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Help me learn origami. Want to impress my crush at Whole Foods
- Thread starter MajulaDream
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Don´t do it. Seriously, leave her alone.
I´ve worked in similar environments and people like you are the reason why customer service providers eventually realize that their lives are easier if they are cold and rude to people. Do you know how many times I´ve seen situations like this? It´s always the same: we are nice, make a couple of jokes once in a while and someone assumes they have a chance and has to make us uncomfortable because we can´t say "why the fuck would you bring origami to a complete stranger? Do you want to wear my face or what?". If she´s not interested she´s going to spend the next few shifts afraid the origami weirdo might show up. Leave her alone and meet people in places that are for meeting people, not in places that are for buying tomatoes.
Also, if you want to impress someone, use a skill or talent you actually have. It´s one thing to make an origami whatever for someone and a whole different level of creepy to LEARN origami just to impress someone, particularly when we are talking about someone whose name you only know because they wear a name tag.
I´ve worked in similar environments and people like you are the reason why customer service providers eventually realize that their lives are easier if they are cold and rude to people. Do you know how many times I´ve seen situations like this? It´s always the same: we are nice, make a couple of jokes once in a while and someone assumes they have a chance and has to make us uncomfortable because we can´t say "why the fuck would you bring origami to a complete stranger? Do you want to wear my face or what?". If she´s not interested she´s going to spend the next few shifts afraid the origami weirdo might show up. Leave her alone and meet people in places that are for meeting people, not in places that are for buying tomatoes.
Also, if you want to impress someone, use a skill or talent you actually have. It´s one thing to make an origami whatever for someone and a whole different level of creepy to LEARN origami just to impress someone, particularly when we are talking about someone whose name you only know because they wear a name tag.
heeeyyyy, my ex boyfriend gave me origami flowers and cats sometimes. i thought it was rly sweet.
but as a random gift from a random person, no thx
I mean, yeah. I has happened to me and it has happened to coworkers. And even worse when someone recognizes you on the street and approaches you and you have to be nice because they might complain to your boss. I´ve seen this shit many times.
Lots of people here who have never been in the situation of OP´s crush giving advice. You have no idea how many weirdos fetishize customer service workers, particularly women, and casually and mildly harass them. There are a few guys like OP every day in her life and OP needs to realize that.
I've been out the dating pool for 6 years now, and I didn't have any problems meeting women to date, but my off limits were women who were working. Even if you are 99.99% sure they are into you, just leave them alone. By default they have to be nice its part of their job.
Save origami for the 4th or so date, maybe something when you've been married for years and the kids are bored because it's raining outside and the internet is down.
If you already know each other well just ask if she wants to grab some coffee or lunch, or just set up a time to hang out and see if you two have chemistry. Who knows, maybe she has habits that you might not like, and the illusion/spell wears off. You don't want to go on a origami lesson, and put a lot of energy into trying to impress her to find out she annoys you after 30 minutes because she's obsessed with Korean boy bands and won't stop talking about them.
If you already know each other well just ask if she wants to grab some coffee or lunch, or just set up a time to hang out and see if you two have chemistry. Who knows, maybe she has habits that you might not like, and the illusion/spell wears off. You don't want to go on a origami lesson, and put a lot of energy into trying to impress her to find out she annoys you after 30 minutes because she's obsessed with Korean boy bands and won't stop talking about them.
This isn't going to end well. At all. Trust me I worked in a grocery store like this for years I know how it goes.
Just go to a bar or join tinder or some shit.
Just go to a bar or join tinder or some shit.
my japanese tutor gave me a origami godzilla shooting a beam
that was rad
then i quit though
origami ends relationships
that was rad
then i quit though
origami ends relationships
Seriously though, people are being overdramatic about the asking out shit. No origamis. If you're really interested, just casually ask if she's busy this weekend, or ask her Instagram or something. If you get a I'm busy, or a I don't have one or something like that, there's your answer. No need to make it extra awkward.
Don't know why any of us are even in this thread. OP is never coming back in here and is just going to act like this thread never happened.
Just curious? Asking for a friend?
I've worked retail and these guys are obvious, hanging back loitering around the tills until she has no queue before making a move. Even better when my till is free and I call them forward only for them to let the person behind them got first so they get served cute cashier.
We've seen it all and these moves are neither original or slick casual as these guys think they are. Ever.
So glad I read this whole thread. First thought was "oh god she's gonna be Asian, isn't she?" That twitter story made my night now I need to shower the awkward cringe away
MajulaDream If you're a shy guy who isn't a "nice guy" asshole, I hope you have empathy to see it from the customer service employee's perspective of how bad this looks.
However, if he's a regular customer there, and if he is rejected it will be incredibly awkward to go there again and the employee would feel really bad that they're stuck in this situation that they didn't want to where a regular customer could hit on them.
