I was called an ass at work

[Morrison71]

And I really don’t know how to handle it. I work in a non-profit hospital. I’ve been told you can get in big trouble for swearing. I know ass is nothing but I think that still might approach how I handle things. Idk

Anyways, I work closely with one other tech. It’s a 12 hour shift so it can be brutal if you don’t get along with the other.

I only work with this tech every other week once. I snapped on her in the past for something that was building up. After that she didn’t talk to me at all and basically a couple months.

This person is older with a lot of experience and I think she feels I don’t listen to her. And honestly I don’t really respect her. If I try to talk to her about this I’m afraid I will just make things worse by saying something like that.

The incident was me not knowing any better. She tried to go out of her way but I didn’t listen to her. But honestly it probably turned out fine the way I did it. At worst a patient had to get poked again. But yeah, I probably should have known better honestly. When she addressed me she never even gave me a chance to say anything, yelled at me and called me an ass. I didn’t say anything other than trying to explain myself but I kept calm and left.

 

[jot]

So uh... what actually happened? A lot of words, but your post is light on specifics.

also lol at getting in trouble for swearing at a hospital.

 

[echoshifting]

Hmmm I wonder why you are being so vague

 

[staedtler]

So were you an ass?

 

[Sillution]

It seems like she tried to give you advice in the past and you dismissed her and tried to ignore her?

 

[Joe Shlabotnik]

No idea what you’re looking for here, guy

 

[Rizific]

im not seeing the issue here? sounds like you were indeed, an ass.

 

[FUME5]

So you fucked up, probably wouldn't have fucked up if you had listened to your collegue with more experience and are thinking about reporting her to your bosses because she called you an ass?

 

[Surface of Me]

Sounds like you were being an ass

 

[ElectricBlanketFire]

You snapped at her before and purposely didn't listen to what she had to say?

An ass is you.

 

[III-V]

You sound guilty by your own admission OP. Chalk it up and do better next time.

 

[PlayALLTheGames]

Apologize and make a better effort to get along, since you’re basically admitting it’s on you. Very complicated, I know.

 

[Ryaaan14]

How the fuck do u not know how to handle someone cursing u out

Just move on and learn from it

 

[Morrison71]

Hmmm I wonder why you are being so vague

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I’m being vague because I don’t want to write a freaking bible.

 

[weemadarthur]

At worst you screwed over a patient by not following appropriate procedure? You were in the wrong, and you should accept that you need retraining.

 

[Stouffers]

Own it.

 

[Andokuky]

Idk, your post makes it sound like you were being an ass.

 

[Ominym]

You go out of your way to mention that you don’t respect her.

I don’t know what you’re looking for here my guy but given the information you’ve shared I’m not exactly seeing a compelling reason to not believe her assessment.

 

[Ocean Bones]

Big fuckin deal. Apologize and move on.

And pull yourself up by the bootstraps.

 

[neon_dream]

I snapped on her in the past for something that was building up.
...
This person is older with a lot of experience and I think she feels I don’t listen to her.
And honestly I don’t really respect her.
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She tried to go out of her way but I didn’t listen to her.
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Uh huh, tell me more.

 

[eosos]

Maybe try not to be an ass next time and move on.

 

[Perfect Chaos]

Sounds kinda like you were an ass.

 

[Dead Guy]

Time to quit your job OP. It's the only acceptable solution

 

[Morrison71]

How the fuck do u not know how to handle someone cursing u out

Just move on and learn from it

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There’s a deeper issue and idk what it is. I am a good worker and I think everyone else would say so except her.

 

[IDreamOfHime]

This thread will go places.

 

[BanditoMac]

if you were an ass just apologize (be sincere) and keep it moving.

 

[vypek]

Maybe respect people's experience and listen to them? The vagueness in the post and what little details you have make it sound like calling you an ass was correct

 

[NTGYK]

Sounds like you're an asshole

 

[Ogami Itto]

Sounds like you are an ass, weird topic.

 

[jot]

There’s a deeper issue and idk what it is. I am a good worker and I think everyone else would say so except her.

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Why don't you tell us the details of both situations?

 

[PrimeBeef]

So were you an ass?

