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Help me learn origami. Want to impress my crush at Whole Foods
- Thread starter MajulaDream
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I'm glad the OP realized this was no bueno but still learned how to do a cool craft. Just in general, don't ask out people at work.
did/do you work at a video game store?
i always feel bad for girls that do. i had a young, very pretty co-worker at EB Games back in the day and I had to call security more than once.
You got it. I worked at GameStop (for years) up until I was offered an internship in my field.
Damn...This is pretty simple if you have any social awareness.
Next time you go to check out with her, ask her if she'd like to grab coffee or dinner sometime
If she says sure, ask if you can text her later to set it up and grab her number. Success.
If she says no or isn't interested, say "no worries, have a great day!" And continue on knowing she wasn't into you.
No origami. No waiting around for her to get off work. No weird interactions. Jeez
Next time you go to check out with her, ask her if she'd like to grab coffee or dinner sometime
If she says sure, ask if you can text her later to set it up and grab her number. Success.
If she says no or isn't interested, say "no worries, have a great day!" And continue on knowing she wasn't into you.
No origami. No waiting around for her to get off work. No weird interactions. Jeez
Same I've been following since around midday yesterday in work lmao
There was a staff post a few posts above yours that told me to stop so if you want to discuss this over PM I'd be fine with that.
This, and only this. It doesn't have to be amazingly natural, awkward is fine but only to a degree and only for so long.
- Hey, would you like to grab a coffee someday?
- Sorry I'm not interested
- Oh ok, have a nice day!
How can that little interaction be creepier than looking the person up in social media is still beyond me and (again) as someone who works with clients I'd say please don't do that, ever.
- Sorry I'm not interested
- Oh ok, have a nice day!
How can that little interaction be creepier than looking the person up in social media is still beyond me and (again) as someone who works with clients I'd say please don't do that, ever.
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Yeah, while I fully get why people would frown on asking someone out at their work, the responses of "Just figure out her full name and find her on Facebook instead" are making me feel like I don't understand 2019.
I'm going to chalk it up to "People on Resetera are weird."
With the way you've acted towards other users ever since that post and not realise how #notallmen/sealioning you come across, I'll pass.
So why did you quote me in the first place outside of putting words in my mouth? I've never even argued anything about men, I argued about women not all holding the same opinion. Me thinking being affraid of every man you come across is just making life difficult for yourself was never my main point. I'm happy for you that you were able to apply stereotypes to someone today to feel better about yourself, glad I could help out.
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My fave thing about these threads is that men never have to think about the recent times where a man has gone on a shooting spree because a woman turned him down or because he couldn't get laid. Men are so privileged that they literally never stop to think about the fact that men can get angry or violent if you turn them down. I personally have more than a few examples of this, and I'm positive that 99% of women do too.
Yup. Men just need to ask any female person they know and just ask, if statistics don't do it for them. It's depressing how frequent it is. I asked my sister a few years ago, was saddened.
Good gods.... this is so wrong. >_<
Adding her on social media after they've interacted outside of her work (like gone on a date or whatever), sure. Before that? Fuck no. I'd be utterly creeped out in her place, way more than if he had just asked my number...
or even given me an origami with his number...
Please please do not add her on social media, OP.
Agreed with this.
I think it really really depends on what kind of non-work interactions they've had. It's possible that even such interactions were just her trying to be nice/doing her job and not really "genuine", though, no matter how sincere it seemed from his end, and the guy should always keep this in mind.
Thank you for your perspective. I never worked customer service, but I think I'd feel similarly. At least you can have a good laugh about the origami with your co-workers or something and laugh at the awkward nerd or whatever (sorry, OP... xD), whereas, depending on how a verbal interaction goes, it can be really uncomfortable.
oh my god lol
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Update went to Whole Foods
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She was working the register today when I came through. I only asked her if she had any fun weekend plans. She got pretty excited and started telling me about a hike and camping spot she is visiting with her boyfriend..
