saaaame. they keep not sending me alerts whenever someone posts here
The European Gay Porn Awards was advertised on Meetup?
Maybe I should join.
I'm going to the pride event in my home county with some friends. They couldn't do it last year so I'm super hyped.Pride is around the corner, are you guys gonna visit some pride festivals? I'm gonna be in Cologne and Berlin this year, and maybe in Amsterdam, can't wait :D
I'm doing a bit of processing for a queer archive, and I came across a note from the 90s by someone who was REALLY angry that someone would use the word "Queer" to describe... well, the queer community (there was a course on Queer film being advertised). It's interesting because I remember when I first used the term "Queer studies" outside of academia back in the 2000s and someone told me that I was being offensive and I was just confused because I didn't know what I was saying wrong.
Anyway that just reminded me of how that word was re-claimed in the last 20-30 years and became normalized in less than a generation, perhaps much to the chagrin to people who would probably be in their 60s or older now.
Yeah, it's a strange quirk that I forgot about until I saw that note. The form had like three blank lines for feedback and this person went on for a page about how people shouldn't use it.Yeah, it is kinda funny to look at stuff like that in hindsight but I know quite a few older members of the LGBT community who aren't nearly as comfortable with the word as people my age are. It's understandable. I myself wasn't comfortable using it until about 3 or 4 years ago.
It also makes me think about how the word "fag" will be perceived in a few more decades. Myself and several of my queer friends jokingly use it all the time but again, I can name just as many people who don't think the word should be used under any circumstances. It's more of a mixed bag than with "queer", I think.
I'm in love with the lighting in my apartment. Smart LED strips ftw
I'm not a member of an LGBTQ+ community, but I hope it's OK that I post here. I caught an interview on NPR on the way home and wanted to share.
Ty Herndon re-released his iconic country song "What Mattered Most" but this time he sang it with the original lyrics that he couldn't include on the 1995 release.
Happy Pride!
Hey Trans-Era, looking for some feedback regarding a complex issue. The campus I work at has a large trans population, and this is coming up more frequently in the students I counsel.
How does the community feel about cis straight men who are interested in dating trans men (and, though it seems to be more of a rarity, cis straight women who are interested in dating trans women)?
As in, these men and women will only date people of the opposite birth gender, including those who have transitioned, but will not date people who are of the same birth gender as themselves.
Thanks for the feedback!It's kind of a tricky subject to tackle in that it really depends on their reasoning for dating someone based on birth gender. Typically, this is how I look at situations like this from my own point of view as a transwoman. Usually, when a straight cis man sits down and says that he is only interested in ciswomen and transmen while identifying as straight it does give off a vibe that they aren't taking the gender identity of the transmen seriously and that they still see them as women in some way.
It's entirely possible that they might not be completely straight, but they aren't comfortable moving past that label or talking about feelings beyond that. Or that they have a preference for certain genitals, or any other number of reasons. People are free to identify as they like, and date who they like, but it does make me wonder how they really feel about their partner's identity when it's that specific. If they do see them as men and everyone involved is happy, then it's honestly fine.
Welcome, but sorry about the circumstances.Guess it's time
So I came out this year, first to a guy I met last year that had me lovestruck, he was actually the first guy (and only so far) that ever interested me. My first kiss with a guy was with him, and even though we had our up and downs throughout the year, we were working towards something nice.
- Your gender? Your sexual identity? Cis male
- Your sexual orientation? Bi
- Where Are You From? Uruguay
- Where Do You Live? Uruguay
- How Old Are you? 32
- Favorite Type of Music? Rock, Metal, Punk, Indie, and many others
- Profession or Career interest? Software Engineer
- Favorite video game(s)? I haven't been gaming much lately so I have a pretty insane backlog, but anyway: LucasArts point and click stuff, Metroid series, RE4, Mario games, Smash, and a bunch more
- What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? Watching movies/shows, listening to music, reading, hanging with friends, doing exercises, and some other stuff
Or so I thought, yesterday he broke my heart in a pretty awful way.
And as mad, angry, frustrated, disappointed and everything else that I am right now because it fucking hurts like a bitch, I don't hate him... I'm still in love with him, and that's probably what hurts the most.
Happy pride everyone.
That's not so unusual. Motor City Pride has a $5 entry fee for anyone over 12. No idea how much LA's is, though.
