LGBTQera |ERA1| (We're Queer)

umop 3pisdn

Member
Oct 27, 2017
1,942
Well, I suppose I have been playing Dragon's Dogma sporadically sometimes, and I haven't yet relinquished all claims to homosensuality/I'm not a monk!...
 

TRUE ORDER

Member
Oct 30, 2017
2,547
Hi! I guess it’s time to join hehe.
  • Your gender? Your sexual identity? Male
  • Your sexual orientation? Gay
  • Where Are You From? Santiago, Chile
  • Where Do You Live? Same as above
  • How Old Are you? 26
  • Favorite Type of Music? A lot of genres, from Blink182 to Taylor Swift, from Boyce Avenue to J-Pop, and videogame OST/ anime music.
  • Profession or Career interest? Pharmacist.
  • Favorite video game(s)? TLOU, RE3, KH2, Chrono Cross, pokemon HGSS, Splatoon2.
  • What are your hobbies? Anime, manga, digital illustration (my dream is getting to be a freelancer concept artist), writing.
I’m so terribly alone lately that joining here might help me cope a bit. Nice to meet you all.
Welcome to the thread!!
I'm from Chile too :)
 

Archmage

Member
Oct 25, 2017
101
Hey all, I recently came out as Bisexual - and it has been pretty painless and encouraging coming out to friends.

Any tips on coming out to a parent who has been pretty outwardly homophobic through out your lifetime? It's my dad specifically. He's probably pretty typical of a lot of older black dads unfortunately. I've pushed back over the years whenever he has said stuff, and he has certainly softened and gotten better over the years, but there's certainly still glimpses of it.

He's one of those people who will support and vote for all the rights in the world for LGBTQ, but it all breaks down as soon as anything LGBTQ enters his personal sphere. I'm adamant on not hiding away any part of me from anyone, but at the same time, I'm low key scared to death in this case haha
I don't have advice for this (my family isn't really relevant in my life) but I wish you all the best.

Kudos to discovering another part of yourself. Keep soaring.
 

Dany

Member
Oct 29, 2017
2,358
seattle
Hey guys I havn’t posted here in forever. Just saying I love you all and I wanna make an effort to post in here more. Below is some cute pics cuz idk im tipsy


 

ParmeSean

Member
May 14, 2018
332
Me when i start texting the boy who ghosted me months back again



Why are boys the sweetest poison?

Edit: Nevermind he texted back, boys are good now
 
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Tanooki

Member
Oct 25, 2017
995
Canada

Manipular

Member
Oct 27, 2017
492
Detroit, MI
I’ve actually looked into Pure before. I’ve never tried it though, and have just stuck with my fiber supplement (Metamucil), a light diet, and douching. Might give PfM a try though, if it’s been working for you?
Yeah, it works great for me personally. I've been using it for a few years now and haven't had to douche since shortly after I started it.

But, as I said above, everyone's body is different, so you shouldn't necessarily ezpect these results.
 

OniLinkPlus

Member
Oct 25, 2017
572
I flirted with a cute girl today at my unis queer bbq! I think I was successful? But I'm also a clueless disaster lesbian so I actually have no idea. She smiled a lot, sat with me and my friends when I offered, and let me add her on discord?

I don't do this form of social interaction much at all and am extremely clueless. Gonna invite her to hang out this weekend. Fingers crossed?
 

MasaDrew

Member
Jun 20, 2019
37
Pure is similar to taking fiber supplements really. I've had bouts where I didn't need to clean out at all or where it allows me to have a really quick cleaning. Then theres every other time where I forget to take it and eat like a top and well, looks like I'm topping trick.

Atlanta Pride is this weekend!!!! Its going to be messy and I'm here for it XDDDDD
 

Marsy

Member
Dec 4, 2018
108
Anyone by any chance playing WoW:Classic? I'm trying out Classic on Alliance on Blaumeux. I went there after the GayBoys guild news. :P
 
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Inukage

Member
Oct 25, 2017
154
Down Under
Back with another update to my situation, lots has happened in the last 5 months! (sorry for long ass post)
I'll start with May, my first relationship if you could even call it that died as soon as it became a thing (lasted 1-2 weeks), they went from being my closet friend to becoming a toxic jealous psychopath. They pretty much wanted me to stay in the closet and pretend to date girls to keep up appearances, so I had decided to end it pretty quickly before any of us got hurt... but it was already to late He had already threatened to end their life as me cutting them out of my life was me trying to isolate them as all the friends they had were actually my friends who only put up with his shit because of me.

