I woke up today realizing that i’m turning 35 in excactly 6 months and I have yet to get a single date and i’m starting to get depressed over this. I have taken time off online dating a few times during the years and that lasted from a couple of weeks to a few months and then i’m back again.
I live in a small “city” in Sweden with roughly 15000 inhabitants and there are plenty of girls to hit up around here. Many are still registered on the dating sites along the years and are online from time to time or they delete their accounts and return later on.
Back then I wasn’t a particular good looking guy. I was obese and I didn’t take good care of myself, I was mostly depressed after my father passed away at the end of year 2000 and I was bullied a lot in school and by my dad. I started to comfort eat and went up a lot in weight in the process and I had a very bad self confidence
Over 2 years ago I managed to lose weight thanks to my boss (I work at a gym) and now i’m somewhat beefy and decent looking which is awesome. I was hoping that with my new look, taking care of myself and having a better self confidence I would be attractive. I posted new pictures and put up a new bio about myself on my dating profiles.
But still nothing. Almost nobody bothers to visit my profile page or write back. It has been like this ever since I started with online dating and i’m starting to get very frustrated over this. Those few that reply back just stop replying and i’ve accepted that and moved on.
I honestly don’t know what to do anymore, whenever i’m on online dating sites/apps I just feel burned out. I feel that everyone else around me is growing while i’m just standing still, they have boy/girlfriends, have families or been dating while I have nothing. People I talk to want to know why i’m still single and think it’s odd that someone as good looking like me doesn’t have a girlfriend (yes they tell me that)
please no “go out to bars”, there is only 1 here and almost everyone is drunk, the only ones that are not drunk are those who have boyfriends or girlfriends and just want to hang out.
So should I just quit since it looks like it’s impossible for me to get a date or should I just try and keep on?
I’m probably overreacting but I really needed to get this out of my system :/
Edit: I’ve been looking at other cities close where I live and further away. I’ve tried in other countries like England.
And I can’t move yet since I’ve been unemployed for a long time and I like my job.
JFC, I have had a profile text but I took it down since I need to write a new one. I’m not that daft to not have a profile text for 7 years
I live in a small “city” in Sweden with roughly 15000 inhabitants and there are plenty of girls to hit up around here. Many are still registered on the dating sites along the years and are online from time to time or they delete their accounts and return later on.
Back then I wasn’t a particular good looking guy. I was obese and I didn’t take good care of myself, I was mostly depressed after my father passed away at the end of year 2000 and I was bullied a lot in school and by my dad. I started to comfort eat and went up a lot in weight in the process and I had a very bad self confidence
Over 2 years ago I managed to lose weight thanks to my boss (I work at a gym) and now i’m somewhat beefy and decent looking which is awesome. I was hoping that with my new look, taking care of myself and having a better self confidence I would be attractive. I posted new pictures and put up a new bio about myself on my dating profiles.
But still nothing. Almost nobody bothers to visit my profile page or write back. It has been like this ever since I started with online dating and i’m starting to get very frustrated over this. Those few that reply back just stop replying and i’ve accepted that and moved on.
I honestly don’t know what to do anymore, whenever i’m on online dating sites/apps I just feel burned out. I feel that everyone else around me is growing while i’m just standing still, they have boy/girlfriends, have families or been dating while I have nothing. People I talk to want to know why i’m still single and think it’s odd that someone as good looking like me doesn’t have a girlfriend (yes they tell me that)
please no “go out to bars”, there is only 1 here and almost everyone is drunk, the only ones that are not drunk are those who have boyfriends or girlfriends and just want to hang out.
So should I just quit since it looks like it’s impossible for me to get a date or should I just try and keep on?
I’m probably overreacting but I really needed to get this out of my system :/
Edit: I’ve been looking at other cities close where I live and further away. I’ve tried in other countries like England.
And I can’t move yet since I’ve been unemployed for a long time and I like my job.
JFC, I have had a profile text but I took it down since I need to write a new one. I’m not that daft to not have a profile text for 7 years
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