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How do I aproach my partner to suggest... a threesome?
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For real though, this is something that I could never do personally. Even if it was suggested to me.
Was there ever an update with this? lol
Threesomes are almost never a good idea if you really value your relationship with your current partner. Threesomes can cause a lot of animosity between partners and more often than not someone ends up catching feelings in the situation and then someone is left getting hurt. If you're bored with your current sex life then suggest some new things that you can try with each other before trying to introduce someone else into the equation.
I'm going to be perfectly honest, if your answer to shaking things up with your partner is to introduce another person into the equation that makes me slightly question the health of your relationship. And your partner may very well think the exact same thing.
Edit: To further clarify what I mean; if you and your partner haven't discussed anything like this before especially after almost 4 years of being together, your partner will more than likely interpret this as you low-key asking to have sex with someone else. Which will obviously go very badly.
Edit: To further clarify what I mean; if you and your partner haven't discussed anything like this before especially after almost 4 years of being together, your partner will more than likely interpret this as you low-key asking to have sex with someone else. Which will obviously go very badly.
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We talking another guy or another girl? Do have a person in mind, do you know this person or would you be looking for an online random?
I personally wouldn't go down this route, but if you insist, bring it up as something you were reading about online.
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As an alternate way to shake things up
actually by the op's wording we can't even know if the partner is a guy or a girl =P
Yeah ... knowing if you are on a straight or homo relationship would helps a lot
Just ask her what she thinks about threesomes in general and gauge her reaction to decide on discussing it further. If you think she'll get freaked out at the mere mention of one, ask yourself - is this something you need to know? If not, maybe don't bring it up.
Is your girlfriend prone to jealousy or possessiveness? If so, this is probably a bad bet.
Is your girlfriend prone to jealousy or possessiveness? If so, this is probably a bad bet.
"Hello partner, would you like to bang with me, and also another person?"
Thank me later, name any kids after me.
Thank me later, name any kids after me.
Good luck OP. Like a year ago my wife started talking about her fantasies and it led to talking about a threesome, then swinging in general. It's been quite an adventure.
Communication and trust are super super important if you want to get into this.
Communication and trust are super super important if you want to get into this.
Gonna need way more context, OP. We know nothing about your partner or your relationship other than the fact that you've been together for nearly 4 years and you want to fuck someone else. Like I want to say don't bring it up at all based on that but you need to tell us more.
My girlfriend and I play a lot of Overcooked but it's hard with only two people so we've been looking for a third. One time at a party we did it with another couple and it was so much fun.
I can't even with this thread. XD
I've had threesomes and they can be very fun, but they can go wrong VERY fast. Everyone needs to be onboard, recently checked for STDs, and I don't recommend using intoxicants to get the courage going. If this happens with a friend sometimes it can go sour afterwards.
But really there isn't enough information to go on based on the OP post.
I've had threesomes and they can be very fun, but they can go wrong VERY fast. Everyone needs to be onboard, recently checked for STDs, and I don't recommend using intoxicants to get the courage going. If this happens with a friend sometimes it can go sour afterwards.
But really there isn't enough information to go on based on the OP post.
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My wife and I opened our relationship to dating outside of marriage and three/foursomes. Honestly, I was incredibly nervous before I brought it up but the conversation went great. Just, you know, have a conversation. And if they say no, then respect that.
Judging from the phrasing of how you presented this topic to us I'm gonna assume that you're expecting a MFF three some. Just because of that I think this sort of experience will destroy the relationship.
If your partner is a girl, and not bisexual, what answer are you expecting?
Also, I expect it will most likely lead to some fight. Your partner can feel she's not attractive enough for you, or that you're bored of her (same if your partner's a guy obviously)
Also, I expect it will most likely lead to some fight. Your partner can feel she's not attractive enough for you, or that you're bored of her (same if your partner's a guy obviously)
Just thinking how I'd feel if my hypothetical partner asked me and how different the answers would be if the third person would a guy or girl and how I'd be a hypocrite if I was cool with one and not the other.
I could only do a threesome as a single person and even then that sounds exhausting.
I could only do a threesome as a single person and even then that sounds exhausting.
My personal recommendation...don't. It's not all it's cracked up to be and, depending on your long term plans, can cause a lot of issues. Take the interpersonal issues (fights, schedules, jealousy, etc.) you currently have with just the two of you...double or triple that depending on if one or both of you have a relationship with said third.
It can get ugly fast...
It can get ugly fast...
Literally just ask.
Like. "Have you ever wanted a threesome/have you ever considered a threesome/have you ever fantasied about a threesome?"
The answer is either going to be yes or no.
Then they'll likely ask you the same. To which you should reply honestly.
If both yes, have fun and list potential friends or people you'd think would be down.
I can see why a lot of posters are cautious but to say this is some sort of relationship breaker is ridiculous.
Like. "Have you ever wanted a threesome/have you ever considered a threesome/have you ever fantasied about a threesome?"
The answer is either going to be yes or no.
Then they'll likely ask you the same. To which you should reply honestly.
If both yes, have fun and list potential friends or people you'd think would be down.
I can see why a lot of posters are cautious but to say this is some sort of relationship breaker is ridiculous.
Hold up, what is this?
On topic: Uh, listen to the people in this thread, OP.
Yeah, I asked mine what she thought about them. It wasn't a "I'm interested, and I'm going to ask" thing though. She's bi, and was married to a woman, so I just asked. Her response was "I'm not sharing you with anyone.". LOL, end of discussion.
She would never consider another man, and even with her attraction to women, she wasn't going to let another one be with me.
I'm good with that.