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"Friends" buying you a drink without asking if you want one
- Thread starter Spaceroast
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Don't be a pussy and refuse...
I'm kidding of course, but as many others have advised, simply say no. If your friends are not cool with it you need new friends. I have a friend or two who may go this route, but they respect me enough to take a real no for an answer.
I have faith in you OP
I'm kidding of course, but as many others have advised, simply say no. If your friends are not cool with it you need new friends. I have a friend or two who may go this route, but they respect me enough to take a real no for an answer.
I have faith in you OP
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Man y'all are acting like I throw a tantrum in the bar when someone gives me a free drink. I generally just take it happily and drink it while thinking "goddamn I'm gonna regret this."
I do blame myself entirely for not just politely declining and letting someone else have it. I shouldn't worry so much about rejecting the goodwill of others if deep down I really don't want it. I apologize for the dumb thread.
I do blame myself entirely for not just politely declining and letting someone else have it. I shouldn't worry so much about rejecting the goodwill of others if deep down I really don't want it. I apologize for the dumb thread.
Love the passive aggressive "Friends" in quotes in the title.
Just don't drink it. I generally do drink a freebie but if I don't want it I'll just say "Cheers, I appreciate the offer but I've had enough." Someone else will soon take it.
Just don't drink it. I generally do drink a freebie but if I don't want it I'll just say "Cheers, I appreciate the offer but I've had enough." Someone else will soon take it.
I had this when I was on my drinking circuits in my younger days.
I just made it clear pre-drinks I'm in my own round don't buy me anything
I just made it clear pre-drinks I'm in my own round don't buy me anything
What the hell has happened to common sense?
Well first of all when you buy a round just ask everyone what they want. Not doing this is dumb, wasteful and awkward.
Secondly: buying rounds is like a peer pressure in it self (or at least to me, as I don't want to be the freeloader who didn't pay...again). Of course there will jokes on you and peer pressure when you say you had enough, cuz everyone is Don't be a drama queen about it and just aks for a non alcoholic drink or keep saying no.
Well first of all when you buy a round just ask everyone what they want. Not doing this is dumb, wasteful and awkward.
Secondly: buying rounds is like a peer pressure in it self (or at least to me, as I don't want to be the freeloader who didn't pay...again). Of course there will jokes on you and peer pressure when you say you had enough, cuz everyone is Don't be a drama queen about it and just aks for a non alcoholic drink or keep saying no.
I seriously think there needs to be a feature where people have to wait an hour after they draft a thread, forcing them to reread the post and mull whether it's a good idea or not. 😅
It's annoying as hell... But even I do this from time to time, when you are in good mood and drunk as hell, then you kinda assume everyone will drink with you. Same time, I don't get offended if my friends don't want the drink, I'll just drink it or leave it at the table. If I'm offered uncalled drink, then I don't usually drink it and nobody is offended.
But then we'd get way less dumb threads where everyone in it calls the op a prat.
I can see the upside, but these people won't get the talking to they need otherwise.
As an Adult i feel utterly empowered to say "Christ mate i don't want a Rum and Coke, you drink it" "nah mate you drink it, are you chicken?" begins chanting "DOWN IT DOWN IT DOWN IT" people join in and the peer pressure is reverse
Or just don't drink it, give it to someone else, ask them to not buy you that drink etc
Or just don't drink it, give it to someone else, ask them to not buy you that drink etc
He's not part of the systemHow I imagine the OP on drinking nights
despite being an introvert around people until I've gotten to know them this place makes me feel l've mastered social interaction at times
I find this somewhat annoying when my friends do it, however not enough that I would define it as "garbage behavior" or define my friends as "friends". A "naw, I'm good for right now" usually gets them to simmer down on the idea. And if they still buy me a drink anyway, well their money, not mine; they can't force me to drink it.
No, you decided to post on an online forum to throw a tantrum instead of declining an unwanted drink or hanging out with people who don't actively insult you because you don't want it. Social interactions like this aren't difficult, OP. It's a friendly gesture. Not "garbage" as you put it. If the person is offended by you declining or happens to act like a douche, they weren't worth your time to begin with.
Tell them you are good, and let someone else have it? How is this garbage behavior? Some of the shit people say on this site man.......
Friends buying you a drink or a shot (shots tend to be way more common in my experience) is just a part of life.
Friendly nagging to get you to drink said drink or shot is also so god damn common that I don't know why anyone is upset.
Let me know when they hold you down and pry open your mouth and then we can talk about there being an issue. Or if they know you're an alcoholic recovering or otherwise.
Friendly nagging to get you to drink said drink or shot is also so god damn common that I don't know why anyone is upset.
Let me know when they hold you down and pry open your mouth and then we can talk about there being an issue. Or if they know you're an alcoholic recovering or otherwise.