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I'm bisexual - Ask Me Anything!
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extrapolate.
How does this affect the way you date/interact with people you are attracted to?
Who or What triggered your realization and eventual admission? I know it's not easy for many people. I was lucky in that there wasn't much internal struggle or beating myself up mentally for it. I just saw gay porn and was mostly "Oh, that's why I'm not that attracted to women". While I did feel slightly guilty at first due to my Catholic upbringing eventually I just don't give a fudge.
I've read about this a lot but haven't personally experienced. I'm not really in the LGBTQ community, but I might explore some events soon.
For me, I'm somewhere between straight and bi. I'm still discovering where though. Like am I 50% gay or 10% gay. I try to not to think about that much though, and just be attracted to whatever attracts me. It is a pendulum though, it can change from time to time.
I don't "act" gay in anyway, so I guess it was easy to suppress and not accept/embrace. Plus I lived in a weird place where everyone I knew was supportive of LGBTQ, but then they'll also make 'fag' jokes the next night. Those affected me more than I ever thought it would, even though it wasn't really directed at me.
Thanks, and cheers to ya both!
I've watched gay porn on and off since highschool, but honestly was never able to say "Hey man, I might be bi". I think eventually I realized I had watched only gay porn for weeks, and started to accept it more. I think also hitting your mid 20s, you start to care a lot less about what people think. I'm not ashamed of it now, and it feels great.
I'm bi as well, but I've only come out to my wife (when we first started dating). My friends and family have no idea. Have you come out, and if so, how did you do it? My family is all religious so they would probably freak the fuck out.
Haven't really experienced this too much, since I actually have a girlfriend. She's been very accepting.
I've only come out to some close friends and family. I just told one of my best friends today actually, turns out he's made out with a guy before so obviously it was taken well haha.
That's good. My ex-boyfriend was decidedly not accepting. He pretended to be for about a week before it was too much for him.
It's for the best though. I'm engaged to the right person now.
You're lucky, OP. I'm also bi, a fact that two of my exes (a straight man and a gay woman) were never fully comfortable with. Both of them expressed as much. Both relationships ended badly for several reasons, but my bisexuality was a pain point that came up rather often.
In regards to family, only my mother knows. When I came out to her, she pitied me. In her opinion, my life is going to be very difficult because of this, and she wishes I were normal.
At least none of my friends have ever had a problem with this, they are all open-minded, accepting and loving people.
Are you emotionally attracted to both men and women or is it just sexual attraction in both or one of the cases? I hope my question is clear and it's great that you embrace your identity, OP. I wish you nothing but happiness in life.
High five, OP. Me too.
One thing I have taken note of is how much easier it is for me to fit in than it is for many of my friends who are either gay/lesbian, trans, or both (not to blur the lines between sexual orientation and gender identity, but it's kinda relevant.)
I've been trying to be more aware of the privilege I have because I have the option of just dating a girl (I am a guy.) That is not to say that we, as bisexual people, are somehow less part of the LGBT community, but we do enjoy some benefits. I try to be aware of that when engaging others in conversations about sexuality, and even gender.
I knew I was bi way too early. I got beat up by a group of kids for sucking someone's dick in a swimming pool because it was literally a trap laid to "catch" me. Kids are mean. They really fucked me up.
Anyway, it took me years to get past that, and it's a peculiar by-product of bisexuality that one can more readily ignore the less socially-acceptable aspects of themselves in order to fit in without flat-out lying. I stealthed as straight for a long time. Survival tactics (I grew up in Florida.)
I find it really interesting to talk to other folks in the LGBT community as a bi guy, because there is a distance and a connection. We can enjoy the privilege we (hopefully) oppose, and that puts us in a pretty unique place. I try to be aware of that.
One thing I have taken note of is how much easier it is for me to fit in than it is for many of my friends who are either gay/lesbian, trans, or both (not to blur the lines between sexual orientation and gender identity, but it's kinda relevant.)
I've been trying to be more aware of the privilege I have because I have the option of just dating a girl (I am a guy.) That is not to say that we, as bisexual people, are somehow less part of the LGBT community, but we do enjoy some benefits. I try to be aware of that when engaging others in conversations about sexuality, and even gender.
I knew I was bi way too early. I got beat up by a group of kids for sucking someone's dick in a swimming pool because it was literally a trap laid to "catch" me. Kids are mean. They really fucked me up.
Anyway, it took me years to get past that, and it's a peculiar by-product of bisexuality that one can more readily ignore the less socially-acceptable aspects of themselves in order to fit in without flat-out lying. I stealthed as straight for a long time. Survival tactics (I grew up in Florida.)
I find it really interesting to talk to other folks in the LGBT community as a bi guy, because there is a distance and a connection. We can enjoy the privilege we (hopefully) oppose, and that puts us in a pretty unique place. I try to be aware of that.
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https://www.resetera.com/threads/us...k-you-anything-—-here-and-nowhere-else.23973/
Please post any future AMA posts there. Thank you.
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