Video Games Hangouts
EtcetEra Hangouts
Trending

I think I'm ugly.

Kingpin Rogers

Kingpin Rogers

HILF
Member
Oct 27, 2017
7,353
It's hurting my confidence tbh because I feel like I'm just a naturally bad looking guy and I don't know what to do it about it. I'm incredibly unphotogenic and I don't know how to smile unless it's natural, I'm 20 years old but I still look so young to the point where tram conductors frequently ask how old I am. I have a spot problem on my face that doesn't go away and I have no idea what I should do with my hair. I'm short and naturally very skinny so I find it very hard to gain weight, I went to the gym for months but it didn't work and I didn't like it anyway.

It doesn't help that I don't really have anyone to ask outside of family and I can't trust my mum when she says I'm handsome because all mums say that. So is there any advice for me or am I doomed to be ugly?

I might post pics in a few hours when I can but like I said I'm very unphotogenic so I'm not sure it would be a good idea.
 
blame space

blame space

Resettlement Advisor
Member
Oct 25, 2017
11,907
are you fat and ugly? I'm fat and ugly. if you're not fat, at least you've got that.
 
Hi Cutie!

Hi Cutie!

Banned
Nov 10, 2017
324
if you think you're ugly, odds are you're ugly

even some ugly people think they are good looking, its terrible
 
Akira86

Akira86

Member
Oct 25, 2017
13,128
everyone has some people out there who would think they're yummy and cute. Unfortunately, the odds of finding them depends on how likely you are to present yourself out in public. So you have to just go out with the intention to have fun.
 
EdibleKnife

EdibleKnife

Member
Oct 29, 2017
7,723
Consult a hair stylist
Use an exfoliator and moisturizer to keep your skin clear
See a dermatologist
Embrace your body type and rather dress to make the best of it
 
Anubis

Anubis

User requested permanent ban
Banned
Oct 25, 2017
10,392
Work on other qualities about yourself that will compensate for not looking like a model.
 
FUME5

FUME5

Member
Oct 25, 2017
6,418
There's all sorts of advice, but damned if I know what would do you any good.

Simple shit, ask your hairdresser what style she thinks would suit your face, make sure you are following a program (both diet and exercises) if you are going to work out - don't just throw shit at the wall and hope it will stick.

Pick up some hobbies that will lead to self improvement, which should lead to increased confidence, which should lead to you realizing that a lot of what's bugging you doesn't mean shit.

Can't do shit about looking younger than you are, but a curse now will be a blessing in the future.
 
gozu

gozu

Member
Oct 27, 2017
6,133
America
If you get ripped, your ugliness will matter a lot less. I know a dude and he just married a pretty lady. His face is definitely not hollywood-ready but he is swole.
 
Miller

Miller

The Fallen
Oct 25, 2017
1,152
Clearing up your skin is easy, dude. Accutane. One and done.

It makes such a huge improvement to your appearance and it's so simple
 
Reven Wolf

Reven Wolf

The Fallen
Oct 25, 2017
3,714
Kingpin Rogers said:
It's hurting my confidence tbh because I feel like I'm just a naturally bad looking guy and I don't know what to do it about it. I'm incredibly unphotogenic and I don't know how to smile unless it's natural, I'm 20 years old but I still look so young to the point where tram conductors frequently ask how old I am. I have a spot problem on my face that doesn't go away and I have no idea what I should do with my hair. I'm short and naturally very skinny so I find it very hard to gain weight, I went to the gym for months but it didn't work and I didn't like it anyway.

It doesn't help that I don't really have anyone to ask outside of family and I can't trust my mum when she says I'm handsome because all mums say that. So is there any advice for me or am I doomed to be ugly?

I might post pics in a few hours when I can but like I said I'm very unphotogenic so I'm not sure it would be a good idea.
Click to expand...
Click to shrink...
When you went to the gym, did you have a PT or nutritionist?

It can be really hard to get the changes you want if you don't have a solid plan.

In terms of hair, depending on how you look you can try looking a celebrities, models, or even people walking by and how they wear their hair. Most barbers can also give suggestions as to what's trending or could fit you.

In terms of facial stuff, I'm not sure of what you meant by spots, but there are cksmetco scrubs to help keep skin clear.

Also remember we tend to be our own harshest critics so you're likely being way too hard on yourself!
 
MBeanie

MBeanie

Member
Oct 27, 2017
1,875
Don't worry OP, I feel the same way, I got maybe 2 or 3 good angles to work with where I look good, makes meeting people awkward as fuck. Try asking someone out with your head tilted 45° up & to the right at all times. *rubs neck*
 
Helot_Azure

Helot_Azure

Banned
Oct 29, 2017
1,521
I think I'm an average looking dude.

My wife is very attractive though. Kind of sucks when we take pictures, because I think I look hideous next to her.

So... I think I feel your pain OP?
 
Dracon

Dracon

Member
Oct 27, 2017
347
You can always work out and compensate with your body so you can get the confidence if you cant find it right now by yourself.

I dont know if you are ugly, but I know that you are insecure. Some may find you pretty even if you really are ugly. But your lack of confidence can be spotted more easilly.
 
Conkersbadfurday

Conkersbadfurday

Member
Oct 29, 2017
3,186
Minnesota
Funny how when you're young you want to look older and when you're older you want to look young.

I have a pretty young face yet at 28, but now that I'm 28, it drives me up a wall when I don't get carded for booze. Like I failed that day and am now an old person.
 
OP
OP
Kingpin Rogers

Kingpin Rogers

HILF
Member
Oct 27, 2017
7,353
GLHFGodbless said:
need pics for confirmation
Click to expand...
Click to shrink...
Bleh, because I can't smile I always just end up with a blank face that makes me think I look like a serial killer. Also I've always suffered from low confidence so I'd feel bad if I posted a picture and it turns out I'm not as bad as I think because then I'd just feel bad for making a big deal out of it.
 
Van Bur3n

Van Bur3n

Avenger
Oct 27, 2017
22,373
Man, it's one of those nights.

OP, if you think you're ugly (and you may very well be) the best you can do and work towards improving yourself. Get a new wardrobe, do go get a haircut, and maybe do commit to hitting the gym a bit more (I'm skinny as well, and could probably better myself in this area but I'm quite content regardless). Transform yourself, OP. Blossom like the true flower that you are on the inside.

WrenchNinja said:
I know I'm ugly.

Someone on tinder matched with me just to tell me that.
Click to expand...
Click to shrink...
Oof.
 
Turtleboats

Turtleboats

Member
Nov 13, 2017
1,722
Even if you are ugly, there are many avenues in life to demonstrate your self worth.

Look at this thread alone, you are honest with yourself and had even the courage to speak up about it. I know there are parts of me I hate and could never have the courage to speak up about even privately with my loved ones, let alone anonymously on the internet.

The little things as I read through your past posts, like not drinking alcohol to keep your self level headed is character of who you are.

You got things going for you hombre, showcase those.
 
AMAGON

AMAGON

Prominent Member
Member
Oct 25, 2017
3,443
NJ
I can't smile in pictures, i either have a crooked smile and/or i raise my eyebrows and look surprise..
 
Brinbe

Brinbe

Avenger
Oct 25, 2017
33,619
Terana
you could very well be handsome, but it doesn't matter if you have that attitude about yourself. as others have said, that's what you gotta change up more than anything
 
Br3wnor

Br3wnor

Avenger
Oct 27, 2017
4,356
Few people are irreparably ugly, most are average looking and their body build determines where on the attractive scale they fall along with things like style, confidence, etc.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.