Yes, been thumping on max volume all weekend :D As for BT-speakers, I've heard good things about the Audio Pro lineup.
Also lol:
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Yes, been thumping on max volume all weekend :D As for BT-speakers, I've heard good things about the Audio Pro lineup.
Also lol:
Feeling a little down lately... I'm worried about someone I love dearly who is getting surgery soon-ish, work has some ups and downs, I'm slowly recuperating after months of getting sick, and overall I'm a little anxious about the future. Things will sort themselves out eventually, but right now I'm just exhausted. There are some days you just want to lie down and listen to relaxing/beautiful music (discovered lara6683 and her covers recently... so soothing).
I never ended up going, my husband ended up sick at the last minute so I stayed home. The rest of my family went though, my mom ended up buying a small set of leatherworking tools in good shape for $3 that would have cost her something like $60 brand new. So that ended up alright at least.
I'm sorry to hear that. I've been going through some things lately myself and have been doing a lot of that too. I hope you feel better soon, and I hope their surgery goes well.
I love those!Friend gave me another pair of her old shoes that I really liked the look of 👀👢
Thanks! Unfortunately, I haven't heard back from the person, and they haven't been on Grindr for a few days now, it seems, so we didn't connect.
And also the clack. Oh my God the CLACK
Too bad they're a slight bit harder to walk in than my other boots or shoes but
I would probably die in heels but the clack is the best part!
That sucks, hope all goes well. If you're looking for other relaxing/beautiful OST's I can recommend the Star Onions' renditions of different FFXI songs. Always have it on whenever I wanna zone out :)
Friend gave me another pair of her old shoes that I really liked the look of 👀👢
Noice! Do you rock that skateboard with them heels too? :P
NNo that's roommatees
I can barely ride a skateboard over a crack without landing on my ass, not even as much as heels XD
I suggest seeking out your local LGBTQA+ community center. The center I go to has a few trans support groups that meet weekly. I hope your friend's situation improves.
This Grindr/Scruff app dating stuff is rough. I hate being ghosted on after a morning of intimacy weeks ago. That and all the non-responses. It just makes me feel like I'm ugly because I don't get much activity with messages and the like. I'm okay, though. Just in a negative head space!
I'm not one who thinks I'm super attractive by any means but once I was able to let go of the "they're not responding because I'm ugly" thing I felt so much better. Hopefully you'll get there too!
On most days I am. It's just the emotional part of my brain talking right now. Thanks!
I literally have a room full of Power Rangers so I feel this.
Thank you very much for your kind words :-) I'm feeling a little better today. I'm worried sick about my friend, but there is nothing I can do about it expect being there for him. Everything should be fine, but he is someone very important to me, so the emotional part of my mind goes overdrive (can't really say that to him though, he already has enough on his plate as is).
Thank you DrainedSpirit for the recommendation. I happen to love FFXI's OST (I think the moment I was genuinely captivated was when I reached Gustaberg as a level 10 character doing its pilgrimage from San d'Oria to Bastok - damn that music is good, and it really felt like a reward to reach that area and to be greeted by that splendid piece), and I didn't know about this lovely revisited soundtrack by the Star Onions.
I'm tryna find a summer boy, and it's so hard in this small town. Someone please just give me the D and all their affection without expecting commitment! I had it good with this one guy I was seeing over the winter, but he caught feelings and went psycho on me. :(
You can't see me right now, but I'm in my room proudly looking at all my video game plushies and figures. :)
Yeah I'm actually starting to really dislike the way people act on there. I swear it's like talking to bots sometimes. They don't communicate like real people. I've lost track of the number of times someone who dropped off while chatting messages me again later like I'm a new person.
And this expectation that I will send stats, pics of every detail before people want to meet also winds me up.
I mean just look at this:
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Yeah I'm actually starting to really dislike the way people act on there. I swear it's like talking to bots sometimes. They don't communicate like real people. I've lost track of the number of times someone who dropped off while chatting messages me again later like I'm a new person.
And this expectation that I will send stats, pics of every detail before people want to meet also winds me up.
I mean just look at this:
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There's a guy in my area who is creepy af so I blocked him. every few days or so he deletes his account and then messages me or taps me and i block him. Over and over and over and over. There's no way that I can find to report him for harassment but he's clearly getting the same treatment from other people but knows that making a new account will let him see everyone again.
