Op, this is not the way to live life. There is a very simple, easy solution to your dilemma.
Give her the Origami with your number without a word, then don't go back to that store unless she calls you!
IF you're not willing to sacrifice the store, don't do it! Accept the fact that you only have a 10% chance. Maybe 20% if you're traditionally good looking.
But I feel most of ERA thinks abandoning your whole foods is unthinkable. Is it?
And remember, taking risks and being bold IS sexy. I speak from 2 decades of experience.
And another thing. People are fucking weird. What repels or horrifies some will excite and attract others. This is true of women as well as men, as we are all human. This too is something I learned from 2 decades of experience.
Please don't do this, OP.
Even if you don't plan on ever returning, she doesn't know that and the anticipation of bumping into you again and potentially having to make awkward smalltalk could be just as anxiety inducing for her as the interaction itself.
Remember, a lot of men handle rejection badly and having to be on the lookout or some could-be weirdo is not something she should have to deal with at work, a place she can't easily leave if she feels uncomfortable and a place you know she'll be everyday.
Furthermore, if she really has enjoyed chatting with you on a platonic level this is only going to reinforce the idea that you were solely talking to her to get in her pants.
When someone thinks they've made a genuine connection with another human being only to discover that it was all a cover for ulterior motives, it can really mess with a persons sense of self worth.
As for for plan itself, I'm sorry but there's nothing
BOLD or
SEXY about asking someone out on a piece of paper and then running off into the night never to be seen again. It's somewhat creative sure, but at the end of the day it just comes across as an elaborate way of avoiding the potential embarrassment of a face-to-face rejection. Not very sexy if you ask me.
Personally, I don't think it's appropriate to ask someone out at their place of work but if your minds already made up, I'd suggest the following steps:
- Go in on a Friday, engage in general smalltalk.
- Let her know your plans for the weekend and casually ask if she has any of her own.
- If she's non specific about life outside of work don't push the issue, this is generally an indication that she's not interested in anything other than an employee/customer relationship.
- If she says she's going to be at a specific bar/park/activity, let her know you like it there and go sometimes (it's going to help if you're genuine here).
- She's more likely to be comfortable opening up about her weekend if she already knows you have your own plans but if she's responds unenthusiastically or changes the subject, again don't push the issue she's probably not interested.
- If she reacts positively or even mentions potentially seeing you there at some point in the future, remind her that you have plans this weekend but that you'll probably go next weekend.
- If you see her there next weekend OR if she changes her plans to be where you are this weekend feel free to go up and say hi, she's probably at least a little interested.
It's a pretty fool-proof approach because it gives her the power to escalate the conversation if she's inclined as well as offering you a number opportunities to naturally disengage if it's becoming clear she's not interested.
Whatever you do don't try and inject yourself into her plans by coincidentally 'running into her' where she specifically told you she was going to be this weekend. Even if she's into you this is a pretty bad look.
