And I guess I could say I can tell you haven't met the evil of sexual assault yet? Don't judge so heavily. Far more people do crazy shit and far less people believe you and justice is rarely served. Good luck with that line of thinking when your own life and well being are on the line.I can tell you for a fact you haven't met that evil yet. Don't judge so heavily. People do/say crazy shit that never happened. Good luck with that line of thinking when your life / status is on the line.
Indifferent. I've seen/witnessed several cases where I knew it was bs. Also, have personally been accused of physical assault and proven innocent. I can tell you first hand sitting in jail thinking about what happened and what these fuckers are thinking about you is a crime in of itself when you're innocent. I have nothing but the best wishes for those who are truly victims, but I've seen/felt the lies and treachery that can happen from ones own motives, typically control. I try to believe but I remain skeptical until the rule of law.
And I guess I could say I can tell you haven't met the evil of sexual assault yet? Don't judge so heavily. Far more people do crazy shit and far less people believe you and justice is rarely served. Good luck with that line of thinking when your own life and well being are on the line.
Part of the reason I created this thread and have trouble understanding how to react to these situations is that I too have been falsely accused.
Ten or so years ago an ex girlfriend of mine accused me of beating her up while she was pregnant with another man's child. I sat in jail for a couple days because I was arrested on a Friday and didn't have a bail hearing until Monday.
It was later proven that she lied but the accusation did make me a bit of a social outcast for a while. It took some time to rehabilitate the image others had of me.
I've yet to hear about a sexual assault accusation where I thought "that sounds fake." Just think of the logistics of falsely accusing a famous person. 90% of a celebrities day is usually documented and accounted for so that eliminates any "crazy" person that's just going to make a fake claim out of thin air. All the claims are usually from a person the celebrity knew and had some contact with. Sure the accuser could be doing it for revenge or to ruin someone's career but how often does that happen? Maybe a monetary benefit but how many famous sexual assault victims do you know? I'm sure there's a better way to handle this but I'm in no position of power I'm just a dude on a forum.
TL:DR: I believe the accuser until I'm given reason not to.
I absolutely want to believe the alleged victims. For too long people haven't which has made victims hesitant to speak out. I feel in my heart that we should take victims at their word.
Wow.
That humble-brag that you could have ruined someone's life by destroying their marriage over admitted mutual flirting... but didn't, because you are just that nice of a person.
Sheesh.
This is the first time of me hearing he was accused of something, but I am not shocked like you. Neil always had a condescending tone in most of his talks. He acts arrogantly when handles topics such as religion and philosophy. Acts like he is better than everyone even though his background is pretty specific. Those are the characteristics of a psychopath.
This is the first time of me hearing he was accused of something, but I am not shocked like you. Neil always had a condescending tone in most of his talks. He acts arrogantly when handles topics such as religion and philosophy. Acts like he is better than everyone even though his background is pretty specific. Those are the characteristics of a psychopath.
I am not saying he did it, but it doesn't shock me.
No worries. I specified famous people in the wake of all this Harvey Weinstein stuff or else the topic would go way off the rails. Of course there's a history ,at least in the US, where people make false rape accusations against minorities and it leads to death penalty/decades in prison. I think there was a story earlier this year where a woman scapegoated a fictional group of black people for her made up rape/kidnapping. Lots of injustices where people without proper legal counsel get railroaded so if you're on a jury you have to be fair.So how do you feel about the death penalty, sort of off topic, but I'm going somewhere with this. For balance what about drug felony cases.
Ah you're talking famous people only, discard!
No worries. I specified famous people in the wake of all this Harvey Weinstein stuff or else the topic would go way off the rails. Of course there's a history ,at least in the US, where people make false rape accusations against minorities and it leads to death penalty/decades in prison. I think there was a story earlier this year where a woman scapegoated a fictional group of black people for her made up rape/kidnapping. Lots of injustices where people without proper legal counsel get railroaded so if you're on a jury you have to be fair.
However, 9/10 for these celebrity accusations it's always easier to believe the accuser because the stories typically line up and make sense if you're not bias towards the accused.
I think this generally represents my view. I try to keep some level of skepticism with a lot of these accusations, but rarely are they truly happening in a vacuum. Nearly every one happens against an individual with a track record of behavior that was already edging a certain line of acceptability - so the action already fits their character.It's fine to have reservations when you hear an accusation out of the blue but often we see a track record and talk of repeated behaviour.
As someone who's gotten in trouble for things I've never done (nothing serious thankfully), I try to take a step back and let events unfold before making any sort of judgement. Past behavior, amount of victims coming out, and definitely how the person being accused reacts all count. Being accused falsely, you feel really helpless and you're pretty much at a loss for words, it's also anger inducing. But if you know you're innocent, you know that things will hopefully sort themselves out, and talking shit or chucking a tantrum is the last thing you'd want to do.
This is the first time of me hearing he was accused of something, but I am not shocked like you. Neil always had a condescending tone in most of his talks. He acts arrogantly when handles topics such as religion and philosophy. Acts like he is better than everyone even though his background is pretty specific. Those are the characteristics of a psychopath.
I am not saying he did it, but it doesn't shock me.
Of course you need to hear both sides of the story.My brain sometimes stands in the way of unquestionably believing every accusation. Should we not consider the word of the accused? Should the character and past of the accused be considered before reacting to allegations?
It's fine to have reservations when you hear an accusation out of the blue but often we see a track record and talk of repeated behaviour.
It's fine to have reservations when you hear an accusation out of the blue but often we see a track record and talk of repeated behaviour.
Did anyone really take it that far? I was personally just rolling my eyes at his over-familiarity.Shit, even the Sandler thread was full of people labelling him a creep and revelling in him being "outed" as such.
I always wait for proof - or at least more info - before making up my mind. Anyone can throw baseless accusations at each other and anyone can deny them.