So me and the guy I was seeing finally made it official. I'm super excited right now and happy every chance I get to see him.
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RE: That thread, in that specific example they should have broken up. It sounded less like "I love what we have but miss sex with others" and more of "i don't enjoy sex with them anymore but still want the emotional stability of a relationship to fall back on"
Sex is the primary currency of gay male culture, so of course we'r more open to non-monogamy. Because our communities are so small, it's more than likely for us to have dated or hooked up with someone that one of your friends also has hooked up with.
I don't have problems with it generally, but I do hate how some people in open relationships are intentionally vague about being in a relationship. I've gone on dates with open guys where nothing in their profile mentioned their relationship, and they only brought it up partway through the date. Even last weekend this dude at a bar was flirting with me hard, we go to make out, then he says "I want to do more but I have to ask my husband". Just be respectful of my time and and i'll be respectful of yours.
I'm in the process of moving right now, and it's a lot of work (not to mention my commute is going to be horrible), but I'm so glad right now because I can get away from my aunt.
She's not a bad person... not at all, she's just from Wisconsin and has some extremely conservative leaning views. >> While I wouldn't call her an outright homophobe, there is the problem that anytime gay people show up in media she scoffs at it, and just the other day she was making fun of the fact that there are meet up groups for intersex people and it took every fiber of my being to not pick a fight with her about it.
Basically I'm just tired of having put up with all her microaggressions and not being able to be able to talk about queer issues with my mom because my aunt "doesn't want to get political".
I spent the weekend with two queer friends of mine and it was amazing... how nice it was being able to fully be me. I hope this can continue now that my aunt will be living under a different roof than me.
She's not a bad person... not at all, she's just from Wisconsin and has some extremely conservative leaning views. >> While I wouldn't call her an outright homophobe, there is the problem that anytime gay people show up in media she scoffs at it, and just the other day she was making fun of the fact that there are meet up groups for intersex people and it took every fiber of my being to not pick a fight with her about it.
Basically I'm just tired of having put up with all her microaggressions and not being able to be able to talk about queer issues with my mom because my aunt "doesn't want to get political".
I spent the weekend with two queer friends of mine and it was amazing... how nice it was being able to fully be me. I hope this can continue now that my aunt will be living under a different roof than me.
Thanks! Though I wasn't trying to imply anything, sorry if I did. >>
Yep, every state has its assholes. Though my aunt's children are even worse in their opinions. >>
It's a lot. But the long and short of it is, I feel an enormous pressure to comodify myself to be able to fully partake of the queer scene around me.
And that requires a level of performance I can't muster right now. I feel like a fish out of water.
I tried doing the same and gave up on it. I prefer hanging out with my straight friends because I fit right in with them plus my boyfriend likes them too.
The bolded is exactly how I read it as well. Obviously in this case it's possible to have your cake and eat it too if your partner is enough of a doormat, but that's not really the most morally correct path to take, IMO.
It's one things to want to seek/be able to seek intimacy with other people, but doing it because you don't enjoy it with your primary partner is not a good reason.
As far as the italicized goes, I agree, but also sex/intimacy is a bedrock of most relationships, regardless of gender makeup. It's not the same thing (as some nerds were saying) as just wanting to play video games with someone else.
I don't think we are disagreeing. I said sex is the bedrock of gay male culture, not that it's uniquely the bedrock of gay relationships. A happy sex life is important to all kinds of relationships, but for straight dating culture, sex becomes less important as people get older and feel pressured by a ticking biological clock. That's not a concern for the majority of gay male relationships, so sex continues to be the primary currency of the gay male community.
Oh for sure, I wasn't disagreeing at all, just also expanding on what you said.
I *might* have a date for monday
Realized this might be my first post in the thread so here goes:
Realized this might be my first post in the thread so here goes:
- Your gender? Your sexual identity? (Preferred pronouns?)- cis, male, he him
- Your sexual orientation? mostly gay (like 90%)
- Where Are You From?- Kansas
- Where Do You Live?- Indiana
- How Old Are you?- 23
- Favorite Type of Music?- The avatar should answer that
- Profession or Career interest?- Mechanical engineer, current graduate student
- Favorite video game(s)?- Sly cooper series, hollow knight, horizon zero dawn, bloodborne
- What are your hobbies (other than gaming)?- lapsed fiction reader, podcast listener, getting back into running, used to play a mean french horn.
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Last night I went to the European Gay Porn Awards ha ha. Hosted by Chi Chi La Rue. It was hilarious and also quite hot just full of porn starts, escorts and hotties. I'm trying to get out and meet people more now that I don't go clubbing that much and I'm sick of these apps. I've found this website called Meetup and that was the first thing I signed up for of course.
