People of all genders can use they/them pronouns too, so it's hard to say without knowing the person. And we all have preferences for what we'd like to be called.
Speaking only for myself, I wouldn't want to be referred to as a "son". I like to use "spawn" when talking about myself, and I'm sure most people would be uncomfortable with that.
I like spawn! Much better than something formal like "offspring."
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I definitely understand why the seeming contradiction in "I have a daughter who uses they/them pronouns" might cause you
to raise an eyebrow. But without knowing more context and the specifics of how that individual expresses their gender and prefers to be addressed, it's impossible to know if the parent actually misgendered them or not. As CountCorvinus notes, people of all genders can prefer they/them pronouns. Not everybody who uses they/them pronouns is necessarily rejecting the gender binary — some people understand that they are both male and female, and would be equally okay being called a daughter or a son, and some other people are genderfluid and their gender expression changes over time, and they might accept they/them pronouns even though at various times they might also be a he/him or a she/her. Or they might not! Turns out™ gender is actually really complicated and it all depends on the person. :)
Hey, thanks for the replies! I had a feeling this would end up as a personal preference more than anything, but I didn't want to assume.
I got a kind of… well, let's just say a "Trumpy" vibe from the speaker, so that was informing my reaction as well. But I also didn't want to immediately think the worst.
I really appreciate both you taking the time to reply. I didn't want to just barge in here, but I really was at a loss googling around. Thank you both!