Apparently I'm (so far) celebrating Pride by getting really mad at timely/relevant injustices in the news.
Thanks for the feedback!
I felt similarly, and this leads me to something I've been grappling with as a result: What if they simply see the person as a trans man? A separate category altogether.
Some of the trans students I counsel are frustrated by straight-identifying partners who view them this way, but I find it hard to view their partners as close-minded or bigoted because they aren't saying "I still view you as a woman," but instead "I view you as a trans man, which is different from a woman, but also not quite the same for me as a man."
It's tricky, especially as the students' belief that "people's chosen gender identity is paramount" and their partners' belief that "gender is nebulous and should never be fixated on" are both progressive viewpoints that are totally at odds with each other.
Apparently I'm (so far) celebrating Pride by getting really mad at timely/relevant injustices in the news.
The Crowder harassment stuff (specifically YouTube's response) would've pissed me off and had me reconsidering some subscriptions that I had, but the fact that Maza got the response he did from a rainbow YouTube logo actually got me to unsubscribe from a bunch of Google services and reconsider my stance on certain corporations.And they all seem to happen more frequently during the month :(
The general impression I get is that they see gender as nonbinary.Personally speaking, I would not be a fan of hearing that someone does not see me as a woman, but as something else entirely. I would honestly be pretty hurt to hear that from someone close to me, and I would hope that we could talk things through to help them understand that I am a woman, albeit one who has had a different experience than ciswomen. Do you know why they see trans people as not quite men or women?
Yep. It's almost like emboldened bigots can't help themselves, how odd lol :(And they all seem to happen more frequently during the month :(
The Crowder harassment stuff (specifically YouTube's response) would've pissed me off and had me reconsidering some subscriptions that I had, but the fact that Maza got the response he did from a rainbow YouTube logo actually got me to unsubscribe from a bunch of Google services and reconsider my stance on certain corporations.
So I guess Pride is awakening my inner Marxist. That's probably a good thing?
The general impression I get is that they see gender as nonbinary.
I had one boyfriend articulate his feelings quite reasonably, saying to his trans male partner: "Before you started identifying as a man, you would always talk about how malleable and complex gender is, and I agreed with you. Now that you're a man, you suddenly act like you're super-invested in the gender binary, to the point where you're desperate to erase anything about you that you think is feminine." I ended up writing this verbatim in my notes, it's quite the conundrum.
Having advised this particular trans male student for years, I also told him that I felt his fixation on the way others perceived his gender was destructive. I still feel that way, and it's a common source of anguish within this population.
Well, we are heading to Mýkonos for a big gay party! Time to get a new speedo.
Yeah, it's hard to just excise YouTube from my media diet because it basically is the medium of hosted video. Gmail's been my primary address for a lot of stuff, professional and otherwise so I can't just gut it, though I like the idea of not giving them my YT metrics. It is encouraging me to use something other than Chrome, though. Firefox is still free and now that I've freed myself from Chrome Password Manager I can probably jump ship just about anywhere.Same! I already use mostly duckduckgo as my search engine, so now I guess it's goodbye gmail, hello protonmail? It's kind of impossible to cease using youtube entirely, but I'm thinking of ceasing using my youtube account & get on a vpn so they can't watch my engagement as easily, and maybe keep track of things via some unified bookmark system? Idk maybe it's fortunate to learn a more absolute lesson that these tech companies are not our friends.
And yeah time to actually read Marx! Normally I have a bit of difficulty with the firmness of more materialist philosophy. I'm normally the kind of kook that favors the fuzzy impressionist outlines of Hegel, or other kinds of continental conceptual dialectical stuff with no apparent concern for being penetrable or situated within any kind of practical action (Cuck Philosophy is probably my favorite leftist youtuber, and I like his videos on Derrida the most, as someone who hasn't read him yet, lol). So if our current conditions can get me interested in trying to learn about more concretely objective things like the global economy, foreign policy, workers unions, governmental structure, etc, then we're probably in dire trouble lol :p
Oh man, I'm so jealous. I need to go to Mykonos soon. I really need a big gay holiday. I want to do Atlantis next year I think.
Is Atlantis a hotel or Party in Mykonos?. We are going to XLsior. I need a base tan for my vampire skin ASAP