No. I don't care for music these days.Have you ever joined a band? Being in one helped me a lot in order to be able to vent and release all my shit, it can be a very cathartic experience.
No. Anything i've ever wanted has been rendered impossible.Do you have a bucket list? Anything in particular you would want to do but never did?
Nope, results do not speak otherwise. A degree is more than a piece of paper, it's evidence that you have a level of intelligence, plus the ability to
work hard and apply yourself, and importantly, the ability to see something through and complete an achievement that many people never manage. It's easy to dismiss it as nothing when your self-esteem is at rock-bottom, but this is an example of what I said earlier - you aren't perceiving reality accurately at the moment.
"Only jobs"?Results speak otherwise. The degree is nothing more than a piece of paper. I've failed to move past that, and the only jobs I can get with it involve dealing with retards who don't know what a start button on a computer is. I've dealt with that long enough to never do that again. I will sooner jam a fork in an electrical socket than have to deal with that shit ever, EVER again. That's as good as it gets for me.
In this case, they do. I'm in my current position because it's a piece of paper that implies to someone like you that i'm worth something. That paper only gets me help desk jobs, which is not helping out your argument at all. I thought i could be better than that, but it turns out i'm not and I never will be, no matter how hard I apply myself.
No one is a loser, fuck society's metrics for success and failure. You are your own person! You set your standards in life. Dont do it.
Grow old and do things you enjoy. That's my exit strategy.I'm done with life. There is absolutely no reason to continue living through this farce. I've spent the last decade regretting surviving suicide, and the longer I live and try to change things, the more I realize there has only been one way to fix it.
What's the best way to end myself before I have to live through another year of knowing every facet of loserdom? There are absolutely no pros to existing another day, if you're going to try that shit, get the fuck out.
Nope, this isn't right. You have a degree, which gets you jobs. So you're educated and employable - doesn't sound like a loser to me? Whether you're at the level that you would like to be at is a different matter, but lambasting yourself as a loser when it's obvious to me (from the handful of posts you've addressed to me) that you have something to offer just isn't accurate.That paper only gets me help desk jobs, which is not helping out your argument at all
You sound like me during one of my depressive states. You bipolar too op? Your mind is lying to you.
I don't really have any other avenues to look for. I'm at a crossroads where death looks immediately appealing, and I have yet to see a compelling argument for existing in general.Have you tried looking for work in other areas? There is no shame in moving away from your original chosen area if things aren't working out for you. Just making small steps to change things up could help immensely and give you time to start working on other areas.
Things that involve other people? Self reflection and realizing you'll never be good enough? There's more.
I'd consider winning Russian Roulette luckierThe probability of you being born are at about one in 400 trillion, you hit the luckiest jackpot!
Other way around. I am a loser. There's no ignoring that. I am not worthwhile by any metric. I can't justify being alive to myself, and that's one of MANY reasons.Yea, I think this is important. GARlock Spiral it's up to you, you're not a loser, even when you feel like you've failed at things. You don't need to operate according to someone else's standards...shit, even just laying around playing video games and chilling can be rewarding and a win if it makes you happy. You're a worthwhile person whether you you have a million dollars or 1 dollar...or no dollars. You don't have to justify being alive to anybody else or by anybody's metric.
Nope, this isn't right. You have a degree, which gets you jobs. So you're educated and employable - doesn't sound like a loser to me? Whether you're at the level that you would like to be at is a different matter, but lambasting yourself as a loser when it's obvious to me (from the handful of posts you've addressed to me) that you have something to offer just isn't accurate.
Please, call the number and get some professional help, because I can see from your posts that you are deep in the hole right now and need a hand getting back out. Please call.
Other way around. I am a loser. There's no ignoring that. I am not worthwhile by any metric. I can't justify being alive to myself, and that's one of MANY reasons.
In this case, they do. I'm in my current position because it's a piece of paper that implies to someone like you that i'm worth something. That paper only gets me help desk jobs, which is not helping out your argument at all. I thought i could be better than that, but it turns out i'm not and I never will be, no matter how hard I apply myself.
I did. It's my fault for trying to have standards and it's my failure to meet my own standards.
You don't need to justify anything or have any metric, man. Just being alive is okay and enough.
When did I say that? I'm just sick of only being good enough for people who don't know what the hell a computer is. Because that's as good as I can get.
So why not look at changing career? I and lots of other people have done it - and in my case I did it because I felt like a rat in a dead-end maze. I won't pretend that's comparable to what you're feeling, but I will say I understand what it's like not to be getting anywhere, and I know from experience that turning around and trying a different avenue can work out. And that's not something you can do if you quit the race entirely.I've spent the last six months passing out resumes. It doesn't get jobs without certifications i'm too stupid to get. That's loser territory. Deal with it.
why it needs to go.
