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How do you treat people you dislike or disagree with?
- Thread starter MysticGon
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I treat them as best as I can, (i.e. deescalate and try to work towards a common understanding) to the threshold of where they hurt others. At some point treating a disagreeable person well hurts the people they hurt. Discerning that threshold is not simple.
If dislike, as much as possible I just ignore them. If need to interact with them, then just be civil about it.
For people I disagree with, it depends on their behavior. There are people who disagree with you but still remain respectful. I'm cool with that. There are people who are obnoxious when you don't see eye to eye. In that case, then I put them in the dislike category.
For people I disagree with, it depends on their behavior. There are people who disagree with you but still remain respectful. I'm cool with that. There are people who are obnoxious when you don't see eye to eye. In that case, then I put them in the dislike category.
Depends on context. I'm often forced to be around a lot of bigoted people in a professional setting. I'll entertain them when they say something sexist/racist/homophobic, but when the opportunity for me to present a more compassionate perspective presents itself I'll do so.
On the other hand, if I encounter someone who's a prick that I don't owe any obligation to, I'm quick to call them out.
On the other hand, if I encounter someone who's a prick that I don't owe any obligation to, I'm quick to call them out.
I suppose it depends. I would try to fix things but, if I see that that's not possible, I'll give as good as I get. I find that quietly ignoring insults and the like don't really do anything and, at the very least, I'd like the satisfaction of standing up for myself as opposed to being a doormat
I've never really met someone I have deep seeded dislike for based on moral or ethical grounds. But I have worked with/been in class with people who piss me off for really pretty reasons. I usually just ignore them and if we are forced to interact, I keep my responses to three words or less so as not to invoke a conversation.
I treat them like the shit they are.
That's just for the ones I dislike. For the ones I disagree with, it depends on their attitude.
I try my best to be civil. Until the breaking point is reached. Which comes quickly. The older I get the less patient I am.
That's just for the ones I dislike. For the ones I disagree with, it depends on their attitude.
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people who burn bridges with other people who disagree with them are people that is addicted to their own echo chamber. These people needs to grow up.
as for people that you don't like, you can always ignore them if it's somehow that is not a requirement (not colleagues, family members, etc), just ignore them. What's so hard about it.
as for people that you don't like, you can always ignore them if it's somehow that is not a requirement (not colleagues, family members, etc), just ignore them. What's so hard about it.
I try to treat everyone with respect, even if I strongly disagree with them. It doesn't always work, but I do my best.
If it's too difficult, I'll cut them out of my life. But I don't usually hold grudges, so if they reach out, I'm typically willing to mend fences.
If it's too difficult, I'll cut them out of my life. But I don't usually hold grudges, so if they reach out, I'm typically willing to mend fences.
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Depends entirely on the person and situation. I've got a couple people I'm really close friends with whom I couldn't agree with less on political/societal issues. But I've also got others who I've cut out of my life entirely for the same reason. The details surrounding why we're friends in the first place and what we've gone through together make all the difference.
That said, if it's not someone I'm already friends with before hand, I'll try to hear out their side of things, then pretty much just burn said bridge in about 90% of instances... But politics and stuff along those lines are really the only reason I'd bother cutting them out.
That said, if it's not someone I'm already friends with before hand, I'll try to hear out their side of things, then pretty much just burn said bridge in about 90% of instances... But politics and stuff along those lines are really the only reason I'd bother cutting them out.
If they believe in the pursuit of a white ethno-state I usually let it lie. If however they think mustard is a better condiment on hotdogs than tomato ketchup I will have it out with them in public and if they don't change their mind they're a horrible person.
Yup. If the former, no big deal, we can coexist. If the latter, bye.
It depends on context obviously. If we disagree on something like, whether Sonic 06 was a good game, whatever I don't care. If its something like 'women should be slaves to men', which was a serious argument I was having with someone I go to college with recently, then fuck them I just won't engage with them except to repudiate their views.