June was a another hectic Month I decided to come out to my brother and Mother shit went down how I expect they would, they pretty much said I was confused and needed to get help there was no hints of me... but as the month progressed things seemed to have gotten easier, I had also told all my closets friends and work mates, they were all super supportive about it.

Late June I decided to make a tinder account and see who were the available bachelors in my area and was pretty much instantly matched with a guy, let’s call him Francis. After talking for about a week we went on a date, I was pretty nervous seeing as it was my first proper date of any kind ever and I had no idea what to expect, but the dude was really chill and down to earth. The date was pretty successful as he invited me to movies and dinner, which we did the following day, his company was amazing! We had our 3rd date the very next day at his place were he cooked me dinner and sang me songs on his guitar which legitimately melted my heart, he got me good with “Can’t help falling in love” by Elvis, he then introduced me to his Dad before he left and we proceeded to have dinner, then we kicked back in his room for him to sing some more and watch movies, instead we just ended up cuddling for hours, which was something I never had a chance to experience before, something so simple just felt so right.

Late July/early August where things were looking good, spending more and more time with Francis and after 3 weeks since our first date he had asked if I’d like to be his Boyfriend (of course I said yes), however this was when things started to get pretty hectic....

After celebrating the night before my birthday with him and having the best night/morning I’ve ever had! things started to take a turn for the worse as my Dad the only person In my immediate family that I wasn't out too at the time was getting suspicious, so I had decided that night I come out to him… It went as you’d expect from someone with a strong military/catholic background, he pretty much disowned me on the spot and told me how disgusting I was, the usually sort of jazz. The very next morning I decided to pack my things and move out of home, so I spent the next week with my partner on a little holiday retreat trying to clear my head space, which was definitely what I needed at the time.

It had been 2 weeks since coming out to my Dad and I had my Mum call me asking me to come home to have a chat with Dad to try and get things back together. I decided to man up and just sort it out and to my surprise my Dad has cool down a lot and asked me to explain to him why I was the way I was and how long I knew, after a long D&M he gave me a big hug and told me I was always welcome in his house even if he doesn’t agree with my lifestyle.

At this point in time thing started to look up again, Family was starting to come around, Francis was there to support me through this hard time and constantly reassuring me that he was in this relationship for life, but things never stay peaches and cream... Francis flew back to work as he does Fly in Fly to a local mine site in Western Australia and messages me saying he was having really back stomach cramps, but was sure if it was just something had eaten on the flight, but things progressively got worse and he had to be flown off the sight to a regional hospital to have emergency surgery as it was his appendix that had burst.

The surgery had initially gone well, but his blood pressure started to drop and he was getting pale so the head nurse had called us and advised it’s looking really messy and they’re not sure what was going on, at this point I had decided there was no way I could be away from him during this time so I had discussed with his mum that I’d be flying up to go see him. During the longest 2 hour flight on my life, I had finally arrived and went straight to see him and was greeted by his lovely smile and his tears from the shock of me being there, I ended up spending the next 6 nights while he recovered from the 2 surgeries.

Fast forward to the following week, Francis started getting a bit of discharge from one of his wounds, so he immediately went into emergency and was told he had to have another surgery to clear the sight of infection and at this point we finally got the biopsy results from the removal of his appendix and it was not what we were expecting, it seems there was a cancerous tumor which caused his appendix to flare up, but the doctors were sure they had completely removed it, but because his situation was so unusual they had to get a tribunal of specialists to review his case.

A couple of weeks later (September) we got the results of this review and have now found out it may have spread to the top of his colon and he will need surgery to have a portion of it removed, but his unable to have the surgery till January and they believe his body won’t survive the surgery as it going to be pretty messy … So that night we decided to go to his Brothers house and get a bit lit with them to try and cry out all our feelings out with his siblings.