My response was basically like "oh that sounds awesome, I hope you have a good time!" (inside I was kicking myself but thanking the gods I didn't bring origami)
Then she asked "What about you?" and my response was a bit of a mess I think lol. I said I was gonna relax and play some video games (sigh) I guess I could have mentioned I'm learning origami too, but oh well.. she's taken, that's that
Silver lining, I was able to discover this organically and without making her uncomfortable I assume
My response was basically like "oh that sounds awesome, I hope you have a good time!" (inside I was kicking myself but thanking the gods I didn't bring origami)
Then she asked "What about you?" and my response was a bit of a mess I think lol. I said I was gonna relax and play some video games (sigh) I guess I could have mentioned I'm learning origami too, but oh well.. she's taken, that's that
Silver lining, I was able to discover this organically and without making her uncomfortable I assume
maybe she read the thread and took initiative
anyway, at least now you dont need to think about it anymore and can move right along into the rest of this life of opportunity!
anyway, at least now you dont need to think about it anymore and can move right along into the rest of this life of opportunity!
Don't let the fact that she has a boyfriend stop you OP. Win her away from her boyfriend by making a beautiful origami turtle. Wait outside for her to get off or if public places make you uncomfortable and want a more private moment to give it to her, follow her to her house and approach her as she is walking inside. She will most certainly fall in love and dump that loser in a heartbeat!
Good luck and keep us posted!
Good luck and keep us posted!
You did good op. Didn't do any of that creepy crap, didn't make her uncomfortable. Now you can move on from this
At least OP didn't do it but JFC do I feel bad for women who have to work in retail. Seriously can't even imagine what it's like for women just to be existing in the world and knowing there are men everywhere just like "oh she looked this way! Does she want me? Should I ask her out?"...Unreal what women have to deal with. And the people saying that it's paranoia when women say these things make them nervous and fearful should try talking to an actual woman about these things and hearing their experiences.
Sorry about the bad news but at least it was a very organic way to find out about it. Better luck next time. If you stick with the origami you at least have an interesting future story to tell about how you learned it..
The biggest take away from this thread should be: Please respect people working in the services industry. If you want to conceive of and execute an elaborate romantic plan for your Doctor or Lawyer then please go ahead (hint: you probably won't) but leave people who have to interface with the public for their living (especially on low wages) alone.
Not at their services job or around their services job.
Gotta love the people who say "Yeah I asked someone out at their job and they turned me down and I went back and it wasn't a problem, no big deal, life goes on". NO.
Nobody is saying people shouldn't ask people out, no one is against romance but life is not like Pretty Woman. You are not Richard Gere. If someones capacity to react to you is hampered by their work then it's not appropriate.
Full disclosure: I'm saying this as a Man who was often belittled by Women when I worked in the services industry and honestly it wasn't that big a deal but I can only imagine what it's like for Women especially if they get some "Alpha", roided, gift to Women type; and they exist, trust me I've known many.
OP I think anyone who has read and followed your posts can tell you are a really nice guy, you just need to meet people with similar interests and as a current singleton I know that's not easy. I think we all know you have a creative flair so get out there and find like minded people. Social media is not the answer for everyone, I know it's not for me. Remember the more people you meet the more people you WILL meet.
Not at their services job or around their services job.
Gotta love the people who say "Yeah I asked someone out at their job and they turned me down and I went back and it wasn't a problem, no big deal, life goes on". NO.
Nobody is saying people shouldn't ask people out, no one is against romance but life is not like Pretty Woman. You are not Richard Gere. If someones capacity to react to you is hampered by their work then it's not appropriate.
Full disclosure: I'm saying this as a Man who was often belittled by Women when I worked in the services industry and honestly it wasn't that big a deal but I can only imagine what it's like for Women especially if they get some "Alpha", roided, gift to Women type; and they exist, trust me I've known many.
OP I think anyone who has read and followed your posts can tell you are a really nice guy, you just need to meet people with similar interests and as a current singleton I know that's not easy. I think we all know you have a creative flair so get out there and find like minded people. Social media is not the answer for everyone, I know it's not for me. Remember the more people you meet the more people you WILL meet.
He wanted to make an origami flower in a basket...
I dunno what to tell you.
Are you saying that I shouldn't ask prostitutes for dates after sex? Romance truly is dead.
Well actually I did and it was a great relationship for a few years. Sex workers are people too, not just thier job title.
This... seems like such a jump. If OP actually "kindled a friendship" with the person, why wouldn't he add her? I mean, that's me taking his post at face value, but it just seems weird to be bothered by a friend adding you on a social platform.
thank god you discovered this organically rather than origamically.
