"Students are also told by their teacher that if a classmate asks to be on their card, they should be polite and respectful, and agree to dance with that person," the school said. "This applies to all students regardless of gender."
Like, the system itself sounds terrible because, well, what if someone's already dancing with another person? Do they drop their current dance partner and dance with the other person? I highly doubt a certain student is going to have a giant line of kids waiting to dance with them. They're most likely going to look at their cards, scan the room, see which person on their card doesn't have a partner, and go and ask them.
Again, they're not being forced since this is a voluntary event. Cards also have a limit so they can say, "Sorry, my card is full".
I don't think you fully understand what "forced" means.
Yeah, I bet they would. Or they would shame them for denying consent which is also not great.
If it's just a dance that's no big deal they should have no problem with changing how they go about this. Nobody is arguing they are going to walk away traumatized from this one event, it's the message it imparts on them. To boys it's saying a girl cannot say no, to a girl it's saying she can't say no. It's these seemingly small things throughout our lives that add up and add up and contribute to the culture we have of sexual assault and impropriety and women being treated as second-class citizens.
They're in the 6th grade, I'm not sure you know what they're thinking.
It's not just a "dance", it's choreographed dances meaning they're not just all in a giant clump listening to the top 40. They're doing practiced dances that they've already practiced. She can still say no so can the boys. I 100% guarantee you the teachers or staff aren't going to force someone to dance with someone if they don't want to.
Like, you don't really get a choice in group projects, at work, airlines, public transportation, etc. or plenty of things in our lives. Like, you could be playing freeze tag, line tag, capture the flag, etc where you come into physical contact with another human being but it's still optional. Optional just like this dance. At the end of the day, if a student doesn't feel comfortable participating then they can not go. It's not mandatory. I suspect the grand majority of students attending won't have any problems with the event, and if they do it's probably cause it's going to be a boring ass event rather than they have to dance with Charlie who may or may not watch too much anime.
I highly doubt this dance is going to reinforce the idea that girls can't say no to a large degree that it will shape their futures. That falls more on sex ed, media depictions of relationships, and how they were raised by the family.