While the future is looking scary I’ve continued to stay positive through it all for the both of us, we’ve still continued to plan our future together like nothing has happened and we’ve actually got 2 holidays to look forward to before he goes for his surgery. I have told him I will be with him through it all hand and in hand (he was worried I’d leave and even told me he wanted to break up with me to save me the pain, but then apologized for even suggesting the idea). we’ve been through so much together in such a short amount of time and I believe that has made us stronger in many different ways, we’ve already been planning things such house/wedding/kids to give us something to look forward to (honestly we spoke about this stuff 2 weeks into the relationship haha) I know this will be something we will look back on as just something else we’ve conquered together.

I know the cliche is things get better, but honestly even with all the ups and downs I’ve had recently they really do. Stay positive Fam and Thanks for reading my update <3

TLDR: Had a huge falling out, came out and then moved out. I found the love of my life, he finds out that he has cancer and things are still looking bright, just got to stay positive.
 

Nigthwizard

The Fallen
Oct 27, 2017
212
Costa Rica
Back with another update to my situation, lots has happened in the last 5 months! (sorry for long ass post)
I'll start with May, my first relationship if you could even call it that died as soon as it became a thing (lasted 1-2 weeks), they went from being my closet friend to becoming a toxic jealous psychopath. They pretty much wanted me to stay in the closet and pretend to date girls to keep up appearances, so I had decided to end it pretty quickly before any of us got hurt... but it was already to late He had already threatened to end their life as me cutting them out of my life was me trying to isolate them as all the friends they had were actually my friends who only put up with his shit because of me.

June was a another hectic Month I decided to come out to my brother and Mother shit went down how I expect they would, they pretty much said I was confused and needed to get help there was no hints of me... but as the month progressed things seemed to have gotten easier, I had also told all my closets friends and work mates, they were all super supportive about it.

Late June I decided to make a tinder account and see who were the available bachelors in my area and was pretty much instantly matched with a guy, let’s call him Francis. After talking for about a week we went on a date, I was pretty nervous seeing as it was my first proper date of any kind ever and I had no idea what to expect, but the dude was really chill and down to earth. The date was pretty successful as he invited me to movies and dinner, which we did the following day, his company was amazing! We had our 3rd date the very next day at his place were he cooked me dinner and sang me songs on his guitar which legitimately melted my heart, he got me good with “Can’t help falling in love” by Elvis, he then introduced me to his Dad before he left and we proceeded to have dinner, then we kicked back in his room for him to sing some more and watch movies, instead we just ended up cuddling for hours, which was something I never had a chance to experience before, something so simple just felt so right.

Late July/early August where things were looking good, spending more and more time with Francis and after 3 weeks since our first date he had asked if I’d like to be his Boyfriend (of course I said yes), however this was when things started to get pretty hectic....

After celebrating the night before my birthday with him and having the best night/morning I’ve ever had! things started to take a turn for the worse as my Dad the only person In my immediate family that I wasn't out too at the time was getting suspicious, so I had decided that night I come out to him… It went as you’d expect from someone with a strong military/catholic background, he pretty much disowned me on the spot and told me how disgusting I was, the usually sort of jazz. The very next morning I decided to pack my things and move out of home, so I spent the next week with my partner on a little holiday retreat trying to clear my head space, which was definitely what I needed at the time.

It had been 2 weeks since coming out to my Dad and I had my Mum call me asking me to come home to have a chat with Dad to try and get things back together. I decided to man up and just sort it out and to my surprise my Dad has cool down a lot and asked me to explain to him why I was the way I was and how long I knew, after a long D&M he gave me a big hug and told me I was always welcome in his house even if he doesn’t agree with my lifestyle.

At this point in time thing started to look up again, Family was starting to come around, Francis was there to support me through this hard time and constantly reassuring me that he was in this relationship for life, but things never stay peaches and cream... Francis flew back to work as he does Fly in Fly to a local mine site in Western Australia and messages me saying he was having really back stomach cramps, but was sure if it was just something had eaten on the flight, but things progressively got worse and he had to be flown off the sight to a regional hospital to have emergency surgery as it was his appendix that had burst.

