Sometimes they leave the comforting glow of their computer monitor and step foot outside. Thus, they become a "Daywalker."They beat up other nerds.
Like Blade but Nerds instead of Vampires
OP, are you talking about users getting pushback when they spout pro-Trump garbage, or something benign like pineapple on pizza or microwaving hotdogs?
Because if it's the former, they deserve all the scorn in the world, even in a nerdy community like this.
I'm 30 and I swear I can't remember a time when I was ostracized for playing video games, to be honest. So this "nerds know how it feels like to be bullied" angle might not be universally true.
... I'm not judgmental myself, though! :P
I'm not. A bunch of predominantly white predominantly male people who think nobody likes or understands them is nearly guaranteed to consider themselves a persecuted class and exclude others
I'll echo this. I feel like I'm not 100% sure what's being referenced even though everyone else seems to be lol
I mean it just makes linear sense. I was ridiculed, bullied and all the good stuff for being a nerd. What do you think that leads to, kindness and empathy towards "non-nerds"? lol. It leads to resentment and toxicity and it's a conscious effort to claw one's way out of it. This is just how humans work, not how nerds work, just humans in general. Yes it's not right, yes it's self destructive, but it makes sense why things are like they are. No I don't judge people for not being nerds, I just judge all people in general, like all people do.
Yes, ideally, that should lead to you being extra empathetic toward everyone.I was ridiculed, bullied and all the good stuff for being a nerd. What do you think that leads to, kindness and empathy towards "non-nerds"?
It just kinda dawned on me, looking at various video game and tech forums on the internet (including this one) that despite the majority of us being stigmatized for being nerdy and knowing what it's like to feel judged for taking an interest in something like video games, we seem to lack general empathy and tolerance towards people of differing opinions and non-traditional behaviors. Even on matters where people attempt to legitimize the video game industry as a normal and acceptable way to promote careers and make money, they are often lambasted by members of the video game community themselves.
I'm sorry, what is it exactly that you find 'bullshit' about that particular phrase?
Well that is a non-sequitur if I ever saw one. I don't even know how you were able to come to that conclusion. Please elucidate!
Are you also surprised that minorities are racist towards other minorites?
Nerds are not a uniform group. Some are very friendly. Some are shy. Some are awkward. Some are withdrawn. And some are toxic.
Most have endured constant ridicule from childhood into adulthood for not being "normal". They are too smart. They are introverted.They look/sound stupid. They like X, Y, or Z that are childish. They are weak. They are easy to take advantage of.
Few choose to be social out casts, but the majority were forced into being outcast by society. You wonder why "nerds" are not more accepting? It because they have been conditioned by the rest of society to be/act tough in order to survive.
So instead of asking why are nerds alone not more accepting, the question should be asked why does society form clicks that ostracize others?
I was thinking about nerd cultures hating on other nerd cultures like their nerdiness is somehow more acceptable.I think there's a fundamental disconnect here.
Generally speaking, minorites are just fine with people who attempt to take action in ways that promote equality and make their minority groups less of a minority. This is not the case with nerds. I'm generalizing here, but it would appear that nerds don't want to seen as mainstream. They criticize people who try to normalize healthy geek/nerd culture. If someone wants to make money streaming video games, they are lambasted...by their own video gaming peers.
The above examples are not at all the same as minorities being racist towards other minorites. Yes, that's also hypocritical, but at least these minority groups generally want social acceptance. Nerds don't seem to want that.
9 times out of 10 when people say we should put up with someone with different opinion it usually means "tolerate the bigot." Not helping is that specifically point out the "liberal ones"
Even in nerd communities, no one is gonna be run of town for thinking the Xbox One X is greatest of all time.
When I was a kid liking video games in the US South was seen as nerdy or uncool, usually being made fun of cause you didn't like football or cars, or whatever. Nowadays we see many people playing video games that would once before criticize and bully those that enjoyed them. Maybe some feel like their small community and hobbie is being taken from them and thus lash out in the same way they were treated once before.
Not saying this is true, but a possible reason to why there is some toxic parts in gaming.
Nerd communities are like a gym locker room.
Everyone there likely has common cause or interest, in that they've got some level of commitment to, or are exploring, getting in shape. And then the stankest B.O. ever gets inhaled, or someone just plain farts. And then, the gym locker room is associated with B.O.
Based on Penny Arcade's awful behavior in the past, no one should have been attending PAX in the first place.This is one of the main reasons I stopped attending PAX.
Also at the last game studio I worked for it got pretty obnoxious as well.
Judgmental and elitist nerds are the worst.
Based on Penny Arcade's awful behavior in the past, no one should have been attending PAX in the first place.
Is this the kind of judgmental behavior you're talking about, OP?
The B.O. problem is definitely real and something that we need to continue to address. I'm assuming it has to do with being in an insular culture that doesn't have to deal with the negative reinforcement that comes with socializing in traditional circles, so people don't feel the need to take personal hygiene seriously, but that has gotta stop. Nobody wants to smell that funk at a community gathering. It's vile.
It was a simile.
The B.O. are the assholes of the community. Like when "gamer" became "gamergate" in the minds of people because of the stank, terrible, sticky cloud that it put over the community. The stink is going to be there in any community. Always will. It's just that we, as a community of nerds, gamers, whatever, need to do a better job of washing up, so to speak.
A different metaphor...we're a neighborhood of people that all get along, have neighborhood bbq's and such, but there's always going to be that neighbor that lets their dog shit on the sidewalk and doesn't pick it up, or worse, they purposefully have their dog shit on your lawn because they can get away with it. Then someone steps in it. You bring it up in the HOA meeting, but no one fesses up. Then every goddamn HOA meeting turns into a discussion about dog shit. Then you get flyers in your mailbox about those issues. Then someone that's interested in buying learns about it, and posts something online about "great neighborhood, but there's a dog poop problem". They're not wrong, and it ends up fucking with the property value.
Bit of a snowball rolling down a hill, but hopefully it makes sense.
Are you also surprised that minorities are racist towards other minorites?
When I was younger, I believed that viewing everyone through a critical lens was the correct way to ensure productive/healthy social interaction. It isn't. All it amounts to is assuming the worst of absolutely everyone and it's a miserable, alienating existence.
I get it, though. The current political climate in the US has... changed things. More people are willingly outing themselves as dirtbags than ever before and it's tough not to be soured on humanity. Still, it's not like it's difficult to out these people as they feel comfortable in doing it themselves. You don't need to be particularly discerning of subtleties in dialect employed or cling to hilarious "gotcha" generalizations/statistics.
My job has me working with the public within their own homes. I assume the best of anyone and treat everyone as though they're saints. If they're not, they'll gleefully tell you how bigoted they are at the soonest opportunity. If there's one thing everyone loves it's talking about themselves. I've also learned from these interactions that shunning is more effective than confrontation most of the time. The latter breeds resistance while the former has garnered me a ton of apologies. Telling people they're wrong vs making them feel as though they've done wrong are most definitely two different things and I think the only way to truly learn the subtleties is life experience. Interacting with a variety of social groups in their homes on a regular basis also grants you real-world examples to share with others that prove they're wrong about a certain group. I can casually drop a story without dropping the hammer (ie. without a confrontational "you're wrong and here's why) and.... it resonates. You know when people are listening (more often) and when they're hand waiving (less often and mostly done overtly)
But I digress. Good topic, OP. You're a good dood.
In a kinda similar tone, to this day i can't still fully comprehend the rampant biphobia and sometimes transphobia within queer communities.