And this is coming from someone that fell really, *really* hard for a guy last year who ended up tearing my heart into pieces and still not 100% over it
Hope it gets better. Cheering for you! ୧(﹒︠ᴗ﹒︡)୨
And this is coming from someone that fell really, *really* hard for a guy last year who ended up tearing my heart into pieces and still not 100% over it
Talked with my wife last night about whether her sister--who is constantly over at our place--was still a diet homophobe (or more accurate non-cisheterophobe), because I'm not keen on being in the closet in my own damned home. Turns out her sister was self-aware enough of her problematic views that for a while she was reading nothing but gay romance novels to acclimatize herself.
My wife is pretty confident she's successfully turned things around. Being successful in reversing course on her homophobia is admirable, but I have no idea where she stands on transness/non-binary. She's a JK Rowling nut, so I find it hard not to suspect her of being a TERF, but she also doesn't use Twitter or a lot of social media, so it's entirely possible if not likely she had no idea what sort of garbage opinions noted garbage person Rowling has.
Even if she still hasn't advanced quite that far, the fact she was open-minded enough to confront and change her views on a related subject scores points with me and makes me feel a little bit more at ease that she'll come around when I do start being more open about it.
Yeah, the romance novel angle is... Not how I would have gone about it, but if it works, it works. Good on her.I think it's good that she's made an effort to educate herself and change, but I'm not ENTIRELY sure gay romance novels are the answer lol. It's better than nothing, though.
Regarding the Rowling thing, I don't think her being a huge fan necessarily means she's transphobic. It's not as if the Harry Potter books have anti-trans rhetoric laced through them (at least, none that I've noticed). Plus, if she doesn't use social media, it's highly unlikely she even knows about Rowling's views.
What is your response when you tell someone that they're not your type and they then want to go out to drink "as friends"?
Welcome to the thread!!Hi hi. Not sure why I never posted in here.
Just here to say hi.
- Your gender? Your sexual identity? (Preferred pronouns?) Male - He/Him
- Your sexual orientation? Gay
- Where Are You From? Born in MD lived in TX for a long time.
- Where Do You Live? OC Cali
- How Old Are you? 36
- Favorite Type of Music? Punk/Ska
- Profession or Career interest? Work in gaming. Marketing.
- Favorite video game(s)? Warcraft II, Street Fighter, Heroes of the Storm, FF IV.
- What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? Watching hockey, traveling, working out, cars
Also find it funny that I've adjusted my fitness and health drastically over the last few months. Self confidence is wayyyy up and people pinging me on various apps is wayyyyy up. Feels reassuring but also makes me hate how this world craves that
Can't promise to post much but thought I'd actually think about some of these
didn't really allow myself to consider that I might not be just straight til relatively later and since then haven't been in many life positions to explore it, but still would like to connect with some sort of community, so hi
- Your gender? Your sexual identity? (Preferred pronouns?)
- M to nonbinary, he/him or they, either way
- Your sexual orientation?
- bi, tending towards women
- Where Are You From?
- OC
- Where Do You Live?
- bay area
- How Old Are you?
- late 20's
- Favorite Type of Music?
- techno or dance music in general, have heavy edm experience
- Profession or Career interest?
- coding
- Favorite video game(s)?
- Majora's Mask or Halo 3
- What are your hobbies (other than gaming)?
- I dj and produce electronic music, bread baking, lots of reading, crosswords
What is your response when you tell someone that they're not your type and they then want to go out to drink "as friends"?
Why not? I'm not attracted to most of my friends, doesn't mean they are uninteresting to talk to.This gets on my nerves. Would they sincerely want to be friends if they weren't attracted to you?
I read it that way at first too, but I'm sure he means that the person probably doesn't have genuine interest in being a friend.Why not? I'm not attracted to most of my friends, doesn't mean they are uninteresting to talk to.
Why not? I'm not attracted to most of my friends, doesn't mean they are uninteresting to talk to.
That is not what I meant. Friendship can happen regardless of how attractive the person is, obviously.
I was trying to say that when a total stranger that you never met in person and only talked to you in a dating app want to be friends with you is because they have second intentions. They wouldn't ask to be friends with random people in the app, they only want that because they are attracted to the person. Do you think this person would open a chat with someone they found unnatractive and ask them to grab coffee and be friends?
Friendship happens naturally, I find it weird when people I haven't met and haven't talked much to ask to be friends.
where are those album stems 👀
Does anyone here live in Rome, Paris, Málaga or London??
