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How do I aproach my partner to suggest... a threesome?

Nov 15, 2017
3,672
#57
Tell her you want to explain someone how much gaming has advanced since Super Mario World.
Was there ever an update with this? lol

Threesomes are almost never a good idea if you really value your relationship with your current partner. Threesomes can cause a lot of animosity between partners and more often than not someone ends up catching feelings in the situation and then someone is left getting hurt. If you're bored with your current sex life then suggest some new things that you can try with each other before trying to introduce someone else into the equation.
 

Sephzilla

Herald of Stoptimus Crime
Member
Oct 25, 2017
11,040
#58
I'm going to be perfectly honest, if your answer to shaking things up with your partner is to introduce another person into the equation that makes me slightly question the health of your relationship. And your partner may very well think the exact same thing.

Edit: To further clarify what I mean; if you and your partner haven't discussed anything like this before especially after almost 4 years of being together, your partner will more than likely interpret this as you low-key asking to have sex with someone else. Which will obviously go very badly.
 
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Oct 25, 2017
17,977
#60
We have been together for almost 3.5 years now, and I feel like it would be a... nice experience to shake things up?

I am not sure it is a good idea but I am kind of into it... but I am also at a very horny phase of my life so maybe I am thinking too much with the d.

People who already did it... is it worth it?

EDIT: MODS PLS HALP I THOUGHT I WAS IN THE ETCTERA PART
We talking another guy or another girl? Do have a person in mind, do you know this person or would you be looking for an online random?

I personally wouldn't go down this route, but if you insist, bring it up as something you were reading about online.
 
Oct 27, 2017
3,043
#61
You watch Gaspar Noe's Love on Netflix without telling her about the movie.

If she's remotely interested, she'll tell you afterwards.

Most women will see an out of the blue request for a 3some as an indictment of your waning interest in them, so tread lightly.
 
Oct 25, 2017
11,384
Brazil
#67
We talking another guy or another girl? Do have a person in mind, do you know this person or would you be looking for an online random?

I personally wouldn't go down this route, but if you insist, bring it up as something you were reading about online.
actually by the op's wording we can't even know if the partner is a guy or a girl =P

Yeah ... knowing if you are on a straight or homo relationship would helps a lot
 
Oct 25, 2017
643
Chicago, IL
#69
Just ask her what she thinks about threesomes in general and gauge her reaction to decide on discussing it further. If you think she’ll get freaked out at the mere mention of one, ask yourself - is this something you need to know? If not, maybe don’t bring it up.

Is your girlfriend prone to jealousy or possessiveness? If so, this is probably a bad bet.
 
#72
Good luck OP. Like a year ago my wife started talking about her fantasies and it led to talking about a threesome, then swinging in general. It's been quite an adventure.

Communication and trust are super super important if you want to get into this.
 
Nov 17, 2017
5,492
#73
Gonna need way more context, OP. We know nothing about your partner or your relationship other than the fact that you've been together for nearly 4 years and you want to fuck someone else. Like I want to say don't bring it up at all based on that but you need to tell us more.

Overcooked 2 is a good place to start
My girlfriend and I play a lot of Overcooked but it's hard with only two people so we've been looking for a third. One time at a party we did it with another couple and it was so much fun.
 
Oct 27, 2017
779
#74
Just know that, if you do go through with it, it'll likely cause the relationship to end at some point down the line.

VERY few couples survive these things.
 
May 2, 2018
613
Tampa, Fl
#75
I can't even with this thread. XD

I've had threesomes and they can be very fun, but they can go wrong VERY fast. Everyone needs to be onboard, recently checked for STDs, and I don't recommend using intoxicants to get the courage going. If this happens with a friend sometimes it can go sour afterwards.

But really there isn't enough information to go on based on the OP post.
 
Oct 27, 2017
1,297
#79
My wife and I opened our relationship to dating outside of marriage and three/foursomes. Honestly, I was incredibly nervous before I brought it up but the conversation went great. Just, you know, have a conversation. And if they say no, then respect that.
 
Nov 4, 2017
557
Minnesota
#80
Judging from the phrasing of how you presented this topic to us I'm gonna assume that you're expecting a MFF three some. Just because of that I think this sort of experience will destroy the relationship.
 
Oct 27, 2017
3,370
#84
If your partner is a girl, and not bisexual, what answer are you expecting?

Also, I expect it will most likely lead to some fight. Your partner can feel she's not attractive enough for you, or that you're bored of her (same if your partner's a guy obviously)
 
Oct 25, 2017
17,977
#88
Just thinking how I'd feel if my hypothetical partner asked me and how different the answers would be if the third person would a guy or girl and how I'd be a hypocrite if I was cool with one and not the other.

I could only do a threesome as a single person and even then that sounds exhausting.
 
Oct 26, 2017
2,051
#89
Unless you know your partner is already into such things, you don't ask. Your best chance is if the 3rd person asks if they can join you and your partner in bed.
 
Oct 26, 2017
1,514
London
#90
Sing her a song:

Well, you could bring your roommate
I don't know if Stu is keen to
But if you want, we could double team you

How 'bout you and two dudes?
Him, you, and Stu in the nude
Bein' lewd with two dudes for food
Well, that's if Stu's into it too
 
Jan 19, 2018
528
#92
My personal recommendation...don't. It's not all it's cracked up to be and, depending on your long term plans, can cause a lot of issues. Take the interpersonal issues (fights, schedules, jealousy, etc.) you currently have with just the two of you...double or triple that depending on if one or both of you have a relationship with said third.

It can get ugly fast...
 
Oct 27, 2017
1,932
England
#93
Literally just ask.
Like. “Have you ever wanted a threesome/have you ever considered a threesome/have you ever fantasied about a threesome?”

The answer is either going to be yes or no.

Then they’ll likely ask you the same. To which you should reply honestly.

If both yes, have fun and list potential friends or people you’d think would be down.

I can see why a lot of posters are cautious but to say this is some sort of relationship breaker is ridiculous.
 
Nov 15, 2017
1,880
#96
My personal recommendation...don't. It's not all it's cracked up to be and depending on your long term plans, can cause a lot of issues. Take the interpersonal issues (fights, schedules, jealousy, etc.) you currently have with just the two of you...double or triple that depending on if one or both of you have a relationship with said third.

It can get ugly fast...
OwO?
Sounds like personal experience
 
Oct 27, 2017
420
#97
As others have said, you can just ask.

Just understand that asking alone could break your relationship.

Edit - and they're really not that great unless you enjoy sex on an animalistic scale.
 
Oct 26, 2017
3,657
Clemson, SC
#98
Literally just ask.
Like. “Have you ever wanted a threesome/have you ever considered a threesome/have you ever fantasied about a threesome?”

The answer is either going to be yes or no.

Then they’ll likely ask you the same. To which you should reply honestly.

If both yes, have fun and list potential friends or people you’d think would be down.

I can see why a lot of posters are cautious but to say this is some sort of relationship breaker is ridiculous.
Yeah, I asked mine what she thought about them. It wasn't a "I'm interested, and I'm going to ask" thing though. She's bi, and was married to a woman, so I just asked. Her response was "I'm not sharing you with anyone.". LOL, end of discussion.

She would never consider another man, and even with her attraction to women, she wasn't going to let another one be with me.

I'm good with that.
 
Oct 25, 2017
1,282
Illinois
Communicate.

The boyfriend and I had a few threesomes here and there, even a foursome with another gay couple we’ve become friends with. It’s fun, just make sure you’re safe and on the same page.