No that's a good point, and I would defer to her judgement and experiences as well. Look, domestic abuse is a complicated subject. In many cases its an isolated incident brought on by outside stressors and not a pattern of behavior. I can understand how a victim of a one time assault from a partner would be willing to forgive and recontextualize the situation given those factors. Perhaps that WAS the situation with Heard's previous partner, and then her behavior escalated with Depp.
Like you, I thought it was a mutually abusive situation for a while as well (and thus was not interested in condemning Depp specifically for behavior they both engaged in equally), but all this evidence makes it clear that the abuse was lopsided on her part, she was AWARE of how abusive her behavior was and continued engaging in that behavior anyway, and specifically used society's lack of empathy for male victims to continue to abuse Depp. Meanwhile Depp repeatedly tried to leave the abusive situation and diffuse it.