It's only as good as you can get if you end it.I did. It's my fault for trying to have standards and it's my failure to meet my own standards.
That's...not a good thing. I'd rather be dead than alive in any scenario.
When did I say that? I'm just sick of only being good enough for people who don't know what the hell a computer is. Because that's as good as I can get.
Changing into what?So why not look at changing career? I and lots of other people have done it - and in my case I did it because I felt like a rat in a dead-end maze. I won't pretend that's comparable to what you're feeling, but I will say I understand what it's like not to be getting anywhere, and I know from experience that turning around and trying a different avenue can work out. And that's not something you can do if you quit the race entirely.
Changing into what?
There's a difference between going from A to B because you want to and because you're on your last rope and you'll never be good enough for anything else. One thing is all i've known, one thing i'm interested in, one thing I should go into, and the reality that i'm just not good enough and never will be.
Hey, throwing out these pithy one-liners isn't going to stop me from wanting to help, you know :)
I did. It's my fault for trying to have standards and it's my failure to meet my own standards.
I disagree with you that withstanding isn't admirable. It may not be progress, but the weight pressing down on you is not something light and easily ignored.The reality is i'm weak. Withstanding it isn't anything admirable if it just keeps coming with absolutely no reason to keep on and every reason to quit. And you'd be wrong on your beliefs. I've exhausted every bit of worth I've ever had.
When did I say that? I'm just sick of only being good enough for people who don't know what the hell a computer is. Because that's as good as I can get.
The only thing I ever wanted to be, from age 10 to age 30, was a novelist. Nothing else. I can't draw, I can't dance, I can't do mental arithmetic... but I can write. Or so I thought. Turns out I can't write fiction well enough to get published, no matter how long I spent banging my head against it.Changing into what?
There's a difference between going from A to B because you want to and because you're on your last rope and you'll never be good enough for anything else. One thing is all i've known, one thing i'm interested in, one thing I should go into, and the reality that i'm just not good enough and never will be.
Society does a great job of tricking people into aspiring to more than they reasonably should, and then making us feel like failures for not meeting unrealistic standards. That doesn't mean you're actually a failure, it means you're a normal person.
Re-examine and re-evaluate your expectations. Start off with something more realistic. It can take years or even decades to achieve some goals and you're not being fair to yourself if you expect to hit every, or any, goal right out of the gate.
I'm 40 and it's just in the past year or two that I've finally gotten onto a good career and life path that I'm legitimately proud of. There was a lot of suffering, mistakes, misfires and setbacks along the way. Some were my own fault, some weren't, and for a long time I felt like a failure, but I wasn't. I was just a normal dude.
You might have a long way to go, but you can get there. You just need to get some help, and despite societal bullshit about self-made people there is no such thing. We ALL need help along the way. Every single fucking one of us, in some form or another.
You implied it. You talk about how worthless you think you are and how bad desk jobs. So obviously you think you're worth something, if a desk job isn't good enough for you.
A Bachlor's degree is not nothing. MOST people don't get a Bachlor's degree. Only 37% of the US population has a Bachlor's or higher. A Bachlor's degree is not "just a sheet a paper". It's the culmination of the years of work you did to get it. I went through a period where I had suicidal thoughts just TRYING to get mine.
So you're not worthless. Most people can't do what you did.
There must be something besides IT. It's never too late to change professions. Maybe get some help, go back to school and pick a career that better suits you. You got a bachelor's so it shouldn't be that hard to try a new field.
I've graduated. I have a bachelor's in IT. I'm just too stupid to pass any certification no matter how hard I try.
My job was sitting at a desk fixing stupid people's issues. There's too many PEBKAC/Id10t "errors" one deals with before suicide starts looking appropriate. Desk jobs may or may not be bad, but when your job goes from desk to call center? Fuck that.
Yes. At minimum, I have eyes and I can safely say i'm better with a computer than the incarnation of boomerism. You're posting here and you're already more competent than most.
When you say IT, what exactly are you experienced with? Programming?
Also, I will say it again, I will pay for your therapy.
You're "not worth life" but your bar is high and average isn't good enough, so what, does half the population just kill themselves?
Do I kill myself?
Yes. At minimum, I have eyes and I can safely say i'm better with a computer than the incarnation of boomerism. You're posting here and you're already more competent than most.
You serve you. That's your purpose, everything is engine to that.Not by my standards. A life subservient to idiots is not a life at all.
Why not?I don't have that. Other people usually have people who would miss them or some reason they keep going. I haven't had either of those in a decade.
No, my goals are fairly realistic. I should have done them years ago, but I didn't, here I am facing the consequences for it. I'm not good enough to pass the most basic of tests. That was on me for thinking I was smart enough to do something.