I got gently put down as "Sorry. You're not my type," on Grindr. I did not know people could be so pleasant. lol I wished him a good weekend and moved on. Currently talking to this jock tribe guy on Grindr. We'll see if anything happens. I accidentally deleted the app last week, and lost contact with someone else I was in a deep conversation with, which sucked. :(
As an aside, no wonder I haven't gotten a PM invite to the Discord, Sai hasn't been on in about a week. Hope Sai's doing well!
As an aside, no wonder I haven't gotten a PM invite to the Discord, Sai hasn't been on in about a week. Hope Sai's doing well!
Sai got temp banned as part of the Avengers: Endgame forum game IIRC.
I can't deal with "youre not my type" I always press further after that and its something stupid like race or height.
Hey everyone. I'm new to this thread, I'm a pansexual-guy (previously questioning). I'm from the midlands, UK and extremely recently single. Realised I don't actually have many LGBT friends or people to talk to so thought I'd join in here.
Not sure if that's the proper way to enter this thread, but ehh, I tried!
Hope you're all good!
Not sure if that's the proper way to enter this thread, but ehh, I tried!
Hope you're all good!
He said he was looking for someone "masculine" in his profile, so I guess I wasn't masculine enough with my "I like to cuddle" line in my bio. ha At least that's my assumption. Too many other good looking guys to message than worry about someone like that. :)
Welcome, welcome! Sure, there was no flashy entrance or anything with fireworks and stuff, but that was a proper way to enter the thread to me!
Thank you kindly! I feel like I may have missed a trick by not using a few sparklers at least, but I'm here, so alls good!
Hope it's not too long of a temp ban. I need some real-time discussion. lol :)
They get unbanned after the premiere, which is next Friday, I think?
For the record I'd like a discord invite too, please :)
Welcome! Sparklers are usually the accepted way of joining but I think you've done just fine.
Think so? I almost took part but backed out. Been fun following the thread though heh
Discord wouldn't be too bad either! I'll try bring Sparklers there
I just logged out to check for you and it's working, so you're good!
Welcome!
How on Earth did I just wake up more tired than when I went to sleep? That shouldn't be possible.
After dealing with an eating disorder in high school, and having body image and self-confidence issues ever since, I've been trying to keep a positive outlook and doing things to feel better about myself. I'm putting myself out there more, and I'm also taking more pictures of myself (something that I really loathed doing), embracing who I am, faults and all. There's roadblocks, like wondering why people don't respond to messages I send on Grindr/Scruff (like 1 out of 20, maybe, if even that ha), and then falling into a negative downward spiral of thoughts from there, but I'm trying my best.
I recently came out as bi, and my mom's having problems being comfortable of the idea of me with other guys in a relationship setting. Haven't told my dad yet because I just reconnected with him after a long time apart. But, I'm in a good place overall.
Also, I forget, is this the thread where we sometimes share Instagrams to follow our fellow LGBTQ ERA friends, or am I thinking of a different off-topic ERA group? My old age of 33 is making me forgetful. :P
I recently came out as bi, and my mom's having problems being comfortable of the idea of me with other guys in a relationship setting. Haven't told my dad yet because I just reconnected with him after a long time apart. But, I'm in a good place overall.
Also, I forget, is this the thread where we sometimes share Instagrams to follow our fellow LGBTQ ERA friends, or am I thinking of a different off-topic ERA group? My old age of 33 is making me forgetful. :P
I'm so conflicted... I haven't had anything serious in a very long time, over a decade, not cause i didn't want to, but life got in a way. My mom had cancer, i took care of her for 6 years, and now 2 years after her death (which destroyed me emotionally for a long time, and still kinda is) i'm kinda ready to enjoy my life again. So i had sex here and there (sometimes really a lot), and there was this one guy who was really into me, and we met like 2-3 times a month, had fun, he even cooked, and i slept over. At first i didn't like sleeping over, but then i kinda got into it and enjoyed it.
But here is a catch. First, we never talked about relationship, cause i met him on Grindr, so i didn't think about it in that way. I just told him, i don't want to know what he is doing when i'm not around, i mean it's his life, he should enjoy it, but just don't tell me about other guys. Then one night he just wrote me, that he had sex with a guy, and he is telling me cause he likes me, and respects me. I was so confused why he did this, why he hurt me on purpose, and i had to think about him having sex with other guys all the time from that day, cause he planted a seed in my head, that was growing and growing. We talked about it, and i'm pretty straight forward person, i don't hide my emotions/feelings, and he admitted that he wanted to test how i feel about him... i mean, why? He is almost 40, why playing such childish games? But okay, maybe he got hurt a lot in the past, and this is his way of dealing with his emotions, or something else.
