you're serious, but yeah my schtick in the other place were avatars of famous girl singers in the EDM scene, and I would switch avys every 3rd month (which I've been lacking). My current avy is of Phoebe Ryan.
Yeah, serious, I'm horrible at placing where people's avatars are from / tracking avatar changes.
My view on it (shaped/colored by my own personal experiences, of course) is something along the lines of "look before you leap"/"a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush" (no innuendo intended).
Yeah, it's kind of a jerk thing to do. But, tossing something away without knowing if something else was going to work is a difficult situation.
Wow that's really fucking shitty. Like I don't care if that ruins confessember, if the person posting confessions does that shit I would hope they get banned.
Haha. Aight. I think some folks are like that, too. It doesn't help that I have an actual person as my avy :P
Oh I get it... I just think it's weak as fuck.
Plus, automatically the person you're getting with will always know that you could just as easily do it to them.
Edit - For what it's worth, I told my (now wife) that I wouldn't get involved with her until she ended her current relationship. So I do practice what I preach. lol
Oh man, I wonder if I did that. I honestly don't remember. If I did, why on earth would I have said that? Shao Kahn, I don't remember having done that, but if I did, I apologize.
I am not a psychopathic knife-wielding cartoon robot - at least I don't think I am. [/anonymous_confession]
This is very true. 18 year old is still very much developing. Someone 10 year older than them is in a position to easily take advantage of their weaknesses. Yeah it's not illegal, but still. 18 year old is barely an adult. When both parties are well into their twenties atleast the situation changes a lot. 25 and 35 for example is entirely different thing.
And this isn't to accuse anyone here for being a predator or taking an advantage of their loved one. But still the situation should be recognized and to monitor own behaviour.
talking about age differences, when I was 25 I once got really drunk and got to second base with a 56 year old woman
I'll confess something very minor from when I was a kid. My aunt had a kiosk and I was very often there with her, for example in situations when my parents were at work or something like that. I stole candy from the backroom boxes. This is also silly in the sense that I probably just had to ask and I would have got it. It's not like she didn't always offer me sweets too. Not sure why I didn't just ask, maybe I didn't just want to seem like I was begging. Since I was teached not to. My parents were always trying to refuse money on my behalf too when my relatives were to give some and teached me to do the same.
Edit: I also pursued a woman who was engaged. I gave very little thought to the other guy and he even once caught me when I was visiting their apartment. As he was supposed to be at work, but took a sick day. I think it was because he was suspicious. He had seen me lurking around earlier times when he was going for work. To my defense and her defense, she was very unhappy. Not that I would have ended up making her happy either, we were together for about 2 years. And she never actually cheated him with me, they broke up before we went any further with the relationship. Unless I'm misremembering, she did cheat him with another guy earlier though.
Edit: I also pursued a woman who was engaged. I gave very little thought to the other guy and he even once caught me when I was visiting their apartment. As he was supposed to be at work, but took a sick day. I think it was because he was suspicious. He had seen me lurking around earlier times when he was going for work. To my defense and her defense, she was very unhappy. Not that I would have ended up making her happy either, we were together for about 2 years. And she never actually cheated him with me, they broke up before we went any further with the relationship. Unless I'm misremembering, she did cheat him with another guy earlier though.
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Yeah, there are obviously a whole host of issues, and I'm not hand-waving them away or anything.
The second point, about "the person you're getting with will always know that you could just as easily do it to them" though, I don't agree. Just to use an extreme example (and to be clear, this isn't related to the present situation at all. Also, I'm not the confessor, if that wasn't obvious) - if the reason you're doing this is because your spouse abuses you, I think it's easy enough to say "Yeah, if you abuse me I might do this to you as well... But, assuming you don't, there's no reason to worry."
Just my 2 cents.
I know. I was just using that as a clear example.
Certainly there are plenty of situations where that isn't the case.
That's some bullshit. I don't think that kind of behaviour will fly here, but that obviously doesn't change the experience you already had. Props for sharing what you went through in that old thread, because just knowing other survivors exist can make all the difference in the world to people who've had similar experiences. You might have helped someone who read your post in ways you'll never know.
Disturbing and interesting topic...but it has to be asked - what was the aim of the writer's "style" when writing this review?
Am I my name…or my avatar…?
Anyway, I have no relationship snafus to share. SparkWorkDude…please think of your partner. Seriously.
Anyway, I have no relationship snafus to share. SparkWorkDude…please think of your partner. Seriously.