The surgery had initially gone well, but his blood pressure started to drop and he was getting pale so the head nurse had called us and advised it’s looking really messy and they’re not sure what was going on, at this point I had decided there was no way I could be away from him during this time so I had discussed with his mum that I’d be flying up to go see him. During the longest 2 hour flight on my life, I had finally arrived and went straight to see him and was greeted by his lovely smile and his tears from the shock of me being there, I ended up spending the next 6 nights while he recovered from the 2 surgeries.

Fast forward to the following week, Francis started getting a bit of discharge from one of his wounds, so he immediately went into emergency and was told he had to have another surgery to clear the sight of infection and at this point we finally got the biopsy results from the removal of his appendix and it was not what we were expecting, it seems there was a cancerous tumor which caused his appendix to flare up, but the doctors were sure they had completely removed it, but because his situation was so unusual they had to get a tribunal of specialists to review his case.

A couple of weeks later (September) we got the results of this review and have now found out it may have spread to the top of his colon and he will need surgery to have a portion of it removed, but his unable to have the surgery till January and they believe his body won’t survive the surgery as it going to be pretty messy … So that night we decided to go to his Brothers house and get a bit lit with them to try and cry out all our feelings out with his siblings.

While the future is looking scary I’ve continued to stay positive through it all for the both of us, we’ve still continued to plan our future together like nothing has happened and we’ve actually got 2 holidays to look forward to before he goes for his surgery. I have told him I will be with him through it all hand and in hand (he was worried I’d leave and even told me he wanted to break up with me to save me the pain, but then apologized for even suggesting the idea). we’ve been through so much together in such a short amount of time and I believe that has made us stronger in many different ways, we’ve already been planning things such house/wedding/kids to give us something to look forward to (honestly we spoke about this stuff 2 weeks into the relationship haha) I know this will be something we will look back on as just something else we’ve conquered together.

I know the cliche is things get better, but honestly even with all the ups and downs I’ve had recently they really do. Stay positive Fam and Thanks for reading my update <3

TLDR: Had a huge falling out, came out and then moved out. I found the love of my life, he finds out that he has cancer and things are still looking bright, just got to stay positive.
Wow, that was a wild ride.

I'm glad you found someone special for you. I hope he gets better and you have a long life together.
 

NHarmonic.

The Fallen
Oct 27, 2017
5,336
Back with another update to my situation, lots has happened in the last 5 months! (sorry for long ass post)
I'll start with May, my first relationship if you could even call it that died as soon as it became a thing (lasted 1-2 weeks), they went from being my closet friend to becoming a toxic jealous psychopath. They pretty much wanted me to stay in the closet and pretend to date girls to keep up appearances, so I had decided to end it pretty quickly before any of us got hurt... but it was already to late He had already threatened to end their life as me cutting them out of my life was me trying to isolate them as all the friends they had were actually my friends who only put up with his shit because of me.

June was a another hectic Month I decided to come out to my brother and Mother shit went down how I expect they would, they pretty much said I was confused and needed to get help there was no hints of me... but as the month progressed things seemed to have gotten easier, I had also told all my closets friends and work mates, they were all super supportive about it.

Late June I decided to make a tinder account and see who were the available bachelors in my area and was pretty much instantly matched with a guy, let’s call him Francis. After talking for about a week we went on a date, I was pretty nervous seeing as it was my first proper date of any kind ever and I had no idea what to expect, but the dude was really chill and down to earth. The date was pretty successful as he invited me to movies and dinner, which we did the following day, his company was amazing! We had our 3rd date the very next day at his place were he cooked me dinner and sang me songs on his guitar which legitimately melted my heart, he got me good with “Can’t help falling in love” by Elvis, he then introduced me to his Dad before he left and we proceeded to have dinner, then we kicked back in his room for him to sing some more and watch movies, instead we just ended up cuddling for hours, which was something I never had a chance to experience before, something so simple just felt so right.

Late July/early August where things were looking good, spending more and more time with Francis and after 3 weeks since our first date he had asked if I’d like to be his Boyfriend (of course I said yes), however this was when things started to get pretty hectic....