I'm visiting some places :)
Ok, small story time:
So, I noticed this guy at work and I was instantly interested. A school yard crush, if you would. We dont technically work together but in the same building. I dont really ever even see him. I got his name and then found his facebook and instagram. I snooped around those and didnt find anything that pointed to straight/gay anything. So I dm'd him on instagram. I kept it pretty friendly. And never got any response. It doesn't even say "seen" or "read" or anything. His page doesnt really seem active at all. Maybe it hasnt been opened, idk.
But whatever, im over it. So over it that I then found his twitter and a youtube. I know that may seem stalker'ish. But, thats how social media is. Now judging by the twitter and youtube this dude is straight, of course. And not just straight but like "bro" material with hints of homophobia. :(
So now I am wondering, did he see my dm and just kept on? Or is my dm still there waiting to be opened by this dude?
lol fml. I just had to vent here a little.
Thanks, much appreciated :D
Instagram has a "Seen" text after the last message if it has been read but not responded.Ok, small story time:
So, I noticed this guy at work and I was instantly interested. A school yard crush, if you would. We dont technically work together but in the same building. I dont really ever even see him. I got his name and then found his facebook and instagram. I snooped around those and didnt find anything that pointed to straight/gay anything. So I dm'd him on instagram. I kept it pretty friendly. And never got any response. It doesn't even say "seen" or "read" or anything. His page doesnt really seem active at all. Maybe it hasnt been opened, idk.
But whatever, im over it. So over it that I then found his twitter and a youtube. I know that may seem stalker'ish. But, thats how social media is. Now judging by the twitter and youtube this dude is straight, of course. And not just straight but like "bro" material with hints of homophobia. :(
So now I am wondering, did he see my dm and just kept on? Or is my dm still there waiting to be opened by this dude?
lol fml. I just had to vent here a little.
Just talk to him in person with a random excuse, and mention you had DMd him about that.
I wouldn't bother though, straight people have to realize they live in a world where queer people exist and can be attracted to them just like they are attracted to the opposite sex.
Thanks, much appreciated :D
Instagram has a "Seen" text after the last message if it has been read but not responded.
If it isn't there then he hasn't even opened the DMs.
If you're going to talk to him in person, I wouldn't mention the DM. Lol
It is weird how so many gays in my life are obsessed with Halloween and horror movies in general. I have seen so many bad horror movies recently. The Turning was so bad.
I keep having co-workers getting obsessed with me. I'm very open about only liking girls and also that I don't date co-workers but it doesn't stop the guys from hitting on me.
One of the went particularly hard and even drastically changed his appearance overnight because of an offhand comment I made about not liking beards.
The guy I'm dealing with now said he's okay just being friends but keeps asking me to dinner anyways and I cam barely talk around him because he'll turn anything I say into a comment about how much he'd like us to be together.
There's not really such a thing as HR where I work and I can't quit because I'm an apprentice (not his).
Any advice?
The one who was changing their appearance actually got fired for unrelated things, and then this guy started hitting on me. Another guy let it go immediately which was nice.You can't be fun or engaging around then anymore. You're going to have to turn blunt, and any passing comment from them has to first be ignored, then acknowledged as inappropriate.
It seems like they have a little competition going on, TBH, whether it's explicit and out in the open or private.
Hello people.
Out of curiosity, what are you doing tomorrow with your partners? Did you plan something?
Also, single people can say what they're going to do tomorrow, it's Friday so some of you may go to a bar or something 🤷
Single here. I'm going to be playing a VD event in one of my games (what's left of it) and reading a book. I may also do something with my mom since she's sick and stuck at home with me, but we'll see.
She says thanks, that's sweet. XD
We're cooking dinner together and I bought a chocolate cake for the dessert.Hello people.
Out of curiosity, what are you doing tomorrow with your partners? Did you plan something?
Also, single people can say what they're going to do tomorrow, it's Friday so some of you may go to a bar or something 🤷
I swear each year is worse than the last for me. I have to move soon again...and what makes it worst is that I owe a lot in taxes, so much that it's almost half of my savings. No one seems to want to help except this religious person at my job offered her place but I'm afraid even that won't be an option if she finds put I'm part of the LGBTQ+ community. I've been homeless before and while I'd rather find any alternative I guess it won't be all bad...I just hate putting my cat in a shelter because the street is no place for him but he is also very scared of any human that isn't me.
California bay area with my brother but it's temporary. Like probably until March temporary. I don't make enough to rent on my own and people never even respond when I go through room mate ads. Most people are just telling me good luck and that's it. What'll probably happen is I'll be on the street again and I'll just have to find something for my cat. Sucks but if I survived it once I can do it again. My birthday is soon, what a great birthday present. So glad Im on medication because I don't think I could handle this alone.