no one is saying that all, but you can not deny that the image of modern feminism is attached to the likes of those.
like, when men started to complain about some abuse or whatever dont remember exactly, what were some feminist response? the whole "Masculinity is so fragile" movement as a ridicule
I don't quite follow you here.
Anyhow, most Feminists I know, especially Eco Feminists, try their best not to name "men" as one group, when they talk about the Patriarchy. They will stress that it isn't men but the Patriarchy itself and some within the ruling class of the system. A ruling class that has set the rules in their favour for thousands of years and abuse minorities of any kind (and yes that is ANY minority including those that have more privilege, white poor men are a minority too) and their insecurities to fight each other. As long as you can get one group to fight another, you stay in power. Of course some groups you need to give more privilege (like white men), as that is how humans work. One will have to get jealous, the other has to get scared (as they take what little they have away from them) and before you know it you got discord in the masses. Exactly what those in power want.
As the moment all these minorities and tribes start realizing :"Wait a minute, you are the same as I, we're being DUPED!?" you get an uprising! Like the peasant uprisings in the medieval times and in Rome. Over the centuries the haves have perfected this psychological game to perfection!
After all, if you can get Feminists and the male gender to fight, they become toothless towards the actual targets, as they spend their ammo on each other. Each group using bastardized cartoonish evil versions of the other in their head. There is no feminist that will complain that Male Abuse is non existent, far from it! They were the ones putting male rape, and male abuse on the bloody table! Male chauvinism usually downplays that abuse as "the victim is a wuss! Why isn't he standing up for himself! Pansy!". Which is something Feminists have been fighting since forever now.