I Hope We Keep This Place Better

Deleted member 15326 · Oct 28, 2017

The mods actually lay out the reasoning and giving warnings visible to everyone.

People are testing everyone's limits looking for things to cherry pick and show off elsewhere. Many of us still browse other places and are not as stupid as some people are hoping. The actual posts in question, as well as the context in which they were posted, can be seen by anyone.

Sgt. Demblant · Oct 28, 2017

I think this is the wake-up call we all needed. I loved the old place of course and this is the same community. But this transfer just made us more mindful of each other for a bit, all the fanboy wars and other bullshit arguments have been toned down. And shit, I absolutely love this place and all the people in it. This is the honeymoon phase of course and things will normalize eventually but right now we're all a bit kinder to each other. I love it and I hope that it lasts. I'll definitely make an effort on my end.

toastyToast · Oct 28, 2017

Eventually some bad apples are going to sneak in and make inflammatory posts. I hope the practice of dogpiling gets the boot. You could see a post and several pages later that exact same post is drumming up the same reaction. Everyone trying to get their 2 cents in like that fuck head cares to read all that.

Use the report button, ignore and keep it moving.

Hat22 · Oct 28, 2017

AkuMifune · Oct 28, 2017

toastyToast said:
Eventually some bad apples are going to sneak in and make inflammatory posts. I hope the practice of dogpiling gets the boot. You could see a post and several pages later that exact same post is drumming up the same reaction. Everyone trying to get their 2 cents in like that fuck head cares to read all that.

Use the report button, ignore and keep it moving.

FaceHugger · Oct 28, 2017

I have decided that if the contents of a thread are giving me negative feelings, I am just going to ignore it.

Always be kind.

And since there are creators here, if I can't offer a constructive criticism about a game I'll just keep my thoughts to myself. I'll need to keep a reminder nearby to adhere to that rule when Drunk Me is posting.

Not · Oct 28, 2017

Hat22 said:

Haha, well at least enjoy it while it lasts.

Bobson Dugnutt · Oct 28, 2017

obviously the novelty will wear off and not everything is going to all peace and love all the time but hopefully in let's say 6 months to a years time this ethos will still be broadly followed by everyone. If the mods and admins remain as transparent as they have so far too then things should be fine. Not feeling like you're walking on eggshells all the time will be a big help to fostering a more relaxed community.

Vincent Alexander · Oct 28, 2017

chezzymann said:
Yeah I just saw some guy get banned for a month because he thought the depiction of transgendered people on Southwark was fine, and that people who were sensitive to that stuff shouldn't play south park games cause they make fun of everyone. It felt like a legitimate perspective to me

Oof. That makes me happy to hear though (about the ban).

NameUser said:
This won't turn into the other place. Because it has better leadership and everyone is happy that they have a place to go so they'll be less likely to start fights. It truly is a reset, the start of a new era.

I still wish they had come up with a better name, but I'll take it. At least it was more creative than New NeoGAF.

Deleted member 9327 · Oct 28, 2017

ElectricBlanketFire said:
Have you seen the posts in here? Everyone is happy as hell. We are 100% on our way.

This <3

ffdgh · Oct 28, 2017

The visible mod warnings so far have already been a pretty big improvement.

Wzrd · Oct 28, 2017

ffdgh said:
The visible mod warnings so far have already been a pretty big improvement.

Yeah I feel the same. I think a little bit of transparency with mod actions will go a long way in keeping things less hostile overall.

Digital Dinosaur · Oct 28, 2017

Bitterness is a creeping sickness. It tends to overtake a person or a community with the effect of a slow boil. People adjust to the new normal and don't realize how far they've come.

I think at least one bit of advice to keep in mind is that it's possible to be extremely firm about what you believe is right without being needlessly catty. Bitter hostility can feel, in the heat of the moment, like emphatic honesty and projection of strength.

One of the hardest lessons for people to learn in my experience is that it's not just about being polite to other people, including people who offend you. It's really a form of self care. Wallowing in bitterness ruins a person's personality, even there are totally valid and understandable reasons for one to be angry and bitter.

Also I agree that more transparent moderation might help prevent dogpiling. That's probably one of the biggest problems any threaded discussion forum faces.

Polaroid_64 · Oct 28, 2017

I was definitely one who could be part of the problem in dogpiling. One of the things I am looking to change and help keep things positive.

Honey Bunches of Oats · Oct 28, 2017

Well, I was generally happy with the vibe in the old place, so I'm expecting something at least as good here.

Watershed · Oct 28, 2017

Edit: My bad, wrong thread.

Hex · Oct 28, 2017

People making posts like this, and more importantly bumping their own post three times because nobody replied yet they felt that self important is really not going to help.

Fat4all · Oct 28, 2017

Joqu said:
I feel great. You guys are great. This place is great. It's gonna be great.

Deleted member 6730 · Oct 28, 2017

So far this is one of the least toxic places on the internet.

Vex · Oct 28, 2017

Too much positivity in here. I feel like I should just knock over stuff to balance things out. I dont like this one bit. You guys GOT too SOFT!

Omnistalgic · Oct 28, 2017

And the ignore button actually lets you ignore people!! There quotes and posts vanish like a fart in the wind. It's actually useful now!!!

Omnistalgic · Oct 28, 2017

Hex said:
People making posts like this, and more importantly bumping their own post three times because nobody replied yet they felt that self important is really not going to help.

Nah he made it when threads were gettting lost in the sauce going up like 10 a minute. There was discussion to be had, even if OP had to nudge. The tone of the thread is "let's be positive and stay positive" that's worth a bump or two imo.

Rogue Blue · Oct 28, 2017

As long as we all treat each other with kindness and respect, I think we won't have too much to worry about.

Peace everyone. :)

Avitus · Oct 28, 2017

Report button alone should cut down on people constantly drudging up posts so mods can see them. Underrated feature.

Steel · Oct 28, 2017

Avitus said:
Report button alone should cut down on people constantly drudging up posts so mods can see them. Underrated feature.

A little too prominent, imo. But that's being worked on.

TinfoilHatsROn · Oct 29, 2017

Steel said:
A little too prominent, imo. But that's being worked on.

Maybe switch the report button with the quote and reply buttons? My mouse always hovers over report for a second thinking it is reply, lol.

Omnistalgic · Oct 29, 2017

^Yeah, Report button is a little obnoxious atm...lol

zoggy · Oct 29, 2017

well i'm here, so that promise is long gone

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