God damn. Would rather risk a fight with a mountain lion and leave the mountain than stay in that situation.
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Is it wrong If I feel uncomfortable when I'm the only black person?
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God damn. Would rather risk a fight with a mountain lion and leave the mountain than stay in that situation.
You're overthinking it immensely OP. I work in an industry that is heavily white and have been on camping trips where I was the only black person.
Camping is about chilling and having fun and a good way to know your workmates better as most people drop their guard.
I mean if you can't do a simple fun camping trip with some white folks. I worry how you'll deal with being black in more high pressure situations.
Camping is about chilling and having fun and a good way to know your workmates better as most people drop their guard.
I mean if you can't do a simple fun camping trip with some white folks. I worry how you'll deal with being black in more high pressure situations.
Are the other people bringing their significant others? If so why not bring your girlfriend. You'll get the benefit of at least having someone your comfortable with while also appearing sociable and enjoying time with your coworkers.
I don't know the dynamic of your job, but I don't think you want to get labeled as anti-social. My mother always tells me to never give people the ability to ascribe anything that can be used as a knock since we're already starting off at a disadvantage because of race.
Maybe it's because I've always been the only black guy, I never really let that stop me from enjoying social scenarios.
I don't know the dynamic of your job, but I don't think you want to get labeled as anti-social. My mother always tells me to never give people the ability to ascribe anything that can be used as a knock since we're already starting off at a disadvantage because of race.
Maybe it's because I've always been the only black guy, I never really let that stop me from enjoying social scenarios.
That's maybe what you believe, but that's not true.I can't speak for all the white people, but I'd feel out of place if I were the only white person in a group and the rest were either black or asian.This applies to everyone of any race I assume, not just to black people.
Unless there were some awkward entrance where everyone stops talking and stares at you then I wouldn't mind.
I'm a minority and these things happened to me a lot growing up. It's 100% ok to be uncomfortable, but I wouldn't want to cheat myself out of a potentially very fun experience just because white people are afoot. That leans a bit too uncomfortably close to self-victimization for me.
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I'm seconding this. I've camped plenty of times and the older I get, the more I hate it.
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Bro, why do older white dudes love asking that? I was vice president of the history club and I have asthma
"Don't get shot by the police"
There is nothing wrong with you, normal anxiety given the situation you are in. Not going could be a lost opportunity for work connections and missing out on things. I don't know how your office works but everywhere i have worked is very clique like and people who don't participate / join in don't get the advancements / connections / opportunities that people who do get. Just need to weigh the pros and cons but completely understandable to be uncomfortable / not wanna do it.
As a black man myself I'd feel a bit weird too and have in many other situations but I'd still go,fuck it. You may end up saving everyone from a bear attack and be crowned supernegro for the rest of your days there.
Is everyone going? If they are, I think you should go if you can handle it. People will
Make a note of it. And as others have mentioned, it might play role in being passed by for projects or advancement
Make a note of it. And as others have mentioned, it might play role in being passed by for projects or advancement
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Where did I say you wouldn't be uncomfortable, I said you can virtually go anywhere and not even have to experience this feeling for the most part.
Hence why white people get joked on for feeling uncomfortable for 2 seconds of their lives in minority rooms while POC navigate predominantly white countries and societies.
But white people experience the same thing in countries where they're minorities, it's not something exclusive to black people, so I'm not sure what you're talking about.
This is me at every Christmas party. I'm not the only Latino in attendance but I'm damn close. I'm not sure many white people can relate to that awful mix of being a minority in an extremely social environment with people who have a very real influence on your future prospects, many of whom have almost zero life experience in common with you. If you're an introverted person, add an anxiety multiplier to the mix, lol.
How often are white people forced to integrate and socialize within those countries? When they visit on vacation, would you say the vast majority of white people go deep within the country and communicate with locals or do they stick to the tourist/westernized districts and landmarks?
Do white people often find themselves in workplaces being the only white face surrounded by color?
You know exactly what Im getting at here.
Racially monolithic (or nearly so) groups don't happen by accident. You're not the racist one for being uncomfortable as the only black dude in a group.
I still don't get what you're saying.Black people are forced to integrate in countries where white people are also minorities, while white people aren't?To answer your second question, I guess it differs from person to person.Do ALL black people do the same things?I don't think so.
If white people are a minority in that country, then yes?I really don't get your questions.The same thing applies to every minority, not just black people.
Its a statement on global demographics. I never said anything about people unable to feel uncomfortable, you brought that up.
What Im saying is that due to effects of colonization around the globe, White People run into that scenario a lot less than other racial groups. Another way to put it is majority of White People usually get to actively choose to put themselves in that scenario. Not so much the other way around for other groups in most western countries.
You should go and have a good time with the rest of your coworkers. I mean, I'm assuming you've worked with some of these people for an extended period of time and have gotten to know them? Do you just not enjoy their company or is it really about you being the sole black person there?
Am I speaking Chinese?
In the US for context, White People have to actively make an effort to put themselves in a situation where they would be a minority. God damn, idk if you're trolling but you acting like this shit isn't basic as fuck everyday knowledge or a common observation.
English isn't my native language.All I'm trying to explain to you is that your statement in your first post was wrong.I hope you get that now.
No, OP. It's not wrong for you to feel uncomfortable, at all.
Thanks Yoda. š
Thats not how it works doofus.
Seeing as I explained my thought process and all you had to say was "Im confused"
your english is perfectly fine, that aint a excuse playa
This is your statement :
"White people can virtually go anywhere they please and not feel out of place as a minority, thats why they get ragged on when they complain about scenarios like this. "
Which is wrong, by the way.I explain to you that things don't work like that in real life.If you want to understand that's fine, if not, that's also fine.