Face to face, I'll probably just be inwardly uncomfortable.
Online, I love spewing hatred at bigots.
Online, I love spewing hatred at bigots.
If you just ignore and block people you disagree with, you start creating your own fiction of reality where there is no harm to your ideas or believes. We need discussion and arguments to further our knowledge.
It's different if someone is not willing to change or hear reason at all. Those better be ignored or not listened to.
It's different if someone is not willing to change or hear reason at all. Those better be ignored or not listened to.
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I can't see an option in the poll to just ignore them. Burning bridges seems too aggressive, but I sure as shit won't follow their leads or 'mend fences'. People I disagree with I'll try to convince them, people I dislike I just ignore.
99% of my interactions with people like that involve things I don't actually care all that much about. So even if I disagree with them or dislike them, I just follow their lead because I don't really care one way or another.
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If they were a close friend beforehand I would try to repair things. Otherwise I'm just apathetic toward them; but I won't shoo them away if they want to make an effort to better things.
If it's something really egregious they would have to go to great lengths to get me to care. Like I will not tolerate any homophobia, transphobia, racism, etc. That person would really have to prove they've changed their tune and I'd probably be more aggressive toward them than apathetic in that scenario.
If it's something really egregious they would have to go to great lengths to get me to care. Like I will not tolerate any homophobia, transphobia, racism, etc. That person would really have to prove they've changed their tune and I'd probably be more aggressive toward them than apathetic in that scenario.
Is there no option for apathy or indifference?
You can choose to not engage with a person without burning bridges you know?
You can choose to not engage with a person without burning bridges you know?
Dislike? Basically try and avoid as much as possible, if they're a major piece of shit then cut them out of my life.
Disagree? If they're polite with their opinions and not outwardly racist/homophobic etc then I don't feel the need to treat them with outward hostility. I'm friends with people who have differing politics but it doesn't mean I'm obliged to treat them like a leper. I just don't bother talking politics with these people as it can ruin an otherwise casual night of hanging out.
Disagree? If they're polite with their opinions and not outwardly racist/homophobic etc then I don't feel the need to treat them with outward hostility. I'm friends with people who have differing politics but it doesn't mean I'm obliged to treat them like a leper. I just don't bother talking politics with these people as it can ruin an otherwise casual night of hanging out.
Dislike: As much as possible, I'll try to avoid them and ignore their existence. If I can't, I'll try to act nice as much as possible but probably will still be passive-agressive as fuck cause sadly I'm too impulsive for my own good.
Disagree: it depends on what, but if I can I'll just clearly state my disagreeing position in a firm way, and avoid bringing it up after that if I feel they're a lost cause who could never be convinced to my position, in order not to ruin mood.
Disagree: it depends on what, but if I can I'll just clearly state my disagreeing position in a firm way, and avoid bringing it up after that if I feel they're a lost cause who could never be convinced to my position, in order not to ruin mood.
It REALLY depends on what the disagreement is based on. Fundamental human rights? Try to persuade them to see the light, but if not, then just full on cut them out of my life. This includes family, with whom I have definitely cut ties over LGBT+ rights.
Something silly like an opinion or something work-related? Have a discussion, try to come to a compromise if it's a situation that could have one, and if that doesn't work, just agree to disagree and carry on with life.
Dislike? Avoid as much as humanly possible. Life's too short to deal with those people when you don't have to.
Something silly like an opinion or something work-related? Have a discussion, try to come to a compromise if it's a situation that could have one, and if that doesn't work, just agree to disagree and carry on with life.
Dislike? Avoid as much as humanly possible. Life's too short to deal with those people when you don't have to.
Depends on the situation. If you are an Erdogan supporter, I cut my ties. It's been 18 years, can't you see the suffering he causes? If you think AKP or Erdogan is good, that means you are either a bad person or a stupid one. Either way I have no patience or sympathy for you.