Unfortunately I have work today so I couldn't stay for the after party + dark room which was probably the best part. :(
Unfortunately I have work today so I couldn't stay for the after party + dark room which was probably the best part. :(
I just realized I need to find a roommate this summer and they need to be ok with me being gender nonconforming and wearing girly stuff aaaaaaa
That said anyone lookin for a place to stay in WI 👀
Lol
The last guy I was with was nervous and addicted to porn so he couldnt get hard at all
Why invite me over then uuuuuuuugh
The last guy I was with was nervous and addicted to porn so he couldnt get hard at all
Why invite me over then uuuuuuuugh
Well this weekend I may have realized I'm more queer/nonbinary/less of a man than I previously thought
May be good with feminine pronouns as well
WIP
May be good with feminine pronouns as well
WIP
The European Gay Porn Awards was advertised on Meetup?
Maybe I should join.
- Your gender? Your sexual identity? (Preferred pronouns?)
- Gay Cis Male, He/Him
- Where Are You From? Where Do You Live?
- USA
- How Old Are you?
- 29
- Favorite Type of Music?
- Pop
- Profession or Career interest?
- Programmer
- Favorite video game(s)?
- The Longest Journey/Dreamfall/Dreamfall Chapters, Final Fantasy VIII, Skyrim
- What are your hobbies (other than gaming)?
- Overall being a gigantic nerd
I'm ready for it, honestly. It's been cold and rainy where I live, so I could use some sun.
A dog named Niles and twins"Where do you see yourself in ten years?"
Making spice on Arrakis?"Where do you see yourself in ten years?"
Simultaneously God Emperor with horrible prescience and cat trapped in long sleeve.
Pride is around the corner, are you guys gonna visit some pride festivals? I'm gonna be in Cologne and Berlin this year, and maybe in Amsterdam, can't wait :D
Motor City Pride is right around the corner. I couldn't attend last year's because I was recovering from a stomach virus. Can't wait.
And then there's Hotter Than July after that.
And then there's Hotter Than July after that.
I have a "is this queerbaiting" question.
So with production of the My Little Pony spinoff Equestria Girls wrapping up, the director revealed that many of the shipping hints people saw in the series were deliberately placed there. These hints were added at the storyboarding stage, and not in the writing stage. Two of the tweets. Note that Rarijack is the pair of Rarity and Applejack, both girls.
I didn't think much about this, but then she had this to say about whether that makes it valid LGBTQ representation or not.
To provide context about how MLP has handled gay relationships, the writers and crew have always been fine with gay ships, and there have been gay couples in the background (or at least two characters of the same gender holding hands / eating together with a romantic set up / hugging / dancing together). But nothing explicit in the foreground, and some of these female characters have been in romances with male characters (though that's never been a major focus).
I suppose my question is, is this queerbaiting when there wasn't any real expectation from the audience that these hints would go anywhere and they aren't like actual parts of the story, and they were added by the animators and not the writers?
So with production of the My Little Pony spinoff Equestria Girls wrapping up, the director revealed that many of the shipping hints people saw in the series were deliberately placed there. These hints were added at the storyboarding stage, and not in the writing stage. Two of the tweets. Note that Rarijack is the pair of Rarity and Applejack, both girls.
I didn't think much about this, but then she had this to say about whether that makes it valid LGBTQ representation or not.
To provide context about how MLP has handled gay relationships, the writers and crew have always been fine with gay ships, and there have been gay couples in the background (or at least two characters of the same gender holding hands / eating together with a romantic set up / hugging / dancing together). But nothing explicit in the foreground, and some of these female characters have been in romances with male characters (though that's never been a major focus).
I suppose my question is, is this queerbaiting when there wasn't any real expectation from the audience that these hints would go anywhere and they aren't like actual parts of the story, and they were added by the animators and not the writers?
Hey everyone! Figured I'd introduce myself.
- Your gender? Your sexual identity? (Preferred pronouns?) I'm non-binary! They/them is fine.
- Your sexual orientation? I'm bisexual
- Where Are You From? From the US, though I'm considering moving elsewhere.
- Where Do You Live? Same as above
- How Old Are you? 24, going to be 25 in a few days (yay!)
- Favorite Type of Music? Punk, goth, wave, metal, grunge, rap
- Profession or Career interest? I'm a writer, hoping to go fully professional someday.
- Favorite video game(s)? I enjoy RPGs, survival-horror, point and click adventures, visual novels and puzzle games.
- What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? I'm into writing, philosophy and just all-around getting to know people. So hi!
I personally don't see it as queerbaiting, no. Although we have stuff like Steven Universe and The Legend of Korra, among others, creators still have to be very careful when including stuff like this in media aimed at children, sadly. It was probably just the animators wanting to add in a sprinkle of LGBT representation in whatever capacity they could, since they're not writers.
Welcome! We can always use more Utena fans. What sort of philosophical problems, traditions, etc, are you interested in?