Second problem is, he wants an open relationship, and i don't know if i'm into something like that. Or maybe i would be, if everything progressed naturally, you know what i mean? If we dated for few months, had fun like crazy kids, and then wanted to open it more or whatever, this kinda of naturally progression. I mean, i haven't had one before, so i can't really say if it's for me or not, but demanding from the beginning this in that, i feel like he put me in a corner, where i don't have any room to move around, no room to feel comfortable.
I kinda know that he is not good for me, and that he is still playing games, but i kinda like him, and it saddens me, that we couldn't be so much more... But, i have learned through him, that i'm ready to fall in love again, to have fun, to relax, and that's a good thing.
Yeah, you will get used to it that some people don't respond. I just think, we can't be to everyones taste, i also don't like everyone (that's not possible), so if someone does not respond, i just shrug and move on. Don't think to much about it, cause it's pointless, especially on Grindr ;).
Congrats on coming out! You feel better now?
Sharing insta-accounts here is actually kinda nice idea!
Happens to me all the time, when i sleep to much XD
But here is a catch. First, we never talked about relationship, cause i met him on Grindr, so i didn't think about it in that way. I just told him, i don't want to know what he is doing when i'm not around, i mean it's his life, he should enjoy it, but just don't tell me about other guys. Then one night he just wrote me, that he had sex with a guy, and he is telling me cause he likes me, and respects me. I was so confused why he did this, why he hurt me on purpose, and i had to think about him having sex with other guys all the time from that day, cause he planted a seed in my head, that was growing and growing. We talked about it, and i'm pretty straight forward person, i don't hide my emotions/feelings, and he admitted that he wanted to test how i feel about him... i mean, why? He is almost 40, why playing such childish games? But okay, maybe he got hurt a lot in the past, and this is his way of dealing with his emotions, or something else.
Second problem is, he wants an open relationship, and i don't know if i'm into something like that. Or maybe i would be, if everything progressed naturally, you know what i mean? If we dated for few months, had fun like crazy kids, and then wanted to open it more or whatever, this kinda of naturally progression. I mean, i haven't had one before, so i can't really say if it's for me or not, but demanding from the beginning this in that, i feel like he put me in a corner, where i don't have any room to move around, no room to feel comfortable.
I kinda know that he is not good for me, and that he is still playing games, but i kinda like him, and it saddens me, that we couldn't be so much more... But, i have learned through him, that i'm ready to fall in love again, to have fun, to relax, and that's a good thing.
Yeah, you will get used to it that some people don't respond. I just think, we can't be to everyones taste, i also don't like everyone (that's not possible), so if someone does not respond, i just shrug and move on. Don't think to much about it, cause it's pointless, especially on Grindr ;).
Congrats on coming out! You feel better now?
Sharing insta-accounts here is actually kinda nice idea!
Happens to me all the time, when i sleep to much XD
Phil32 I've been following you on Insta for a while now, and based on the brief story you just posted, I can tell you've come quite a way already! I can see those sparks of genuine happiness and confidence, not only in your appearance, but also in your own self/personality through the captions and hashtags you use. It's a journey, but you'll learn a lot about yourself along the way.
It's important to remember your own self-worth, and not let the actions of others interfere with this journey that you're on. Especially in this digital age where people can be as cold and callous as they want online while remaining [mostly] anonymous and not facing any real consequences. Also, in the dating world, there is a good chance a lot of people won't be interested in you. You can't be everyone's type, just like not everyone is yours. 1 out of 10 really isn't that bad of a ratio, lol.
Also, for what it's worth, I think you're cute :)
It's important to remember your own self-worth, and not let the actions of others interfere with this journey that you're on. Especially in this digital age where people can be as cold and callous as they want online while remaining [mostly] anonymous and not facing any real consequences. Also, in the dating world, there is a good chance a lot of people won't be interested in you. You can't be everyone's type, just like not everyone is yours. 1 out of 10 really isn't that bad of a ratio, lol.
