Saying that you're having thoughts about other people is one thing. If you're in a committed, monogamous relationship and you can safely say you've "met" someone new, you've already crossed the line of emotional infidelity.
Not all infidelity is physical.
....Yeah it is. I can't say you've cheated if you haven't done anything. When you phrase it like this that means it's literally impossible to not cheat by breaking off a relationship to date someone new, even if you've never done anything with the new person yet. That means every person who's ever said "if you're going to cheat, just end the relationship" is stating something impossible.
This isn't true at all. You can be a mature adult and maintain a friendship with an ex, in fact if you have children it is required for you to do so. I feel like this sentiment exists for people that either haven't had mature relationships or very few relationships.
I dunno man, that shit sounds like a myth. Like maybe there
are some people who can make that happen, but generally break ups are so messy that a "friendship" is highly unlikely. You can be professional about it, though. Speaking of:
I've been married for 10 years and my wife just dropped the "I'm not in love with you anymore" and "I have feelings for someone else" on me. I'm a complete wreck and I don't even know what I'm gonna do. She wants to stay friends, but I'm just not sure I can handle it.
If you don't have kids, just cut ties man. It sucks and it hurts, but all this "being friends" shit is something a person who won the break up says. And when i say cut ties, I don't mean say anything mean or nasty to her. Just don't contact them for a while. That kinda pain doesn't go away over night, and you should be allowed time to heal. You can be fake friends--wave if you see them out in public--but real friends? That's going to take time, and she should be able to accept that.
