My father lived a long, hard life. He died this morning at the age of 91 from pancreatic cancer. My mom, brother and girlfriend were there when he passed. I got home from back surgery yesterday so I couldn't be there.
My dad was a simple man, and angry, very angry. He never spoke much about himself, his childhood, his family, basically anything. He had two emotions: anger and frustration. I told my brother a few days ago that I knew virtually nothing about my dad and he told me he was in the same boat. He never had any friends, we.dont even know if he had friends as a kid..How he grew up, if he graduated college, etc. Odd that I know more about my father from my long passed grandmother than from him. My mom said the same.
Is providing food, clothes and a.roof enough to be a.parent? I don't know. All I know is for good or ill you have no say in the family you're dealt.
Do I miss my dad? I'm not sure. I don't think I ever really know him, and that's the saddest thing of all.
My dad was a simple man, and angry, very angry. He never spoke much about himself, his childhood, his family, basically anything. He had two emotions: anger and frustration. I told my brother a few days ago that I knew virtually nothing about my dad and he told me he was in the same boat. He never had any friends, we.dont even know if he had friends as a kid..How he grew up, if he graduated college, etc. Odd that I know more about my father from my long passed grandmother than from him. My mom said the same.
Is providing food, clothes and a.roof enough to be a.parent? I don't know. All I know is for good or ill you have no say in the family you're dealt.
Do I miss my dad? I'm not sure. I don't think I ever really know him, and that's the saddest thing of all.