First off, whatever....I'm never going to meet any of you so nothing to be embarrassed about.
So I met this amazing woman, we have been having a great time. But I won't bore you with those details. We had sex twice before I went in for surgery and then didn't see her for a week.
As I was getting undressed for surgery I noticed a tiny clump of blisters near my groin area. I shrugged it off, must be an ingrown hair it has happened before.
Anyway I get out of surgery, go through recovery and the blister is almost gone. I have sex with her again last night and I woke up this morning with even more clumps of blisters down there.
Now....I haven't been in a relationship for two years. I'm good friends with my ex still and we are pretty open about things. We talked and she doesn't have herpes. She had checked after sleeping with her new boyfriend. So not her, the girl before that is dead so I can't ask her. But that was like 4 years ago. Unless I got it from some girl like 8 years ago and it's only showing up now?
Anyway I got a couple questions
I plan on going to the doctor tomorrow during lunch to get a test done (my last test a year ago was good). If it indeed does come back saying I have herpes, what is the best way to approach the current girlfriend?
Is it possible for her to give it me with out her-herself knowing she has herpes?
I'm going to say something silly, I hope she is the one that did give me herpes (if that is indeed what it is) , what's done is done but I wouldn't have to worry about giving this new found problem to her.
Then again she may not have it and me telling her will cause her to leave me. Which will suck but not having the conversation is not an option.
So once I do get confirmation, what do I say?
"Listen we need to talk....I noticed shortly after having sex....I broke out in blisters"
Do I say "oh hey when was the last time you been tested?"
Do I raid her medicine cabinet and start googling prescriptions and see if anything is for herpes.
Or perhaps maybe play this Dave Chappelle skit and see if she comes clean?
And yes I used condoms
Will update story after I go to doctor (hopefully tomorrow if not Tuesday)
So I met this amazing woman, we have been having a great time. But I won't bore you with those details. We had sex twice before I went in for surgery and then didn't see her for a week.
As I was getting undressed for surgery I noticed a tiny clump of blisters near my groin area. I shrugged it off, must be an ingrown hair it has happened before.
Anyway I get out of surgery, go through recovery and the blister is almost gone. I have sex with her again last night and I woke up this morning with even more clumps of blisters down there.
Now....I haven't been in a relationship for two years. I'm good friends with my ex still and we are pretty open about things. We talked and she doesn't have herpes. She had checked after sleeping with her new boyfriend. So not her, the girl before that is dead so I can't ask her. But that was like 4 years ago. Unless I got it from some girl like 8 years ago and it's only showing up now?
Anyway I got a couple questions
I plan on going to the doctor tomorrow during lunch to get a test done (my last test a year ago was good). If it indeed does come back saying I have herpes, what is the best way to approach the current girlfriend?
Is it possible for her to give it me with out her-herself knowing she has herpes?
I'm going to say something silly, I hope she is the one that did give me herpes (if that is indeed what it is) , what's done is done but I wouldn't have to worry about giving this new found problem to her.
Then again she may not have it and me telling her will cause her to leave me. Which will suck but not having the conversation is not an option.
So once I do get confirmation, what do I say?
"Listen we need to talk....I noticed shortly after having sex....I broke out in blisters"
Do I say "oh hey when was the last time you been tested?"
Do I raid her medicine cabinet and start googling prescriptions and see if anything is for herpes.
Or perhaps maybe play this Dave Chappelle skit and see if she comes clean?
And yes I used condoms
Will update story after I go to doctor (hopefully tomorrow if not Tuesday)
UPDATE:
I do not have genital herpes!!!!
But....I do have...Epstein Barr, which the doctor says "everyone has". Something to do with Mono? I haven't felt lethargic since my teens.
So...it appears it was just a rash from rough sex with my librarian on a freshly shaven area ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
One thing I would like to address, I learned a lot from this thread and the people who commented on it. I will look at herpes differently from now on and will not longer view people with herpes in the same stigmatized way.
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