And then what if the dude is much better at satisfying your wife.
Let's not be sexist though...
What if the woman is much better at satisfying his wife?
Now... For "most" guys thinking threesome, it plays like this in their head:
- Honey, would you possibly be into a threesome with... another woman?
- Why, I have been thinking about it, absolutely. But who to ask?
- Well, don't you have women colleagues who could be into it?
- Now that you mention it, Sharon was telling me her dream is to have a threesome some day! And she is gorgeous and totally bi I think!
They never think
- Honey, would you possibly be into a threesome with... another woman?
- Uh, no, I'm not into women. But as you bring that up, I could be into it with another guy...
- Uh... I guess... It's fair. I don't really know anyo...
- Oh that's ok! Mark from accounting would totally like to! I'll get in touch with him!
- Uh... Ok... But...
- And... Honey... You don't mind if at some point we do our own thing right? I've been totally thinking about doing him for months... And then I'd like to just watch you two going at it, I know he's bi. It's going to be fun!
- ...
But more seriously, after just 3 years in a relation, needing to bring someone else...
Eh. Tread carrefully, and perhaps think about where you two are in regard to intimacy with each other.
Plenty of ways to 'spice things up' without bringing potentially emotionally hurting 3rd parties imo.