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How do I aproach my partner to suggest... a threesome?
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"he wants me to fuck you, thats why im here"
im sure that'll go over great
Take your shot, OP. God speed and god bless.
Had a threesome in college
Had a threesome in college
It wasn't that special.
Can't help you OP since this would be a no go for me and my girl. Then again she has said before that if a kpop star ever propositioned her she'd do them in a heartbeat. Dunno if that means it's okay for me to do a celebrity if I have the chance or what
She's probably kidding...maybe...
can be difficult, you need to ease your partner into that question. like, play some board game only the two of you. say, it's fun but it would be much better if there were more players. when they go "heh, yeah I agree." - that's when you ask the question of what else could be fun with other players. basically, let them bring up the idea of a threesome!
I know couples, some married.. some not who started monogamous and ended up being non-monogamous or open. One way one couple did it was by trying to date another couple first. You don't have to touch each other but could do same room play at first until you get more comfortable. My relationship was always established we wanted to be non-monogamous so we go on dates with couples and a bunch of dates with single people. it's all about communication and being honest. You'd be surprised how a lot of people feel this way.Also don't be a jealous prick.
But ya download the app "FEELD" on your phone. It's a lifestyle app a lot of people use.
But ya download the app "FEELD" on your phone. It's a lifestyle app a lot of people use.
Shit, just get a Ouija board.
"Should we have a Threesome?"
/push the arrow to yes, HARD and FAST, and then look at your partner like Satan looking at a lost soul
this falls into open/closed relationships, something that should have been talked about from the beginning.
if your partner is okay with an open relationship then yeah, if not not then don't go for the threesome
if your partner is okay with an open relationship then yeah, if not not then don't go for the threesome
I am not an expert or psychiatrist but from what I know of the theories and opinions of the worlds only known psychoanalyst and psychotherapist (i.e. analrapist), Dr. Tobias Funke, open relationships and threesomes never work out and are usually a cry from help.
Watch a couple of those Playboy episodes of foursome or whatever it was called where the dude gets completely humiliated and insecure. Then self insert as him.
If you can make it past that, you're good to even start kind of thinking about the mere suggestion I guess.
If you can make it past that, you're good to even start kind of thinking about the mere suggestion I guess.
I say take the *find someone who is down, bring them over and tell them to say they want to suck your partners dick* strategy
There are plenty of ways to spice up your relationship that don't involve bringing others in. I'd consider doing those and seeing if they scratch that "something new" itch before attempting to make a totally closed relationship into something else. You two have had a basic understanding for 3.5 years. That's a significant amount of time and it's quite possible that your partner will be stunned by your desire. (Of course, there is always the possibility that they love it. But since you two guys don't apparently talk about this stuff with each other, I'm just going with the odds.)
Anyway, the danger with the threesome is that you could show (or your partner thinks you show) more interest in the new person than your own partner. If this happens, it can ruin the relationship no matter how many reassurances you to try to make.
Also, if you're a heterosexual couple, you need to be ready for the possibility that your girl will want to be fucked by other dudes. I'm gay, but I know that many straight guys have a difficult time with the idea. It may start out as bringing a second girl into the bedroom, but fair is fair, and your girl may eventually want some new dick. If you can't handle the thought, don't even begin to head down this path.
Anyway, the danger with the threesome is that you could show (or your partner thinks you show) more interest in the new person than your own partner. If this happens, it can ruin the relationship no matter how many reassurances you to try to make.
Also, if you're a heterosexual couple, you need to be ready for the possibility that your girl will want to be fucked by other dudes. I'm gay, but I know that many straight guys have a difficult time with the idea. It may start out as bringing a second girl into the bedroom, but fair is fair, and your girl may eventually want some new dick. If you can't handle the thought, don't even begin to head down this path.
Know your girl and figure out if she is Bi or not. If she is than you can bring up a bit easier. But for real don't push it. I fell into my weird relationship because my girl likes to watch as her fetish.
Not everyone is that lucky or have a partner who is into it
I'm going to assume you're thinking "Bring another girl in, hot stuff, wooo!" but you'd have to be prepared for her to actually want another guy involved which may not be part of your plan? In which case you're basically ruining the relationship.
Make sure it's nobody you already know and you have to be open to it being someone who isn't your sexual preference.
1, you should know whether your partner is into that from the start of the relationship. 2, you can do plenty of things to shake up your sex life with your partner that doesn't involve another person, going from vanilla sex to such an extreme isn't necessary.
The big thing here is are you bringing in another girl or guy? Are you a guy or girl? What about your partner? Are you or them straight/bi/gay? Like I can't imagine it going well if you are both straight as someone would be reaping the benefits of both people and the other, well, doesn't, unless you're into that.
Just don't ask, you can do plenty to spice things up. Try anal or something, its great.
The big thing here is are you bringing in another girl or guy? Are you a guy or girl? What about your partner? Are you or them straight/bi/gay? Like I can't imagine it going well if you are both straight as someone would be reaping the benefits of both people and the other, well, doesn't, unless you're into that.
Just don't ask, you can do plenty to spice things up. Try anal or something, its great.
I call bullshit that he was able to do anything for either of them.
I've seen this a couple times now, but that's not always true.
Yeah, if it was just a couple months into a relationship, they probably were into it before getting started and should have told you, but if you are multiple years into a relationship, people change and, while they may not have been into it initially, they are now...or are at least curious now.
Pretty sure the OP is gay if I recall correctly. It ain't his first horny thread.
OP posts topic... hasn't replied since. Maybe he's already having that 3some! (or getting slapped in the face lol)
Ideally you'd have a partner who makes you feel that you can be completely open about your desires. If you're not that fortunate, you'll have to think of a diplomatic way to bring up the possibility of having a threesome.
The reaction you can expect depends on your partner's attitude toward sex. If they're totally vanilla, have a lower libido than you do, or they've shown no interest in spicing things up in the time you've been together, a threesome might be a difficult sell.
Maybe you could test the waters by watching porn together and trying new bedroom activities. Determine how sexually adventurous or conservative your partner is before suggesting a threesome. Some people are just plain unwilling or unable to see an extra sexual partner as anything besides a threat to their relationship, or a sign that they're not good enough.
The reaction you can expect depends on your partner's attitude toward sex. If they're totally vanilla, have a lower libido than you do, or they've shown no interest in spicing things up in the time you've been together, a threesome might be a difficult sell.
Maybe you could test the waters by watching porn together and trying new bedroom activities. Determine how sexually adventurous or conservative your partner is before suggesting a threesome. Some people are just plain unwilling or unable to see an extra sexual partner as anything besides a threat to their relationship, or a sign that they're not good enough.
Very sex positive to label this a perv thread. Well done.
All good advise. Honestly the OP didn't give nearly enough info for good ideas. We need to know much more about the other person to give good ideas.
Did I ever say it was wrong? It being on gaming side made me expect something different
One should make sure that their partner is amiable to the idea before bringing it up. If not it could just come across as being bored with your current partner or wanting to have sex with someone else because things currently aren't good enough as is. Feelings could be hurt pretty bad.
Well, "perv thread" isn't exactly a neutral, nonjudgmental term.
Maybe I run in weird circles but being perverted doesn't have a negative connotation among my peers.
Using Flight of the Concords to initiate a threesome. What could possibly go wrong? (leave your socks on)
Perversion and it's etymological siblings are inherently describing things that are unnatural/unacceptable/unreasonable. It's the definition of the word
I get where you're coming from. I don't consider it negative by default either, but most people I know do.
Like, I'll tell my SOs that they're pervy, but that's in a good way. A lot of people consider "pervy" to be negative though.