Also, for what it's worth, I think you're cute :)
Yeah, I think I'd avoid the guy, or at least avoid getting into a relationship with him, if I were you. Aside from the head games he's apparently playing, open relationships require a lot of honestly and trust from both parties and they typically require more than one conversation for someone who's never been in one to get used to. If you really want to try it and he's serious about being with you, he'll give you some time to figure out how you feel about the arrangement and not pressure you.
I'm at a low point emotionally lately. Not the worst I've been, that would be my suicide attempt last year, but I just feel like no one finds me sexually attractive anymore and I wonder if I should just be celibate for the rest of my life. Shit sucks. Doesn't help that I moved to a new town when I'm used to city life and know no one here outside of family and my work schedule sucks. Graveyard shift and Tuesdays and Wednesdays off.
Tunichtgut I do feel better. It's just hard, as I think that even in the LGBTQ community, there's a section of people who think that being bi isn't a valid thing. I've been passed by folks who have said some really ignorant things about bisexuals, like for instance, someone on OKCupid said that I wouldn't be faithful to him because I'd need "the other gender, too". >_>
Tanooki Aw, you're sweet! What was your Insta account again?
Thanks to both of you for your positive responses and support!
As an aside, I'm just going to be bold and brave and put my Instagram here since I remembered we have shared our accounts here before:
https://www.instagram.com/philstortzum/
Would love to connect with other fabulous ERA folks!
Tanooki Aw, you're sweet! What was your Insta account again?
Thanks to both of you for your positive responses and support!
As an aside, I'm just going to be bold and brave and put my Instagram here since I remembered we have shared our accounts here before:
https://www.instagram.com/philstortzum/
Would love to connect with other fabulous ERA folks!
I know I'm double posting, but I wanted to dedicate a response to this separately. I definitely know all about the feeling of thinking that no one found me sexually attractive. I mean, I'm 33 and I've honestly never had an actual romantic relationship, and this year was my first real sexual experience. It made me fill myself with negative thoughts which spiraled out of control. I thought things like, "If no one found me attractive when I was young"--which by the way was a falsehood and just my negative, emotional mind speaking to me and not my logical part of mind--"then no one will ever find me attractive now that I'm older." We can't give in to our negative, emotional mind! We have to fight back against it! I can bet there's a big part of you that knows you're still sexually attractive and can find someone to make you happy, but currently the negative part of your mind is trying to beat that part down.
I might have just rambled there, but I hope I helped some, regardless!
No worries--you're probably too busy being awesome to post to your Instagram profile. :)
Grindr is awful with this, I was being harassed for a while, and he also started to use my picture, I kept reporting and banning him but he kept popping up for weeks. I wonder if Grindr actually managed to get rid of him, or he just got bored.
Social media and hook-up sites/apps are too much of a headache for me. The cons seem to outweight the pros 9 times out of 10 (not to mention how these things are devastating for one's self image).
Sadly, for some, finding other people to meet can be quite the ordeal, and thus you have no choice but to use these. "Damn if you do, damn if you don't".
Sadly, for some, finding other people to meet can be quite the ordeal, and thus you have no choice but to use these. "Damn if you do, damn if you don't".
Yeah, the whole situation is awkward, and i also feel, like it's the best for me, not to start anything serious with him. Like i said, i don't know if open relationship is for me or not, but being said from the beginning only this or nothing is weird. Thank you for your input :).
Phil32
How old was this guy who said that to you? I mean, when i was younger i also had that thought, but rather cause i was insecure that i wouldn't be enough, and that the other guy would also need a woman from time to time, which is stupid.
It's just hard to meet people with my work schedule and I feel like I just work and sleep at this point. I guess I just need to learn to be happy with what I got. I know from personal experience that it could be worse. Thanks for the response.
Sorry guys I havent been in this thread and I saw people wanted discord invites so I sent them out. I'm one of the other mods on the Discord so if anyone needs any invite just tell me.
ALSO as an update I'm single atm and when I finally found someone who I super clicked with turns out they are straight. Just my luck who will like my nerdy ass ;_;.
ALSO as an update I'm single atm and when I finally found someone who I super clicked with turns out they are straight. Just my luck who will like my nerdy ass ;_;.
Tunichtgut I believe around 30. This was a little bit ago--over a year, IIRC, so my memory is a little fuzzy.
Interesting article, and I think it's true. Especially when you're very picky....
But nowadays I only use Grindr for networking.