I respect your opinion on this stuff, Era in general is very quick to dogpile people and assume the worst. You even did this in your post which could be paraphrased as "if you are a nice guy and not the ass I assume you are then leave her alone"
Follow up, this good OP? I'm rusty but I still mostly got it down.
Don't do this to people working OP...
This. Making it more emotional than it needs to be with a gift like that is just too much for someone you don't know that well. Just ask her out, make it quick and move on if you get rejected.
Just curious? Asking for a friend?
Hahaha. LMAO.
But, seriously, I was curious as to how people here think they should approach the situation the OP is in since most people here think talking to her at work or outside is a bad idea. The gist of it is don't do anything.
It might not succeed in getting you a date, but I highly recommend just talking to her like she was a regular person. Be yourself, be kind and respectful, ask her about her day or comment on interesting things that she chose for herself. A funky bracelet perhaps. (Don't compliment her body, btw, compliment the things she chose to express herself with.) Chat her up. If she's interested or becomes interested, she'll make more of an effort to talk to you and maybe ask you for a low key coffee. And if not, well, you survive to see another trip to Whole Foods.
Because while you're rightly getting teased for the origami idea (and I'll add my voice to the chorus of "please, tell me she's not Asian") and rightly warned against asking CS folks out, I think your impulse seems relatively cute and earnest. Like, it feels like it comes from a good, though socially awkward and immature, place.
Because while you're rightly getting teased for the origami idea (and I'll add my voice to the chorus of "please, tell me she's not Asian") and rightly warned against asking CS folks out, I think your impulse seems relatively cute and earnest. Like, it feels like it comes from a good, though socially awkward and immature, place.
Yeah. Ignore the "never at work!" people here. Just do your normal ceckout conversation, and ask. "hey would you like to get coffee sometime?" She'll probably say no. It's fine. You can still go to her line after and be whole food friends. Both of your lives will continue to be fine.
If it must be someone that works at a place you frequent, become a regular and crack the smallest of small talk from time to time until they initiate an actual conversation. Then you've got a way to get to know them over time where they may reach a point to ask if you want to hang after work or you get invited to a group hangout or something.
Unless you're hot. Then different rules apply.
If personal experience is anything to go by, this will be the break room later:
"and THEN he gave me a fucking origami crane!"
If you want to ask her out in a very casual way, that is fine. Ask her out for coffee or a movie or something, but try to find a way to do it that doesn't put a lot of pressure on her.
Do not bring her weird gifts and presents. If she is interested in you, it doesn't matter whether or not you bring her gifts. If she is not interested in you, it doesn't matter whether or not you bring her gifts. Your origami creation is really not going to sway her one way or another.
Do not bring her weird gifts and presents. If she is interested in you, it doesn't matter whether or not you bring her gifts. If she is not interested in you, it doesn't matter whether or not you bring her gifts. Your origami creation is really not going to sway her one way or another.
Chances are my wife was interested in me before we bounced music recs, but I like to pretend that had something to do with it
Not doing it
OP
OP
I'm back.
Wow this thread blew up.
I was going to post a pic of my progress with an origami flower design I found.. but yeah... I'm having second thoughts after reading through the feedback. Some interesting posts aside, there is some really good constructive criticism from posters which I do actually appreciate. Thanks.
To answer a recurring question, no the person is not Asian lol. You can breathe Era lol.
Pretty sure she's Romanian or Russian. Eastern European. I think she's great, I like her :)
But I have to face up to the fact that there's no way my plan is great or would be acceptable as I earlier envisioned.. its fun learning how to do something new at least (origami).
Wow this thread blew up.
I was going to post a pic of my progress with an origami flower design I found.. but yeah... I'm having second thoughts after reading through the feedback. Some interesting posts aside, there is some really good constructive criticism from posters which I do actually appreciate. Thanks.
To answer a recurring question, no the person is not Asian lol. You can breathe Era lol.
Pretty sure she's Romanian or Russian. Eastern European. I think she's great, I like her :)
But I have to face up to the fact that there's no way my plan is great or would be acceptable as I earlier envisioned.. its fun learning how to do something new at least (origami).
I become more convinced Era is mostly shut ins by the day. I'm a huge introvert and I still wouldn't have any problem asking someone I liked out on shift. Chances are if you get along well then you'll have a good read on whether it's just the professional niceties or genuine rapport. It isn't like it has to be a hammy awkward proposal either. Asking people out on a date in real life isn't hard or abnormal or creepy if you're a normally adjusted person who isn't trying to pick up randoms you've just met.
This is my thinking too. Asking someone out is Ok as long as you've become familiar and comfortable to have a conversation with to them. But if you just talked to them like 2 or 3 times, yeah, asking her out is a big no. Also, that origami thing is a no unless you're already friends.
LMAO.