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Clearly seems like it. He states the older tech has more experience a d feels he doesn't listen to her then follows it up with he doesn't respect her. Pretty much those two sentences sums up that he instigated the situation that led her to call him an ass, since nothing else was said.

 

[FUME5]

The cherry picking of posts to reply to tells me we're going to have to tease this one out over several pages gang.

 

[weemadarthur]

There’s a deeper issue and idk what it is. I am a good worker and I think everyone else would say so except her.

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When everyone thinks you’re great except the one who is working with you and training you, there remains the possibility that all the other people are simply ignorant when thinking you are great.

 

[PrimeBeef]

I’m being vague because I don’t want to write a freaking bible.

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But you wrote a whole bunch of nothing already while indicating you were probably deserving of the insult.

 

[neon/drifter]

I know others are asking for more context as to whether or not you did anything wrong but honestly, it doesn't matter.

You're in conflict with a coworker whom, you've admitted you've had problems with before. You seem worried about her reaction and honestly, it seems like things built up for her for once so she unloaded on you. The most courteous reaction here is to apologize for upsetting her.

Even if you don't respect her, apologize to make life easier on yourself in the workplace. After all, we're all human. You said you'd blown up on her before and she's entitled to the same kinda catharsis, so to repeat, we're only human.

 

[nel e nel]

This person is older with a lot of experience and I think she feels I don’t listen to her. And honestly I don’t really respect her.

The incident was me not knowing any better. She tried to go out of her way but I didn’t listen to her. But yeah, I probably should have known better honestly.

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Just highlighting a few choice excerpts in the hopes that you'll see where the problem lies.

Spoiler: Hint

It's not with her

 

[Carnby]

There’s a deeper issue and idk what it is. I am a good worker and I think everyone else would say so except her.

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You said you don't respect her.

 

[Kewlmyc]

Uh huh, tell me more.

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Exactly.

OP sounds like they won't tell us the full story because they were actually being an ass.

 

[Ryaaan14]

There’s a deeper issue and idk what it is. I am a good worker and I think everyone else would say so except her.

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Who cares? It’s a coworker. Go in there, make money, and make a conscious effort to not be an annoying prick. U don’t need to psychoanalyze

 

[Noctis]

You sound like an ass, people snap during the stress of work which is normal. But you have to respect your coworker which you obviously don’t and you didn’t apologize either.. soo there’s nothing to talk about lol.

If you see someone on a monthly or daily basis it’s within your best interest to get along inside the confines of work.

 

[Woolley]

How did you get a job at a hospital? You sound like your 12.

 

[Squarehard]

I’m being vague because I don’t want to write a freaking bible.

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Yet it's so vague, it's hard to give you a substantive answer without knowing all of the details.

You don't need to write a novel, but you certainly shouldn't just give us a leaflet.

 

[ElectricBlanketFire]

Alert: We are in a fun thread.

 

[Ryo Hazuki]

 

[Narasumas]

Get out of your comfort zone & talk to her. Even if you think differently, put yourself out there and apologize. Things will only worsen or build over time. Then she talks to this person, then the next, etc. Next thing a few people think you're an ass. Also, it puts stress on you thinking about this weird work dynamic with her while on shift together.

Man up OP, apologize and put yourself out there in some way. It will make work 100% better and who knows, you two might actually start getting along and learning from each other. People appreciate that. Imagine the role reversal.

 

[Kindekuma]

I snapped on her in the past for something that was building up.

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Yeah you're an ass. You're not professional enough to address an issue without snapping at someone?

 

[Jon_Sama]

The cherry picking of posts to reply to tells me we're going to have to tease this one out over several pages gang.

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Yep, kind of amazing how these threads almost always play out the same way

 

[Dr. Monkey]

Play assy games, get assy prizes.

 

[tommy7154]

I agree from your rather vague post that you didnt listen like you know in retrospect you should have and you were probably an ass.

If you fucked up apologize, mean it, and move on.

 

[nel e nel]

You go out of your way to mention that you don’t respect her.

I don’t know what you’re looking for here my guy but given the information you’ve shared I’m not exactly seeing a compelling reason to not believe her assessment.

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Ha!