After celebrating the night before my birthday with him and having the best night/morning I’ve ever had! things started to take a turn for the worse as my Dad the only person In my immediate family that I wasn't out too at the time was getting suspicious, so I had decided that night I come out to him… It went as you’d expect from someone with a strong military/catholic background, he pretty much disowned me on the spot and told me how disgusting I was, the usually sort of jazz. The very next morning I decided to pack my things and move out of home, so I spent the next week with my partner on a little holiday retreat trying to clear my head space, which was definitely what I needed at the time.

It had been 2 weeks since coming out to my Dad and I had my Mum call me asking me to come home to have a chat with Dad to try and get things back together. I decided to man up and just sort it out and to my surprise my Dad has cool down a lot and asked me to explain to him why I was the way I was and how long I knew, after a long D&M he gave me a big hug and told me I was always welcome in his house even if he doesn’t agree with my lifestyle.

At this point in time thing started to look up again, Family was starting to come around, Francis was there to support me through this hard time and constantly reassuring me that he was in this relationship for life, but things never stay peaches and cream... Francis flew back to work as he does Fly in Fly to a local mine site in Western Australia and messages me saying he was having really back stomach cramps, but was sure if it was just something had eaten on the flight, but things progressively got worse and he had to be flown off the sight to a regional hospital to have emergency surgery as it was his appendix that had burst.

The surgery had initially gone well, but his blood pressure started to drop and he was getting pale so the head nurse had called us and advised it’s looking really messy and they’re not sure what was going on, at this point I had decided there was no way I could be away from him during this time so I had discussed with his mum that I’d be flying up to go see him. During the longest 2 hour flight on my life, I had finally arrived and went straight to see him and was greeted by his lovely smile and his tears from the shock of me being there, I ended up spending the next 6 nights while he recovered from the 2 surgeries.

Fast forward to the following week, Francis started getting a bit of discharge from one of his wounds, so he immediately went into emergency and was told he had to have another surgery to clear the sight of infection and at this point we finally got the biopsy results from the removal of his appendix and it was not what we were expecting, it seems there was a cancerous tumor which caused his appendix to flare up, but the doctors were sure they had completely removed it, but because his situation was so unusual they had to get a tribunal of specialists to review his case.

A couple of weeks later (September) we got the results of this review and have now found out it may have spread to the top of his colon and he will need surgery to have a portion of it removed, but his unable to have the surgery till January and they believe his body won’t survive the surgery as it going to be pretty messy … So that night we decided to go to his Brothers house and get a bit lit with them to try and cry out all our feelings out with his siblings.

While the future is looking scary I’ve continued to stay positive through it all for the both of us, we’ve still continued to plan our future together like nothing has happened and we’ve actually got 2 holidays to look forward to before he goes for his surgery. I have told him I will be with him through it all hand and in hand (he was worried I’d leave and even told me he wanted to break up with me to save me the pain, but then apologized for even suggesting the idea). we’ve been through so much together in such a short amount of time and I believe that has made us stronger in many different ways, we’ve already been planning things such house/wedding/kids to give us something to look forward to (honestly we spoke about this stuff 2 weeks into the relationship haha) I know this will be something we will look back on as just something else we’ve conquered together.

I know the cliche is things get better, but honestly even with all the ups and downs I’ve had recently they really do. Stay positive Fam and Thanks for reading my update <3

TLDR: Had a huge falling out, came out and then moved out. I found the love of my life, he finds out that he has cancer and things are still looking bright, just got to stay positive.
Man that’s a lot to take in just for a couple of months... sincerely wish you the best of luck and hope your boyfriend can recover soon!
 

Inukage

Member
Oct 25, 2017
154
Down Under
Wow, that was a wild ride.

I'm glad you found someone special for you. I hope he gets better and you have a long life together.
Thanks Nigthwizard , I'm sure everything will be fine <3


Man that’s a lot to take in just for a couple of months... sincerely wish you the best of luck and hope your boyfriend can recover soon!
Appreciate that NHarmonic., its been a long 5 months, but even with all the bad I wouldn't have changed it!
 

pixelation

Member
Oct 26, 2017
2,599
Ugly dudes should have according standards for romantic interests (talking about me specifically). I always fall for the hot and fit dudes... and straight ones (to my knowledge) to boot.